Innholdsfortegnelse for 20-Jul-17 i You South Africa

I READ the gut-wrenching post Sheryl Sandberg wrote on Face-book when her husband died. I had to brush away tears several times as I read her outpouring of grief over losing the man she loved. I’m quite a private person so I couldn’t believe she was sharing so much of her heartache with the world. Yet when I read the many comments, I saw the difference her post made to others who’d lost a loved one. People revealed how much they wanted to talk about the person they’d lost and how friends avoided them. Sheryl received so much praise for sharing her pain and that was so amazing to me because I couldn’t imagine opening up like that. Someone recently told me that to reveal of yourself is to make…

The sooner everyone accepts that girls and women don’t fall pregnant by themselves but are impregnated by boys and men – who, more often than not, either refuse to wear condoms or commit rape – the sooner we’ll see a decrease in unwanted and teen pregnancies. Society expects the woman to be the sole bearer of responsibility and consequence for unprotected sex and doesn’t require boys and men to take care of their own fertility. As long as boys are allowed to “be boys” and girls are the only ones who make “the mistake” the epidemic will worsen. Talk to boys; insist they wear a condom every time. Talk to men and let them take responsibility for the prevention of pregnancies. Let them have vasectomies when they’ve “sown their wild…

‘I knew I couldn’t be where I was for another 10 years’ SHE rushes into the restaurant, giant coffee cup in hand, and apologises for being a few minutes late. Life has been a whirlwind since she hung up her microphone at talk radio station 702 after 12 years on air and everybody’s been wanting a piece of her. “Thank heavens for coffee,” Redi Tlhabi says, taking a sip. “I need two cups back-to-back before I start thinking!” Eyes across the eatery in Hyde Park, Johannesburg, swivel towards her as she settles down. She might be a radio star but after all these years in the game her face is as recognisable as her voice. The feisty broadcaster’s many fans were heartbroken when she announced she was leaving the station…

EGG MYTHS DEBUNKED MYTH 1 Eggs are unhealthy. FACT Some experts consider eggs a superfood, which means they’re especially nutritious. Egg protein contains nine essential amino acids our bodies can’t produce and have to obtain through diet. Eggs are healthy. MYTH 2 You shouldn’t eat more than two eggs a week. FACT If you eat a balanced diet and have no dietary restrictions you can eat up to two eggs a day. MYTH 3 Eggs cause weight gain. FACT Eggs have few kilojoules for the quality and quantity of their nutrients. Eggs eaten as part of a balanced diet – combined with regular exercise – can even promote weight loss. MYTH 4 Eggs contain only protein and fat. FACT Eggs also contain vitamin B12, vitamin B6, vitamin B5, vitamin A…

CUTICLES Dry, ragged cuticles are often caused by cold weather. Not only are they unsightly, they can also be painful – so keep your cuticles hydrated by rubbing cuticle oil on them daily. Take these steps to get them in tip-top shape. 1 Soak a small towel in warm water, wring out the excess water then wrap the towel around your hands. 2 Keep the towel wrapped around your hands for about five minutes. 3 Using a cuticle pusher, gently nudge each cuticle back towards the nail bed. Be gentle – this shouldn’t be a painful experience. 4 Once you’ve pushed back your cuticles, use a cuticle cutter to trim the excess skin. Be careful not to cut too close as this could cause bleeding. 5 Rub cuticle oil on…

FAMOUS BIRTHDAYS FOR HAPPINESS AND HEALTH: CANCER SHOULD . . . Feed their physical, spiritual and emotional needs. Find something or someone to nurture and protect. Turn their house into a home – it’s their haven. Retreat as often as is possible. Do whatever it takes to feel emotionally secure. Reminisce about the past. Spend time with their family. CANCER JUNE 21 – JULY 21 Keep moving forward instead of retreating Unexpected professional demands and obligations appearing out of the blue can rock your boat, especially during the first half of the week. This might be stressful but you’ll soon enter calmer waters. Hard work and determination during this period is sure to build character – keep moving forward instead of retreating. Make hay while the Sun shines in your…

