Innholdsfortegnelse for 18-May-17 i You South Africa

I’M A fan of technology and try to do everything I can online. I know all the various things to look out for when I do online shopping and generally feel there’s great security in the products I use, especially apps. That’s why I find it so alarming – and baffling, to be honest – when I read stories like the one on page 8. Victims of cyber crime have found their accounts cleaned out despite not clicking on dodgy links in emails or giving their passwords to anyone. SIM-swops are at the heart of the success of these attacks and are a cause for concern. I really hope that the banks and cellphone companies involved are doing everything they can to get to the heart of the matter. This…

I can relate to the horrifying story about Masego Kwenamore and her gambling (YOU, 20 April). For my money (that’s a joke – I have none!) the most pernicious evil, the most ruinous addiction I personally know of, is gambling. I have an addictive personality with a capital A and I’ve been through them all – sex, alcohol, illegal and prescription drugs. All have had me in their vicelike grip but gambling is the worst. The secret greed that drives it drains your soul. It took away every material possession I had, including my house and two cars, lost me a number of well-paying jobs, destroyed my marriage and alienated me from my family and virtually all my friends. I live alone with nothing, thanks to gambling. I think casinos,…

1 He gave up smoking the day before his wedding. 2 When he got married he had the equivalent of 12 pence (R2,10) in the bank but designed a bracelet as a wedding present to his bride with stones from a tiara owned by his mother. 3 His favourite tipple is beer. When offered fine wine on a visit to Rome in 2000 he snapped, “I don’t care what kind it is, just get me a beer!” 4 His pet names for the queen include “Sausage” and “Cabbage”. 5 He’s 496th in the line to the British throne as a great-great-grandson of Queen Victoria. 6 He’s such a cricket fanatic he had a TV installed in the royal box at Ascot Racecourse so he could keep up with the order…

WHAT do you do when you receive a letter from your child telling you she’s joined a cult and is getting married to a man she’s only just met? Pat* Smailes was worried sick – when she’d sent her 18-year-old daughter, Lesley, off on a gap-year holiday she’d hoped the experience would broaden her horizons. Little did she realise it would be a decade before her child would return home. Within months of swopping her sheltered life in Port Elizabeth for the freedom of America in the early ’80s, Lesley had joined one of the country’s more secretive and conservative cults, turning her back on everything she knew, forsaking all modern comforts and living according to a strict interpretation of the Bible. And there was nothing her poor mom could…

IT WAS a moment he thought he’d never see – the high point of a long, challenging journey. And making it all the sweeter was that the most important person was there on the podium to put the academic cap on his head. Rhodes University student Hleze Kunju recently became the first person to obtain a doctorate in Xhosa – but his wife, Susan, is really the one who made it all possible, he says. “I’m so grateful to her for keeping things together and looking after our children while I was working on my PhD,” he says. “It definitely wouldn’t have been possible without her and that’s why I asked the university to give her permission to cap me at the graduation.” The 31-year-old dad of three is now…

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DO Eat wholesome, fresh, nutritious food. Avoid anything that comes in a packet. Eat everything in moderation – small portions are key. Rather eat the food you love in small amounts than deprive yourself. Fill up half your plate with greens at every meal. Avoid refined vegetable oils. Replace with olive and coconut oil. Avoid carbohydrate-heavy food at suppertime. You don’t need a burst of energy when you’re winding down for the day. Avoid sugar. Include healthy fat at lunch to balance your blood sugar. Avocado, seeds, olive oil and hummus are great options. DON’T Be tempted by diets that promise quick weight loss – the results won’t last. Become obsessed with weighing yourself. The number on the scale doesn’t define you. Write off the rest of the day if…

It’s not what you achieve, it’s what you overcome. That’s what defines your career – CARLTON FISK, AMERICAN BASEBALL PLAYER FIRST STEPS Employees in all income groups and job levels can be retrenched if the employer has valid reasons for doing so. Employers must follow the law: first they must issue a notice that explains how many people are being retrenched, and why and when. Employees can negotiate this and make alternative suggestions. If the employer offers you another job as part of the process, think carefully before saying no, unless you have good reason – it could mean that you forfeit your severance pay. TAX-FREE Since 2014 the first R500 000 of your severance pay is tax-free. This doesn’t include payouts for pro rata bonuses, which are taxed…

