Innholdsfortegnelse for 25-May-17 i You South Africa

WORKING in a newsroom is like being on an emotional roller-coaster – you don’t know what stories will hit while you’re putting the magazine together and what effect they’ll have. You can feel warm and fuzzy one minute – Trevor Noah’s rise to the top (page 102) and Chad le Clos (page 98) showing his new pad are two of those in this issue. And in the next, you’re devastated, as was the case when we read about Karabo Mokoena’s horrific death and her family’s heartache (page 10). There are also stories that will have your jaw drop or eyebrows raised (don’t miss the meatless burger piece on page 88 and what mistresses have to say on page 16). As always, we love it when you tell us what you…

To the letter writer Driving who said he was “enforcing the law” by sitting in the right-hand lane at 120 km/h (YOU Say, 27 April), allow me some observations. If you were to move out of the right-hand lane for a moment, you would see those really big blue signs on the left side of the highway – you know, the ones that say in huge letters, “Keep left, overtake right.” So actually, it’s you who’s not obeying the rule of the road! You have no idea why the motorist behind you may be choosing to break the speed limit – it may be that they are dealing with a life-or-death emergency, and you may cause another person’s death with your smugness. I realise that isn’t the case every time,…

CLUSTERS of sombre-looking family, neighbours and friends gather in the spacious lounge of the house in Diepkloof, Soweto, talking in hushed voices. A long table pushed against a wall offers tea, coffee and homemade fat cakes to sympathisers who’ve been filing into the Mokoena home since early morning. A short passage from the lounge leads to a bedroom where a grief-stricken Lollo Mokoena sits hunched on a mattress on the floor, her mother-in-law, Elizabeth Mokoena, trying to console her. It’s the day before Mother’s Day – a day Lollo should be celebrating. Instead she’s mourning the brutal murder of her only daughter, Karabo – a death that shocked Mzansi and thrust the incidence of male-on-female abuse back into the spotlight. Karabo (22) was allegedly killed by her 27-year-old forex trader…

HE WAS used to having his colleagues hanging on his every word – after all, as director of the Federal Bureau of Investigation (FBI), James Comey had access to a treasure trove of secrets and juicy gossip. But as he stood addressing staff earlier this month he could see their attention was elsewhere. Instead of listening to him they were staring in disbelief at the television screen behind him, which was on mute. When Comey (56) turned around and saw what it was he couldn’t believe his eyes. At first he thought it must be a prank. There running across the screen was a breaking news alert announcing he’d just been fired. It turned out to be no joke. Although it was Comey’s job to know all the nation’s secrets…

ASSEMBLE YOUR CHEESEBOARD THIS WAY Cheese is divided into four types so make sure your board has at least one of each. A savoury board includes crackers, meats, olives, pickles and veggie sticks. A sweet one has fruit, preserves, nuts, biscotti and cake. HARD Well-matured hard cheese has an umami flavour and its texture changes from firm and smooth to crumbly. The more mature cheddar gets, the more sharp-flavoured and crumbly it becomes. It should age for at least six months to qualify as mature. Mature Gouda has a black rind. Pecorino is a cheaper version of Parmesan but with a sharper flavour. It’s delicious with pasta, salads and topped with honey for dessert. Double Gloucester has a firm, flaky texture but isn’t as crumbly as cheddar. It has a…

Old age is like everything else – to make a success of it, you’ve got to start young – THEODORE ROOSEVELT, FORMER US PRESIDENT I’M TOO YOUNG Many people in their twenties think they’re too young to start saving for retirement. But in the long term, waiting a few years can make a big difference. If you start to put away R1 000 a month at the age of 25 and your savings earn 12 percent interest, you’ll have saved about R5,96 million for your retirement by age 55. But if you start five years later your savings at age 55 would be worth only R3,07 million, explains Tandisizwe Mahlutshana of PPS Investments. I’LL SELL MY HOME You might think you could sell your home one day and…

CANCER JUNE 21 – JULY 21  If you’re a true Cancer, chances are you need to spend a considerable amount of time by yourself – a need that’s amplified this week. Whether you need to contemplate, go off on a retreat or just relax to restore body and mind, it’s an apt period to withdraw from the rat-race and make yourself scarce. As it is, it’s not a particularly good week for interacting with others – all the more reason to abscond. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 13, 41, 33, 25, 36, 15 LEO JULY 22 – AUG 22  It’s a week to promote your leadership talents in a group context. Try to make good use of your position at work or in society to inspire and motivate others. On another tack,…