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SOPHIE TURNER/SANSA STARK FARM GIRL “I didn’t know [TV network] HBO, I didn’t know George RR Martin – I barely knew what TV was!” says Sophie (21), who grew up on a farm in Northampton, England, and landed the role of Sansa Stark at 13. “We used to muck around in the mud.” Now she’s joined the ranks of in-demand actresses and starred as a teenage Jean Grey in X-Men: Apocalypse last year – a role she’ll reprise in future instalments. SISTERS IN ARMS She says she might not have stuck with acting were it not for the reassuring influence of Maisie Williams, who plays her sister and has become a close friend. “To have someone who understands what you’re going through, who’s the same age, who comes from the…

LISTEN TO THIS! MELODRAMA Lorde The Royals hitmaker finally released her second album. If you like the singles Green Light and Perfect Places you’ll definitely want to get your hands on the Kiwi star’s latest offering. Lorde was just 16 when her debut album, Pure Heroine, was released. Now 20, this is her coming-of-age record and basically the soundtrack to her life. The songs were written in the wake of her first big breakup. “It’s about being alone, the good parts and the bad parts”, she says. It’s a mature offering, and the songwriting, heart-wrenching lyrics, infectious hooks and signature raspy vocals make this a true standout pop album. NEW ON THE BIG SCREEN / SPIDER-MAN: HOMECOMING SCI-FI ACTION. With TOM HOLLAND and MICHAEL KEATON. Director: JON WATTS. 10-12PG LV.…

JO-ANN STRAUSS (36) The former Miss SA has been hitting all the right fashion notes in Berlin as she takes in Mercedes-Benz Fashion Week. SUE (34) AND ISABELLA DUMINY (1) The adorable mother-daughter duo are making the best of dad JP’s schedule as the Proteas tour England. Sue shared pictures of the pair dressed casually and enjoying the summer sun. LEE-ANN LIEBENBERG (34), NICKY VAN DER WALT (36) AND DAUGHTERS GIA (6) AND GABRIELLA (3) The family have been enjoying an envy-inducing break on the Spanish island of Ibiza. The businessman and his model wife also made time for a sexy date night on the island.…

THEY’RE the friendliest exes in Hollywood but we wonder how JENNIFER GARNER feels about her estranged hubby BEN AFFLECK’s relationship with Saturday Night Live producer LINDSAY SHOOKUS. The couple were recently spotted on a dinner date in Los Angeles and it’s reportedly not the first time they’ve hooked up. Rumour has it they had a full-blown affair while they were still married to their respective partners! Jen (45) and Lindsay’s ex-husband, Kevin Miller, were devastated when they discovered the affair in 2015, Us Weekly reports. Ben and Jen split in June that year after a 10-year marriage. “The affair started about three years ago, just a few months after Lindsay became a mom,” an insider close to Ben and Jen says. “They had a full-blown affair. They were sleeping together,…

Does anyone else think 7de Laan’s Matt (David Dukas) looks like Rock Hudson? NADYA, SMS Thanks for the article on anodontia (YOU, 6 July). My daughter has total anodontia and my son and grandson have partial anodontia. No one has given it a name before. My daughter has lost all her teeth now and goes without them. ENLIGHTENED, SMS When you join the gym you have to make sure you sign up your kids as well. If children are active, their listening skills and sleep improve and they’re less susceptible to metabolic disease. ON THE MOVE, SMS I’d like to ask e.tv why it’s taking The Young And The Restless off the air. There’s hardly anything to watch now. I feel like cancelling my TV licence. IRENE, SMS Why should…

HE PERCHES on a couch in the lounge of an upmarket Johannesburg hotel, a Louis Vuitton bag on his arm and two cellphones at hand. One he places next to him and the other he uses to respond to texts, his fingers flitting over the keyboard. His schedule is jam-packed, Somizi Mhlongo says – in fact his year is already fully booked. His day starts at 3 am and he often doesn’t get home before 10.30 pm. And life has only become more hectic since the release of his memoir, Dominoes: Unbreakable Spirit. He yawns. “As you can see it’s really tiring,” he says. “It’s really taxing in terms of my energy levels.” His book is the reason we’re here today. It details the highs and lows of Somizi’s life…