This Durban-born singer took the local music scene by storm with his debut album, Crayon Boxes, earning him a Sama nomination in 2014. Now he’s back with his second offering, PopRadio. We caught up with the Cape Town-based muso to chat about his latest album. What inspired this album? I wanted to change the perception people have of me. A lot of people heard my first record, saw me play and thought okay, cool, you’re like John Mayer or Bob Dylan. But I’m not only that. I wanted to show a different side of me. I’ve been learning about production techniques and different sounds and listening a lot to The Weeknd, Jay-Z, John Mayer – I’m a massive fan – Justin Bieber, Michael Jackson . . . It all came…

For birth charts and other astrology enquiries email Petra at YourStars@you.co.za or go to astrozone.co.za. FAMOUS BIRTHDAYS TO KEEP HAPPY AND HEALTHY: TAURUS SHOULD . . . Avoid situations that could rock the boat. Maintain a healthy bank balance. Get off the couch – it won’t make them happy, but it might keep them healthy. Feed their senses – especially the one of touch. Secure their material possessions. Keep their fridge full and their cellar stocked. Make sure they always get value for their money. TAURUS APRIL 20 – MAY 20 It’s time to make money and build your savings The Sun moves into your money horoscope this week, throwing its light on all things fiscal – which normally lie close to the heart of a true Taurus. Opportunities to…

IT’S difficult to keep himself from smiling these days – he’s one of the golden boys of South African rugby and captain of a team that has the country all fired up as it sweeps its way to world domination. Add the fact that he’ll be a dad in a few months and it’s easy to see why Philip Snyman is one happy guy. Not that the new arrival will be a Blitzbok in the making, though – the 30-year-old star player and his wife, medical doctor Esteé (29), are having a little girl. “She’s arriving in July,” Esteé says. “We’re so excited.” The couple are chatting to YOU at their home on an estate near Stellenbosch in the Western Cape as they enjoy rare time together. The Blitzbokke are…

AN INSPIRATION There are a lot of life’s lessons to be learnt from the short life of the late Ontlametse Phalatse, the 18-year-old girl who died of progeria recently (YOU, 27 April). People used to speak a lot about her different physical appearance and focused less on the person in that body. She possessed wisdom and valued life more than many of us who claim to be normal. She had the inner strength and courage that young people of today need to face the challenges life throws at them. It’s probably because of her positivity that she lived longer than the predicted 14-year life span. The way Ontlametse led her life should serve as an example that everyone can achieve their goals if they believe in themselves. Her legacy will…

I’m shocked at the racism in a recent episode of Isidingo where they show two white men beating up a black man and then burying him alive. We as a country are trying to get away from racism and this is what the TV channel is promoting. I’m disgusted. BERYL, KZN Is it just me or is Isidingo becoming racist? When there’s any violence on screen it’s always white on black, as though there’s never black on white violence. The black characters refer to white people as umlungu, which some feel is a derogatory term for white people, but nothing ever gets said about that. CONCERNED VIEWER, SMS I’m a non-white South African and I’m not happy with Isidingo at this moment. Will the next episode be of my brothers…

HEARTBROKEN. That’s how Bonang Matheba described herself last month after news broke that she’d quit her popular show on Metro FM following disagreements with station bosses. But nothing keeps the showbiz queen down for too long. She still has so much going for her: there’s a new book in the pipeline, a reality TV show and, despite rumours to the contrary, her relationship with rapper AKA is still going strong. “Things are amazing, so amazing with us,” she gushes. “It gets better and better.” Dressed in a crisp white vest, tight blue skinny jeans, a gilet and a pair of towering Balenciaga heels, Bonang (29) looks utterly sensational as she meets us at her management team’s office in Fourways, Johannesburg. She can’t hide her excitement about her new reality show,…

LUISA’S SPICED PORK RAMEN IN MISO BROTH SERVES 4 Preparation: 15 min Cooking: up to 2 hours (mostly unattended) 15 ml (1 T) garlic, ginger and chilli paste 15 ml (1 T) smoked paprika 2 ml (½ t) ground cinnamon 30 ml (2 T) olive oil 600 g pork belly salt and freshly ground pepper 250 ml (1 c) chicken stock MISO BROTH 1 litre (4 c) good-quality chicken stock 30 ml (2 T) light soy sauce 30 ml (2 T) miso paste 30 ml (2 T) garlic, ginger and chilli paste 15 ml (1 T) sesame oil salt and freshly ground pepper TO SERVE 250 g egg noodles or instant ramen noodles, cooked according to packet instructions 2 heads baby bok choy, halved and lightly steamed 4 radishes, thinly…