LISTEN TO THIS! FINDING SANITY HATCHETMAN Cape Town indie band Hatchetman have been gaining traction over the past few years with their acoustic sound, catchy tunes and the magical Crosby, Stills & Nash-inspired vocal harmonies of guitarist and songwriter Jono Tait and brothers Nick (bass) and Matt Catto (percussion). Aided by Steph Corneloup (guitar and piano), their debut album combines folk, blues and rock styles and adds electric guitars to their sound. Fans of bands like The Lumineers will find loads to admire here. – PETRUS MALHERBE NEW ON THE BIG SCREEN / GUARDIANS OF THE GALAXY VOL. 2 SCI-FI ACTION. With CHRIS PRATT and ZOE SALDANA. Director: JAMES GUNN. 10-12PG LV. In SA cinemas now. The first Guardians Of The Galaxy (2014) was a delightfully quirky surprise – an…

MIXED ROOTS Starley (29) was born Starley Hope in Sydney, Australia. “My mom’s half Aussie, quarter Japanese, quarter Filipino. Dad is Mauritian,” she’s revealed on Instagram. MOVIEINSPIRATION SHE DREAMT OF BECOMING A SINGER AFTER SEEING THE 1987 FILM LA BAMBA. STARLEY WAS SO OBSESSED WITH THIS BIOPIC – ABOUT MEXICANAMERICAN ROCK LEGEND RITCHIE VALENS – THAT SHE RENTED IT EVERY WEEK FOR MONTHS! TOUGHTIMES STARLEY STARTED MAKING MUSIC WHEN SHE WAS JUST 14. SHE INITIALLY STRUGGLED TO FIND HER FEET IN THE INDUSTRY. “RECORD LABELS WOULD TELL ME TO STRAIGHTEN MY HAIR OR LOSE WEIGHT,” SHE SAYS. MEANT TO BE Starley almost quit music but decided to write one last song – Call On Me – in her bedroom. “It was as if I’d created my own lighthouse – a…

1 DATING A SUPERMODEL ASAP and Kendall Jenner (21) are officially an item! Sources say the 28-year-old rapper thinks Kendall is “the full package – smart, beautiful, successful and pretty chill. He’s crazy about her”. And the reality star feels the same way, they add. “Kendall loves that he’s established in his career, has a life of his own and a circle of friends that are very different to hers.” 2 FASHION FORWARD He’s been dubbed the male Rihanna thanks to his daring fashion style. From tracksuits paired with blazers to skinny jeans and leather jackets – he rocks them all. Now he’s collaborating with Guess for the brand’s 36th birthday. “Once you get to a place where you’re into fashion, you’re like, ‘Man, I wish I were in control…

‘This is a dream I never dared to dream’ HE WAS hand-picked by Jon Stewart to take over the hot seat – but America wasn’t amused when the unknown comedian from South Africa was announced as the stalwart’s successor on The Daily Show in 2015. “Who on earth is this guy?” was the general feeling among viewers of the popular talk show when our Trevor Noah took the reins. “He’s not funny,” critics complained. But fast-forward two years and they’re singing a different tune. The Soweto-born comedian (33) used his sharp wit and keen sense of humour to win America over. He cinched the GLAAD Media Award for outstanding talk show, and beat beloved talk-show host Ellen DeGeneres to win the best host trophy at the recent MTV Movie &…

I thought I’d share this photograph of my granddaughter Shayla wearing the jersey I knitted her last year from a pattern I found in YOU. She loves it so much. KATHY McKENZIE, BENONI I want to wake in the mornings wrapped in the arms of a man who’ll be content to hold me, kiss my hair and watch me sleep. Someone who’ll eat with me, drink with me and cry with me. A man who’ll simply gaze at me with love. This is my wish, my prayer and my hope. JAN, EMAIL No more Nobel Prize winners for South African leaders. I was just watching an advert that featured the amazing street that gave South Africa two wonderful leaders. How sad that our wonderful country can’t produce more heroes. KATHY…