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THURSDAY HIGH STRUNG ★★★ 2016, 96 min, PG, M-Net Satellite 08:10, M-Net Decoder 08:30. Dance movie. A violin-playing busker and a classically trained ballerina have to work together to win a competition. Keenan Kampa. MANDELA: LONG WALK TO FREEDOM ★★★ 2013, 141 min, PG13, e.tv, 20:30. Biopic. A look at the life of Nelson Mandela, the first democratically elected president of South Africa. Idris Elba, Naomie Harris. DETENTION ★★★ 2011, 93 min, 16VSNL, e.tv, 23:30 & 03:10. Horror comedy. A group of high school students in detention try to figure out which one of them murdered a classmate. Josh Hutcherson, Shanley Caswell. RIOT★★★ 1997, 90 min, 16V, e.tv, 01:25. True-life drama. In 1992 a series of riots erupt on the streets of Los Angeles after five white policemen are acquitted…

ELEANOR OLIPHANT IS COMPLETELY FINE By GAIL HONEYMAN, HarperCollins Eleanor Oliphant says she’s completely fine. She’s 30, has her own flat and a job as a finance clerk in Glasgow, likes making pasta for supper and chats to Mummy by phone on Wednesdays. But she also drinks two bottles of vodka every weekend and doesn’t speak to anyone until she returns to work on Monday – so clearly she isn’t as okay as she makes out. Eleanor has no social skills, makes quick judgments about people, says whatever she’s thinking and is precise and curt to the point of rudeness – sometimes rather comically. But her life starts changing when two things happen: she becomes infatuated with a local singer; and she and a colleague, Raymond, help an old man…

He’s best known as one third of Bad And Boujee hitmakers Migos, but this US rapper is also making his mark in his own right. Apart from releasing his debut solo album, ATL, he recently had a whopping five collaboration tracks on the US Billboard Hot 100 singles chart! Check this lowdown on one of the hottest rappers in the game right now. 1 these Quavo days ’s name . He is guested everywhere on numerous hits over the past few months, from DJ Khaled’s No 1 smash I’m The One (Quavo came up with his verse in five minutes) to One Directioner Liam Payne’s solo debut single, Strip That Down. 2 birthname The 26-year is -old Quavious rapper Keyate ’s Marshall. 3 He mates ’s related – he’s to…

IT’S been 18 months since the death of her husband left her desolate – but it seems a new day has finally come for Céline Dion. Gone is the black-clad widow with sad eyes – the 49-year-old songbird is picking up the pieces in the wake of her heartbreak and throwing herself back into her career and the spotlight with gusto. The French-Canadian beauty had tongues wagging recently with a sultry nude photo shared online by fashion bible Vogue. With her signature tousled honey-coloured tresses and dark smoky-eye make-up, the mother of three posed seductively in a chair with her slim arms and lithe legs strategically folded to protect her modesty. The snap was taken backstage between shows at Paris Couture Week, where Vogue followed the singer from show to…

SHOP TALK I THOUGHT I’d share this letter from my cousin Johan, who wrote it from Norway where he’s on holiday: “Today I did something I haven’t done before. In nine hours you can run a standard marathon or complete the Cape Town cycle tour. So what did I do in my nine hours? I went shopping with my wife and daughter. “Shopping isn’t something husbands and wives should do together. Evolution has resulted in a different skill set for each. Men were hunters. When they went out it was with a single-minded purpose: to kill their prey in the shortest time with the least expenditure of energy. That allowed them to return home to exaggerate the difficulty of the hunt, boast about their bravery and do what they do…

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HER smile is almost as bright as her shock of pink hair. It’s clear she’s not afraid of being noticed. Yet there was a time when she was too shy to show her face – or rather her 208-kg body – in public. Marianda Geel couldn’t bear the stares and unkind remarks people made when they saw her large frame. But now it’s a different story – she’s lost more than half her body weight, a whopping 123 kg, in five years. The 49-year-old looks confident when she welcomes us into her home in Kuils River, Cape Town. In the framed family pictures on the wall Marianda’s husband, Sweeney (48), a sales consultant, and their son, Matthys (23), who works at a call centre, frequently appear with a much larger…