CLASSIC LOOK – CLAUDIA LEE FACE Apply foundation to your face then follow with a light application of blusher over the cheek area. Try a cream blusher – it’s lighter than powder while still giving a tinge of colour. EYES Fill in your eyebrows to frame your eyes strongly. If your eyebrows are naturally thick, shape them using tweezers and use an eyebrow gel to tame stray hairs. Apply a copper eyeshadow on your upper and lower eyelids, and follow with a gold colour on the inner corners of your eyes. Make sure the two eyeshadows blend together where they meet. Use eyeliner to create cat’s eyes and apply a few coats of mascara to your upper and lower lashes. To make your upper lashes more dramatic try applying strip…

‘Honesty is the first chapter of the book of wisdom’– THOMAS JEFFERSON, AMERICAN FOUNDING FATHER WHY DID HE HAVE A BABY WITH SOMEONE ELSE? Q I’m 21 and my boyfriend is 29. We’ve been dating for more than a year. He’s always said he wants to start a family with me but I asked him to wait until I finish my studies. The more I got to know him, the more I fell in love with him so I thought I should compromise and give him his dream. We tried to get pregnant but weren’t able to – I don’t know if there’s something medically wrong with me or if it’s due to stress as my studies are quite demanding. I had a gut feeling he was seeing someone else…

A All ages D Drugs H Horror L Language N Nudity P Prejudice PG Parental guidance S Sex V Violence LISTEN TO THIS! DAMAGE AND JOY  THE JESUS AND MARY CHAIN THE JESUS AND MARY CHAIN  Formed by Scottish brothers Jim and William Reid in 1983, these indie-rock pioneers have had plenty of ups and downs over the years. This, their seventh album, however sees them on top form – as is clear from opening track Amputation, which sets the tone with roaring guitars to the fore. The excellent The Two Of Us shows another side to the band, reminding of the Reids’ side projects Sister Vanilla and Freeheat. It’s also good to hear their sister, Linda, joining Jim on vocals. Damage And Joy doesn’t quite top their classic Psychocandy…

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QUEEN OF THE FREE STATE: A MEMOIR By JENNIFER FRIEDMAN , Tafelberg  A year before Friedman was due to start Sub A (now Grade 1), the principal of the local Afrikaans school told her mother the little girl would be allowed to enrol only if she could speak Afrikaans fluently. Her mother looked him squarely in the eye: “Mr De Bruin,” she said, “my daughter will be starting school here next year. I assure you she’ll be fluent in Afrikaans.” So it happened that Friedman came to be a pupil at an Afrikaans school in a small Free State town. But after her first day she arrived home in tears because the children had mocked her for being Jewish. Friedman describes the Free State of her childhood in the ’50s…

LIFE OUTSIDE 1D Besides chopping off his luscious brown locks, the 23-year-old has been working on his acting career – he’s set to star in the upcoming movie Dunkirk, a World War 2 drama also starring Tom Hardy. SUPERPOWER DREAMS He says if he could choose one superpower it would be the ability to time travel. NEW MUSIC Harry’s much-anticipated self-titled solo debut album, due for release this month, includes the track Ever Since New York – rumoured to be an ode to his highly publicised relationship with pop star Taylor Swift. THE KENDALL FACTOR THE 1D STAR HASN’T CONFIRMED IT BUT TALK IS SEVERAL SONGS ON THE ALBUM WERE INSPIRED BY EX-FLAME KENDALL JENNER. “SOMETIMES YOU WANT TO TIP THE HAT AND SOMETIMES YOU WANT TO GIVE THEM THE…

PEOPLE used to trust her and hang onto her every word. In her high-profile role as branch president of a respected American civil rights organisation Rachel Dolezal was admired for the no-holds-barred way she spoke out about race issues and inequality. Everyone just assumed that as a black woman she was speaking from experience. But they were wrong. In 2015, Rachel’s parents came forward to reveal she was in fact white, not African-American as she’d led everyone to believe. This revelation sparked outrage across the world, with people across the colour spectrum baying for her blood (YOU, 2 July 2015). Called a liar, fraud, thief and race faker, she lost her job and credibility and gradually faded from people’s minds. No one could bounce back from that, you’d think. Except…

1 Olympic swimmer CAMERON VAN DER BURGH Most-used app WhatsApp. I think it’s everyone’s. Favourite app Dropbox – because my whole life is on there! From my swimming stuff to my documents and photos. 2 Singer BOBBY VAN JAARSVELD Most-used app Google maps Favourite app Uber – because it’s easy, safe and fast. All it takes is a touch of a button. 3 TV personality JO-ANN STRAUSS Most-used app I have three, actually – Instagram, Uber and the Spree app! Favourite app Instagram, because I get to stalk my pals, and WhatsApp is what I use to communicate most of the time. 4 TV presenter KATLEGO MABOE Most-used app Instagram – it’s a great platform to show off the best of a good life, which I like living as much as…