5JULY2016 Comey announces he won’t recommend criminal charges against Hillary Clinton in the email probe but describe her as “extremely careless” for handling classified material using a private email server. At an election rally Trump says, “We have a rigged system, folks.” 3 OCTOBER Cops seize the laptop of Anthony Weiner, spouse of Clinton’s aide Huma Abedin, to look into his alleged sexting to a minor. On it are emails between Clinton and Abedin. 7 OCTOBER The Obama administration officially accuses Russia of meddling in the 2016 presidential election. 28 OCTOBER Eleven days before the election Comey tells congressional leaders about the emails on Weiner’s laptop, which might justify reopening the Clinton investigation. 6 NOVEMBER Comey announces his department has found nothing to justify seeking charges against Clinton. 9 NOVEMBER…

UNFIT, overweight, undisciplined, chain-smoking – he’s the antithesis of the modern sportsman. But that’s probably why people like old “Long John” so much. Despite his flaws, John Daly is a golfing force to be reckoned with and pundits believe few players have as much raw talent as the colourful 51-year-old. He proved this recently when he won big at the Insperity Invitational in Texas, USA, his first PGA (Professional Golfers’ Association) tournament in 13 years. “It wasn’t pretty at the end but hey, a win’s a win,” said John, wackily clad as ever in the Stars and Stripes. Esteban Toledo, his friend and fellow golfer, doused him with champagne while Anna Cladakis, his caddy and the woman soon to become his fifth wife, stormed towards him in matching Stars and…

1 Do I save enough through my work? A maximum of 27,5 percent of retirement fund members’ salaries can be saved for retirement, but in 2016 the average contribution of employers and members were 15,92 percent in total. 2 Who should I ask for advice? Your standard of living during retirement depends on how you plan for it now – so get professional advice from a qualified adviser who can analyse your needs and devise a tailor-made plan for you. 3 Am I too old? You’re never too old to start saving; better now than never. Save as much as you can for your retirement. Scale down on spending and save money. If you’ve reached retirement age with your employer, look around for other work so you can keep earning…

Go with the flow and keep a low profile this week This could be a tricky week, especially if you’re a Gemini who enjoys freedom of movement. Whether it’s the love of your life who’s trying to pin you down, a boss who’s keeping you on a short leash or friends who want to direct your course, you might feel somewhat hemmed in. Since it’s no week to make light of relationship issues, it’s probably best to go with the flow and keep a low profile. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 32, 7, 42, 38, 16, 29 FAMOUS BIRTHDAYS GEMINI IN ESSENCE . . . Is the messenger of the Zodiac. Needs people to chat to, places to go to and things to do. Keeps their options open. Could be a jack…

The Compton rapper is ruling the charts with his fourth hit album, Damn. 1 disc Kendrick topped (29 the ) is US quite Billboard the hitmaker 200 album ! His latest chart, all 14 tracks on it charted on the Billboard Hot 100 singles chart and he made Billboard history when he became the first artist to score nine concurrent songs in the top 10 of Billboard’s On-Demand Streaming Songs chart. His catchy tune Humble also landed him his first No 1 as a solo artist on the Billboard Hot 100 chart. 2 collabs The album with is big a star names -studded like Rihanna affair with and U2. 3 ( While 2015) his , focused previous on album the state , To of Pimp the A world Butterfly ,…

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A RED tide is actually an algal bloom – a natural phenomenon in which coastal waters or an inland sea changes colour due to concentrated algae growth. When the water turns rust-brown or red it’s called a red tide – even though it’s not actually a tide – but it can also turn brown, purple, green or yellow. These colourations aren’t all harmful to the animals that live in the water, but red tide is a harmful algal bloom that can poison shellfish and other marine life. WHAT CAUSES RED TIDE? Seawater contains tiny plant-like organisms called algae. These organisms are so small they’re usually visible only under a microscope. Under certain conditions algae called dinoflagellates can suddenly drastically increase in number. These conditions cause the algae to “bloom”. During…

In a recent article in a British newspaper former Top Gear motormouth Jeremy Clarkson offered a suggestion for tackling the global-warming problems caused by livestock: instead of eating cattle, eat a vegetarian. So how would he react to the Impossible burger when encountering it alongside a regular burger in a blind trial at one of his favourite restaurants in London? To be fair it should be pointed out that the vegetarian burger looked distinctly jet-lagged by the time it arrived in London after an unrefrigerated 10-hour flight from Los Angeles. Chefs at the diner did their best to pep it up but it was clear it had seen better days. Clarkson began the test with a series of excuses, explaining that his taste buds might trick him into making the…

