Innholdsfortegnelse for 02-Mar-17 i You South Africa

WHEN I was younger my parents would speak Afrikaans to me and I’d respond in English. My sister and I joke these days that we knew we were in trouble when either of them started to speak English to us! I was in an English class but understood Afrikaans perfectly and often wouldn’t notice whether someone was speaking to me in either language. The same happened to my brother and sister (we spoke English to one another, in case you’re wondering). I’m glad my parents didn’t hesitate to let us learn two languages. I know some are divided on letting a child learn more than one language at a time but it worked for me. I wish I’d learnt another when I was younger because it becomes so much more…

My mother-in-law’s 86-year-old husband recently had a stroke which left him wheelchair-bound. He lost his appetite and became increasing frail. My mother-in-law (77) did everything in her power to care for him but struggled to cope with the physical aspects of turning him (to avoid bed sores), nappy and bedding changing, bathing, dressing and so forth. It was at this point we investigated frail-care facilities or in-house care workers. After numerous calls we soon realised this option was totally beyond our means. Although he’d contributed to a medical aid scheme for most of his life, it didn’t cover any frail-care assistance. The prices ranged between R16 000 to R30 000 a month for a patient requiring his level of care. It’s been a huge wake-up call and I can’t help…

‘My family are my rock. They’ve walked every step with me’ IT’S easy to see why she’s had success in beauty pageants: she’s slim and smooth-skinned with a dazzling smile, her delicate shoulders make all clothes look good on her and she has legs that go on forever. She’s also confident and knows exactly what she wants out of life – a winning combination as far as any contest judge is concerned. Sharon Rose Khumalo (26) reached the top five in the Miss South Africa pageant last year and was recently crowned Miss Mamelodi Sundowns, walking off with a brand-new car and R200 000 in cash. She’ll also be the soccer club’s ambassador for the year of her reign, representing the team at various sporting and charity initiatives. Yet there’s…

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WHY DO WOMEN GROW FACIAL HAIR (APART FROM EYEBROWS AND LASHES)? Cohen: There are various reasons that are most often associated with hormones, such as polycystic ovaries, menopause or testosterone supplements. Continuously plucking the hair increases blood supply around the hair follicles, which makes the hair grow thicker. HOW DOES BLEACHING FACIAL HAIR WORK? IS IT SUITABLE FOR ALL SKIN TYPES? Cohen: Bleaching facial hair is not a hair-removal method but rather a “disguise” method. Bleaching uses a chemical procedure to remove the dark pigment of the facial hair and exposes the lighter colour underneath. The lightened hair then becomes less noticeable; however it is still visible, especially if it’s long. This method is only really suitable for those with lighter skin tones. WHAT CAN YOU RECOMMEND FOR SENSITIVE SKIN?…

1 Where can I get advice? A financial adviser can look at your total financial picture and suggest the most suitable investment options. Some independent advisers charge only a consultation fee and don’t earn commission on investments. 2 How much can I invest in a tax-free savings plan? Currently the limit is R30 000 a year, or R500 000 in your lifetime. So don’t invest more than R30 000 a year – you’d pay 40 percent tax on the returns from anything more than that. 3 Which investment funds could I consider? Index tracker funds generally offer a solid return in the long term with low fees, Abri du Plessis of Gryphon Asset Management says. The fees are low because there’s no active fund manager. 4 Can I afford it?…

THE HIKE AND THE BIKE A guy arrives home from a long business trip to find his son driving an expensive new mountain bike. “Where did you get that, son?” he asks. “I bought it, Dad,” his son replies. “And where did you get the money?” “I got it by hiking.” “Hiking?” “Yes, every night Mom’s boss came over and gave me R100 to take a hike.” THE OLD MAN’S CONDITION Two medical students are walking along the street when they see an old man with his legs apart, walking stiff-legged and slowly. “I’m sure that poor old man has Peltry syndrome,” one student says to his friend. “Sufferers walk just like that.” “No, I don’t think so,” the other student says. “Surely the old man has Zovitzki syndrome. Look,…