1 CARROT AND SWEET POTATO SOUP WITH CARAMELISED ONION Smoked paprika adds a delicious flavour to this soup. MAKES 2,5 litres Preparation: 15 min Cooking: 30 min 30 ml (2 T) olive oil 1 onion, chopped 2 garlic cloves, crushed 700 g carrots, peeled and chopped 300 g orange sweet potatoes, peeled and diced 45 ml (3 T) balsamic vinegar salt 5 ml (1 t) ground cumin 5 ml (1 t) ground coriander 2 ml (½ t) smoked paprika (or plain) handful of chopped fresh coriander 1 litre (4 c) chicken stock TOPPING 45 ml (3 T) olive oil 3-4 onions, thinly sliced 5 ml (1 t) cumin seeds 5 ml (1 t) mustard seeds pinch of brown sugar 15-30 ml (1-2 T) chopped fresh coriander and/or parsley TO SERVE…

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‘Learning to trust is one of life’s most difficult tasks’ – ENGLISH THEOLOGIAN ISAAC WATTS I’VE ONLY STAYED FOR MY CHILDREN Q I’m 39 and I have two boys. I was happy in my marriage until my husband started cheating when our kids were in primary school. One of my sons is now in high school and the other is at college – and my husband is still cheating. He keeps telling me he’s sorry but I’ve had enough. We’ve been together for 20 years and it’s hard for me to be with him now. I’ve only stayed in the marriage for the sake of the children. He’s a preacher at church and doesn’t want me to leave him, but he refuses to see someone to help him with his…

IF YOU’VE been with the same bank forever, you might be losing out on lower bank charges, better service and loyalty benefits elsewhere. Don’t let the admin scare you off switching banks – it’s much easier these days thanks to greater competition between banks. In many cases the new bank will happily do the administration for you – they’ll even courier the application to you or you can fill it out electronically. Banks usually announce their fee hikes in July, so now’s a good time to decide if your bank still meets your needs. STEP 1 BEFORE YOU MAKE THE MOVE 1 Don’t switch just because another bank account looks more promising. It’s important to choose an account that fits your banking habits. For instance, do you mostly do transactions…

How could she get back at the rotten thief who’d stolen her food? EMILY checked her watch. She looked at the clock on the wall. She smiled, sighed, took off her headset and put it down on her cubicle desk. Twelve-forty-five at last, lunchtime. An entire hour of her own, to get away from the noisy, stuffy office and enjoy her lunch outside in the warm spring air. She had just the park bench picked out, where she’d leisurely consume and digest the egg mayo sandwich, slice of cheddar cheese, apple and three squares of dark chocolate she’d bagged the night before. She got up from her desk, feeling like she could now easily make it through the rest of the hectic day with a good lunch tucked away and…

REAL-LIFE INSPIRATION Dance was inspired by Janie’s boyfriend of three years, musician Deon Volschenk (24). “It’s pretty much about how I love to do life with him,” she says. Deon is a guitarist for local muso Jo Black. SMALL-TOWN GAL Janie lives in Pretoria but grew up in Strand in the Western Cape. “It was a bit of a smalltown vibe and I enjoyed growing up there. One fond memory is the music my mom [Annette] and late dad [Jan] used to listen to and how it’s influenced me today.” IN ANOTHER LIFE . . . “If I weren’t a musician I’d be a personal trainer. I love the fitness world and being healthy.” PUNK ROCKER When she was 15, Janie started a band, Divinyls, with her brother, Theunis, and two…