IN A world of awesome abs and #booty-gains selfies, fitspo-inspired people seem to be on every social media platform they can get their weight-lifting, kettle-bell swinging hands on. From Aussie fitness sensation Kayla Itsines to perfectly proportioned fitness model Emily Skye, internet stars peddle messages of body-love – while sharing snaps of their ultra-lithe figures in teeny workout outfits with their legions of fans. But every once in a while, a voice many can relate to joins the fray – like that of Cape Town girl-next-door Tracey-Lee Lusty. The 25-year-old family law attorney started her Instagram fitness account on 1 January 2016, when she weighed 109,3 kg. She’d battled with her weight since she was a little girl, trying out crash diets and losing up to 15 kg in months,…

It’s Sonny in the Mother City! All Blacks centre SONNY BILL WILLIAMS was delighted to be in Cape Town recently with his Blues teammates ahead of their game against the Stormers at Newlands rugby stadium. There was a chance the 31-year-old rugby player – and heavyweight boxer – would miss the match after suffering a concussion during a Super Rugby game in Sydney, Australia, but he was declared fit for the trip in the nick of time. Sonny posted pics on Instagram of himself with fans in Camps Bay and with cricketer Wayne Parnell (27), whom he calls his “brother”. The New Zealand rugby player and Proteas fast bowler have both converted to Islam. “It’s made me become content as a man, and helped me to grow. It’s definitely helped…

I BEAT MY ADDICTION FEW people get as many chances as I once had, and I successfully managed to mess up each and every one. For many years I was addicted to prescription drugs, living in my own world and taking little or no responsibility for anything in my life. With no hope left, I was considering suicide when a friend called me out of the blue and said I’d been on her mind and she felt she needed to call. That was six years ago. One thing led to another and I can now say that I’m happy, drug-free and enjoying all the blessings life has to offer. Any addiction starts and ends with a choice. I’ve experienced the highest of highs and the lowest of lows, and I…

IT’S a love triangle that ticks all the titillating boxes – a high-powered man, a take-no-prisoners wife and a bootylicious bit on the side. Add social media into the mix and a volley of outrageous tweets and you have a story the whole country’s talking about. This was the case recently when Nomachule “Norma” Gigaba (36), wife of finance minister Malusi Gigaba (45), mentioned the rumoured 2015 affair between her husband and Buhle Mkhize, a glamorous 30-something businesswoman who’s believed to live in New York. In a recent TV interview Norma was asked about the alleged affair and said dealing with the allegations had made her stronger. But she added it had been hard on her elderly parents, especially as the stories had begun shortly after she and Malusi were…

HAM CROQUETTES MAKES ABOUT 12 Preparation: 20 min Cooling: 3 hours and 30 min or overnight Cooking: 20 min CROQUETTES 15 ml (1 T) olive oil 1 onion, chopped 100 g ham, cubed 100 g butter 180 ml (¾ c) flour 625 ml (2 ½ c) milk 1 ml (¼ t) nutmeg 250 ml (1 c) grated cheddar cheese salt and freshly ground pepper CRUMBS 125 ml (½ c) flour + extra 2 eggs, whisked 250 ml (1 c) coarse breadcrumbs TO FINISH oil for deep frying Line a shallow dish with clingflim and grease with nonstick spray. 1 Croquettes Heat the olive oil in a saucepan and fry the onion until golden brown. Add the ham and stir-fry for a minute. 2 Add the butter and heat until melted.…

Velvet  From royal blues and dark plums to sportswear and embellished accessories, velvet is at the top of our winter wardrobe list this year Satin  Satin is no longer only for a night out. It can now be worn to the office or on a lunch date with the girls. A satin blouse tucked into flared pants adds luxury to everyday wear Sheer fabric  You can still wear a plunging neckline or dress with a wrap- effect front in winter. To stay warm, wear it with a turtleneck or poloneck underneath in neutral tones Pleather You can make pleather leggings romantic by wearing it with a flowing dress. Sensual velvet is also perfect with this fabric STOCKISTS ACKERMANS 0860-900-100, COLETTE BY COLETTE HAYMAN 021-937-5436, EXACT 0860-005-439, FOSCHINI 0860-104-764, H&M 021-826-7300,…