A All ages D Drugs H Horror L Language N Nudity P Prejudice PG Parental guidance S Sex V Violence LISTEN TO THIS! FIFTY SHADES DARKER VARIOUS ARTISTS R149*   Fifty Shades Of Grey sequel Fifty Shades Darker has one highlight – the film’s star-studded soundtrack. It’s not as steamy as its 2015 predecessor but will definitely hit the right notes with Fifty Shades fans. It features an eclectic mix of styles ranging from blues to pop and there are way more hits than misses. The first single, Taylor Swift and Zayn’s I Don’t Wanna Live Forever, is the star attraction but Halsey’s Not Afraid Anymore gives it a run for its money. Other standouts include Nick Jonas and Nicki Minaj’s Bom Bidi Bom and Sia’s piano ballad Helium. Sadly…

ARIES MARCH 21 – APRIL 19 The love goddess, Venus, turns retrograde in your sign this week – which, if you’re not careful, could disrupt your love-life. It’s not the best time to start a serious relationship, so be sure of your decision before losing your heart. That said, it’s a good time to reassure your long-term partner of your commitment. It might be good to look back and share happy memories of special times together with them. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 2, 47, 31, 24, 17, 29 TAURUS APRIL 20 – MAY 20 Your planet, Venus, makes a U-turn this week – which might affect your life, albeit in subtle ways. Since material security plays a vital role in the wellbeing of a true Taurus, one of the first things…

‘We have nowhere to hide . . . The only way to escape is suicide’ HE KNEW the assassins were coming for him. It was a fact Kim Jongnam lived with every day: his younger brother hated him and wanted him dead. And this was no idle threat – his bloodthirsty sibling is none other than Kim Jong-un, the all-powerful leader of North Korea. Knowing his brother had many means at his disposal to see his wish carried out, Kim Jong-nam lived in constant fear, always trying to stay one step ahead of the assassins he knew would eventually be sent to kill him. It was just a matter of time. The day he’d been dreading finally arrived last month as he walked through Kuala Lumpur Airport in Malaysia preparing…

From award shows to shooting ads and bundubashing – it’s a tough life. After attending the Grammy Awards in Los Angeles in the US, singer and X Factor judge NICOLE SCHERZINGER hopped on a plane and jetted to Cape Town to shoot an ad for yoghurt company Müller. The former Pussycat Dolls lead singer, who’s been the face of Müller yoghurt since 2013, showed off her enviable physique in a black sports bra and leggings as she ran around the track and did star jumps at Green Point Stadium in the Mother City. The 38-year-old was thrilled to be in South Africa, posting a video on Instagram from her beachfront accommodation on the day she arrived. It seems she turned the work trip into a family holiday by inviting younger…

The article you did on healthy footwear (YOU, 8 December) was a real eyeopener. I had absolutely no idea that I’d been wearing the wrong shoes. CATHERINE WOODS, RUSTENBURG Love means nothing in tennis, but everything in life. MARIE DIXON , PIETERMARITZBURG I live on the beachfront in KwaZulu-Natal and recently the South African defence force had firing demonstrations and activities that included helicopters and planes hovering. We were aware it was all for entertainment. My heart goes out to people in war-torn countries, especially children, who have to live with this reality every day. MOM, SMS Gerrie Nel, very best wishes for your future (YOU, 16 February). You’re a true man of law and order. ADMIRER, SMS I’d like to applaud the author of the moving short story Counting…