CRADLING one of his newborn twins, he grins down at his eldest son, who beams up at him while balancing the other tiny tot on his lap. With a famous footballer father and a big brother to watch over them, the month-old twins truly are “blessed” – as their dad captioned the sweet snap. Cristiano Ronaldo recently shared the picture with his 105 million Instagram followers while on holiday with his newly expanded brood. But there was someone conspicuously absent from the photo: the 32-year-old Real Madrid hero’s girlfriend, Georgina Rodriguez (22), who’s rumoured to be five months pregnant with Ronaldo’s fourth child. Ronaldo’s growing collection of kids has had critics flooding his social media feeds with nasty comments. “Did he have these and pay the mom to go away…

It’s definitely shaping up to be TUMI MORAKE’s year. In just a few short months she’s appeared on Mzansi Magic’s hit telenovela The Queen, hosted the Samas alongside Somizi Mhlongo, landed the breakfast show on Jacaranda FM – and now she has her own talk show. On #WTFTumi the 35-year-old comedian gets everyone from politicians to celebs and sports stars to make light of their lives. We flipped the script and asked Tumi a few “tough” questions. Would you rather . . . Be stuck in a lift with DA leader Mmusi Maimane or EFF parliamentarian Mbuyiseni Ndlozi? Mbuyiseni Ndlozi Give up Twitter or Instagram? Instagram Go without your phone or your husband for a month? My phone! Be the funniest person in the room or the most intelligent? The…

Will we ever see the release of a rap album without a side of beef? JAY-Z’s 4:44 was recently unleashed on the world to acclaim, controversy and inevitable disses. The 47-year-old rapper’s album, which went platinum almost instantly, was analysed and criticised by many, including rapper and actor 50 CENT, who offered this insight on Instagram: “I listened to Jay’s s**t, that 4:44. I thought the s**t was alright, you know? I liked the s**t but I’m a keep it 100 [honest]: the s**t was a little too smart. I felt like I was supposed to be wearing like glasses and s**t and tie like a sweater around my waist.” But theirs isn’t the only nor the most epic rap beef. Here’s a look at some other rap battles. 50…

Molly Sims’ son Brooks turns 5 Actress MOLLY SIMS (44) and her film producer husband, SCOTT STUBER (48), threw their son BROOKS (5) a superhero party. They also have a daughter, SCARLETT (2), and six-month-old son, GREY. Molly, who says she went “from living out of a suitcase to planning birthday parties and soccer dates”, is promoting her new book on entertaining and organising, Everyday Chic. Jessica Simpson’s son Ace turns 4 JESSICA SIMPSON sure knows how to throw a party! The 37-year-old singer and fashion designer’s son, ACE, had an epic Moana-themed party for his fourth birthday. They even hired actors to play the Disney movie characters Moana and Maui! The whole Simpson clan got in on the fun – Jessica, her hubby, former American football player ERIC JOHNSON…

Coldplay rocker CHRIS MARTIN (40) has bounced back from his failed relationship with actress Annabelle Wallis (32). Gwyneth Pal-trow’s ex-hubby was seen locking lips with pop starlet Dua Lipa (21) at the recent Glastonbury festival. “Loads of people were around at the time, and they were openly making out,” a source says. The musos collaborated on Dua’s track Homesick. TIGER WOODS is out of the woods . . . for now. The former No 1 golfer (41) has completed an intensive programme to manage his prescription meds problem. The star was arrested in May after cops found him asleep at the wheel of his car in Jupiter, Florida. Apparently he did the rehab stint to keep joint custody of his daughter, Sam (10), and son, Charlie (8), with ex-wife Elin…

PREMIOS JUVENTUD 2017 Maluma (left) and Marc Anthony opened US Spanish-language channel Univision’s Premios Juventud (“youth awards”) in Coral Gables, Florida in the US, with a salsa rendition of Maluma’s song Felices Los 4. Singer Jennifer Hudson, who’s joined the US version of The Voice, was sexy in a leather minidress at the Stand Up To Cancer concert in Miami Beach, Florida. Meet the “queen of Ibiza” – socialite Paris Hilton hit up the party island for DJ duties with her boyfriend, The Leftovers actor Chris Zylka. “Be with someone who looks at you like you’re magic,” she captioned this snap of them on Instagram. Singer Robbie Williams has admitted to using Botox to turn back time so it’s no wonder his fresh-faced features set tongues wagging when he and…