‘Work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. The other four balls – family, health, friends, integrity – are made of glass’ – SELF-HELP WRITER GARY KELLER WHY AM I ALWAYS THE PROBLEM? Q I met my husband 12 years ago and we got married 10 years later. I have a 14-year-old son from a previous marriage – my first husband died in an accident. We live in a Wendy house in someone’s backyard and my husband usually pays the rent, while I pay for groceries and whatever my son needs. But I can only contribute so much – mainly what I get as tips. My husband earns a salary and I get a small grant that goes into the house. Every now and then…

UNTIL Andrius Burba, 24, from Lithuania had the brainwave, only an unlucky few had seen a horse from underneath – and the view would have been the least of their worries. Snaps of fluffy rabbits, cats, dogs and horses show an extraordinary side to our favourite animals that we don’t usually get to see – a side Andrius thinks they’d rather keep hidden. MILI THE MATCHMAKER (AND BRIDESMAID) A pooch who brought her owners together was chief bridesmaid at a last-minute wedding planned in less than a week after the bride was diagnosed with a terminal illness. Guest of honour Mili (12) lovingly looked on as owner Nicole Wakefield (56) got hitched to her long-term partner, Arfon Williams (61), recently. The couple, from Llanfairfechan, North Wales, planned the fast-track nuptials…

TEACHING A DOG NEW TRICKS A woman calls an airline customer-service desk and asks if she can take her dog on board. “Sure,” the assistant says, “as long as you provide your own kennel.” He explains that the kennel must be large enough for the dog to be able to stand up, sit down, turn around and roll over. The woman is flummoxed. “That’s impossible,” she says, “I’ll never be able to teach my dog all of that by tomorrow!” TIMING IS EVERYTHING A couple are on holiday when the wife calls a restaurant to make a dinner reservation for 7 pm. Checking her book, the cheery young restaurant hostess says, “I’m sorry, all we have is 6.45 pm. Would you like that?” “That’s fine,” the wife says. “Okay,” the…

1 AWARD WINNER Tracee (44) recently landed a Golden Globe for her portrayal of Dr Rainbow Johnson, a biracial anaesthesiologist in the award-winning sitcom Black-ish. In the show Rainbow’s hubby, Andre (Anthony Anderson), struggles to keep his middle-class family in touch with their black cultural identity. The actress says the show explores “weighty, sticky, sharp topics” in a funny way – and without making fun of the topic. “The show is genius,” she says. “It’s not about us being black, it’s about us being a family. That’s groundbreaking – on TV black characters either happen to be black or they’re the ‘black character’ where everything they say is about being black.” 2 FAMOUSLY NORMAL FAMILY Although being the daughter of music icon Diana Ross (73) came with some unique experiences…

A TIDAL or rock pool is a body of water left behind when the sea recedes at low tide and can be large or small, deep or shallow. Think of them as natural aquariums with their own ecosystems where each living thing depends on the others to survive. Many marine species have adapted to live there and get their food thanks to the tide bringing in new organisms from the open ocean. 1. SEAWEED A type of algae. Important food source for many animals as well as a source of oxygen. 2. OCTOPUS Builds a den using rocks. Eats crabs, worms and whelks. Can grow back a lost limb. 3. SCULPIN This small, spiny fish is a bottom feeder (feeds on the ocean floor) and eats snails, worms and shrimp.…

PALE brown laminate flooring links the roomy interiors, and black-and-white graphics of comic-book superhero Batman and a vintage camera adorn the walls of the luxury apartment in the art deco building in one of the Mother City’s most desirable suburbs. Remote-controlled blinds and curtains frame large windows that look out onto the Atlantic Ocean, and a flatscreen TV mounted onto a tastefully painted wall takes centre stage. If it weren’t for the PlayStation under the enormous TV you could easily mistake this apartment in Sea Point, Cape Town, for an architect’s glitzy show home. But the barefoot man who plonks his lean body down on the plush couch is as far from an architect as they come. “Can I get you some coffee or tea?” asks Chad le Clos (25),…