TEAM BEY OUT FOR THE DAY Looks as if JAY-Z has already bonded with his unborn twins! The rap mogul was spotted tenderly caressing wife BEYONCÉ’s pregnant belly while attending a basketball game in Los Angeles. The singer looked glam in statement shades and a Gucci suit and bag – but people were quick to notice her plump lips, which sparked speculation she’s had lip injections. But her publicist, Yvette Noel-Schure, was quick to shut them down, saying in a statement, “Did you know that [during pregnancy], in addition to weight gain there’s often a dramatic change in the blood flow in the system and increased fluid, causing swelling? Do you know that often women’s gums get swollen? Do you know that it sometimes affects our speech, our ability to…

Singer MILEY CYRUS (24) has reportedly given up her notorious party lifestyle. The Adore You singer, who’s putting the finishing touches to her sixth studio album, told Billboard she’s now “completely clean”. “I haven’t smoked weed in three weeks, which is the longest I’ve ever gone without it. I’m not doing drugs; I’m not drinking. That was just something I wanted to do.” And although she’s “with a straight dude”, Aussie actor Liam Hemsworth (27), Miley says she’s “super-open and pansexual”. Reality TV star KOURTNEY KARDASHIAN (38) is apparently hooking up with Algerian-born boxer Younes Bendjima (24). According to an insider, “they’re getting to know each other and having fun”. The pair are said to have met during Paris Fashion Week in October. Younes, who divides his time between Paris…

WE’RE FAILING OUR CHILDREN THE article about the “house of horrors” children who’ve yet to receive counselling (YOU, 4 May) shows our judiciary system is lenient on criminals but hard on victims. Cases where children are the victims should be treated as emergencies but no matter how the cases are handled, children’s healing process must be prioritised. That counselling might tamper with their testimony should be of secondary concern. Courts might think it’s better for cases to drag on to gather enough evidence but they don’t seem to consider the effects this has on child victims. We already have a problem of abused children who suffer in silence because they fear that should they report their abusers they might be killed or thrown out of their homes. Such children are…

A SAD dad with only a smelly bulldog for company. A strong, decisive mother calling all the shots. Parents trying to do their best for the brood they blended in once apparently blissful harmony. This is the reality of Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie eight months into their post-split lives. And try though they might to keep things as private as possible when it comes to their six kids, details keep emerging to entrance the brigade of Brangelina fans who still can’t quite believe these two are headed for the divorce court. Here’s all the latest drama. NEW INFORMATION ABOUT THAT PLANE TRIP A source has described that fateful night in September. Apparently Brad had been drinking heavily, which wasn’t exactly unusual – and for Angelina, Brad’s boozing and subsequent…

FOR the past 70 years he’s been a faithful fixture at the queen’s side, a hard-working consort – and possibly one of the most politically incorrect characters ever to come out of the House of Windsor. But the British public – and the rest of the royal-watching world – will have to do without regular appearances from Prince Philip from now on. The Duke of Edinburgh has bowed out of his official duties – and at the ripe old age of 95, who can blame him? As the duke himself pointed out, “I’m past my sell-by date.” Insiders say you “could have heard a pin drop” when Queen Elizabeth (91) convened a meeting for a major announcement recently. There was speculation that her majesty might be abdicating, or that perhaps…

THE family home in Gillitts, KwaZulu-Natal, is surrounded by rolling green hills and a swing dangles in the spacious front garden – yet the kids growing up in this seemingly idyllic pocket of the province have never really been able to enjoy this glorious open space. Both Brian and Janet Legemaate’s sons were born with serious medical conditions yet the couple are philosophical about it all. “Life isn’t fair to anyone really,” Janet says. “If you accept things, it becomes easier.” Luke (12) suffers from Prader-Willi syndrome (PWS), a genetic disorder that affects appetite, growth, metabolism, cognitive function and behaviour. He’s constantly hungry and wants to eat all the time, which is why the grocery cupboards and fridge in the house are kept under lock and key. If he had…

BUTTERNUT SOUP WITH ROAST GARLIC SERVES 4-6 Preparation: 15 min Cooking: 45 min 2 large butternuts, quartered and seeds removed 4 tomatoes, halved 1 whole garlic bulb 30 ml (2 T) olive oil 500 ml (2 c) chicken stock 125 ml (½ c) cream 2 ml (½ t) roasted masala salt and freshly ground pepper Preheat the oven to 190 °C. Line a large baking sheet with foil and grease well with nonstick spray. 1 Arrange the butternut and tomatoes on the prepared baking sheet. Put the garlic bulb in the middle and sprinkle the oil over everything. Roast the vegetables for 40 minutes until softened. 2 Spoon the butternut flesh from the skin and transfer to a saucepan. Skin the tomatoes and add to the butternut. 3 Squeeze out…

DRAMA. With RYAN GOSLING and ROONEY MARA. Director: TERRENCE MALICK. 16NS. Opens 26 May. Before 1998’s The Thin Red Line, enigmatic director Terrence Malick had only made two films in the ’70s that were hailed as masterpieces. Since then he’s sped up his work rate and attracted a host of A-list actors, whose performances sometimes end up on the cutting-room floor because Malick shoots hours of footage and only starts with a vague idea. Set in the music scene in Austin, Texas, Song To Song centres on a love triangle between rich music exec Cook (Michael Fassbender) and two struggling musicians, BV (Gosling) and Faye (Mara). The cast also includes Natalie Portman and Cate Blanchett. Malick has increasingly polarised critics and his previous two films, To The Wonder (2012) and…

DOG’S-EYE VIEW A blind man walks into a bar with his guide dog. He lifts the dog into the air and spins it around above his head. The barman can’t believe his eyes. “What on earth are you doing?” he yells. “Oh, nothing,” the blind guy calmly replies. “I’m just having a look around.” JACK OF ALL TRADES What do you call a priest who then becomes a lawyer? A father in law. A CLEAN SWEEP A guy who’s studying at an American university is fascinated by a janitor who tirelessly cleans the campus buildings without ever complaining. He decides to chat to the man. “Excuse me,” he says to the caretaker, “don’t you ever get tired of cleaning?” The man is taken aback. “I’ll have you know, sir,” he…

THE WEIRD KID Charlie (37) grew up in Newcastle Upon Tyne in England and says he struggled through childhood because he was a bit of a strange kid. “I was constantly preoccupied with trying to understand what it all meant . . . and I’ve grown up into a weird existential adult.” He got into acting by fluke when he was noticed by a TV producer in a shop one day. Charlie, then 18, was looking for a present for his brother on Christmas Eve when he noticed a woman staring at him. He says he was “a little drunk” at the time. “So I blew a kiss at her, and she smiled and thought, ‘Who’s this cheeky little bastard?’ ” The woman, who worked on a UK kids’ series…

YOU breathe in and out anywhere from 11 to 25 times a minute without even thinking about it. You breathe so regularly that it’s easy to take your lungs for granted. You couldn’t even stop yourself from breathing if you tried! But how does this process work? Lets take a look. LITTLE-KNOWN LUNG FACTS Your left lung is smaller than your right lung to make space for your heart. If your lungs were opened out flat, they’d cover a tennis court. Lungs are the only organs in your body that can float on water. Your right lung has three lobes but your left lung has only two. You breathe more than six million times a year. That’s more than 16 000 breaths a day. About 20 percent of the air…

‘After losing the first 10 kg I knew I had the power to change my body’ HE EMERGES from the water like a moody Adonis, bearded and brooding, buff and bare-chested. Well, not exactly bare-chested – almost every inch of his torso is covered in tattoos. And they’re not there because he has a particular fondness for inking – the intricate series of shapes came about as a way to hide unsightly scars. Kevin Creekman, from Cologne in Germany, has become an Instagram star thanks to his rugged good looks and heavily inked bod. But he once tipped the scales at a whopping 150 kg and despised the folds of skin left behind once he’d shed half his body weight in less than a year. Kevin (28) turned to surgery…

‘Meg obviously wanted to be there for Harry and to support such a great cause’ – ONLOOKER THE tender moment MEGHAN MARKLE (35) leant in to kiss PRINCE HARRY (32) good luck before he went off to play polo has been caught on camera. The American actress and the British royal were snapped in a sweet moment in the car park at Coworth Park polo club in Ascot, England, where Harry and his brother, Prince William (34), were playing in the Audi Polo Challenge. The proceeds go to two charities Harry supports, Sentebale and WellChild. The occasion marks Meghan and Harry’s second official outing together (the first was Harry’s friend’s wedding) and proves the red-headed prince is indeed serious about the Suits star, who looked gorgeous in a navy dress.…