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CUCUMBER AND BASIL YOGHURT Finely grate 1 medium cucumber. Squeeze out as much of the liquid as possible and add to 500 ml (2 c) plain full-cream yoghurt. Finely chop a handful of fresh basil and 1 fresh mint sprig. Add the herbs to the yoghurt and mix well. Season with 15 ml (1 T) fresh lemon juice and a pinch of salt. Spoon into a jar and chill until needed. Serve with cucumber ribbons and more fresh herbs if you like. TURMERIC AND SESAME YOGHURT Add 5 ml (1 t) turmeric, 5 ml (1 t) ground cinnamon and 15 ml (1 T) honey to 500 g plain full-cream yoghurt. Spoon into a jar and chill until needed. Sprinkle 30 ml (2 T) toasted sesame seeds over the yoghurt, mix…

COULD MY DAUGHTER HAVE BEEN ABUSED? Q I was called to my five-year-old daughter’s nursery school and the teacher told me she’d seen her picking up her dress in front of other children. She also told me they’d discovered her and a little boy shortly before that showing their genitals to each other in the bathroom. The teacher said this might indicate she’s been sexually abused and I should have her evaluated by a psychologist. I was very upset as she hasn’t displayed any such behaviour in our home. I’ve been careful about the people who spend time with and care for my daughter. When my husband and I have had to be away she always stays with my mom, whom she loves to bits. I never allow her to…

‘How exhilarating to suddenly think I might be able to stop being a slave to yo-yo dieting’ – OPRAH WINFREY FOOD, HEALTH AND HAPPINESS: 115 ON-POINT RECIPES FOR GREAT MEALS AND A BETTER LIFE By OPRAH WINFREY, Flatiron Books Over the decades TV viewers have witnessed Winfrey’s fluctuating body shape and her ongoing battle of the bulge. The chat-show queen is the first to admit she has a “complicated” relationship with food – but in 2015 after years of feasting and fasting she finally had an epiphany and realised why her efforts to diet often backfired. “For most of my life emotional eating has been my negative behavioural hot button,” she says. “People would ask how I managed the stress and I’d say, ‘I don’t feel stress.’ I never felt…

The pop superstar is back with a new track, Chained To The Rhythm. Here’s all you need to know about the hitmaker. 1 single The32 features -year-old two songbird guest ’s vocal latest - ists – reggae legend Bob Marley’s grandson Skip, and Sia. The two also co-wrote the song. 2 than Chained three To million TheRhythm streams had on more Spotify when it was released, making it the highest number of first-day streams on Spotify of a single track by a female artist. 3 balls Katy’s in team public set places up special in countries disco all around the world where fans could plug in their headphones and listen to the song before its release. 4 out Her four previous years album ago, but , Prism that , came…

Popular pick Teen Vogue named Millie (13) its breakout star of 2016. She was also one of the most searched celebs on movie website IMDb and can now reportedly command up to £3 million (R49,5 million) a movie! Some fans are so obsessed with her character, Eleven, an orphan with telekinetic superpowers, they even have her name tattooed on their arms. #bestiealert Millie is a huge fan of Dance Moms and is besties with dancer Maddie Ziegler (14) who found fame on the show. “She’s so inspiring to me. I started crying when I met her.” FASHION DARLING Millie became the youngest model to front a Calvin Klein campaign at age 12. SAY WHAT? She found out only at the final audition that she’d have to shave her head to…

1 WRITE IT DOWN Put your thoughts and feelings on paper without editing them. Treat your journal like a private space for your emotions. 2 CREATE A MEMORIAL Make a garden, plant a tree or create a collage to honour your loved one. 3 QUIET TIME Make space in your day (about 20 minutes) to grieve. This will help to relieve the pressure and make you feel less overwhelmed. 4 EXERCISE Working up a sweat is good for releasing stress and also offers a healthy distraction. 5 MAINTAIN ROUTINE Structure can help to create a greater sense of day-to-day control. 6 TALK WITH FAMILY AND FRIENDS Sharing memories and stories about your loved one can be soothing and help you to feel less alone.…

It’s cheaper than gas and you can save on electricity – this is why many people regard bioethanol fuel, which is made from crops such as sugar cane and wheat, as a good heating option. Other pluses are that it doesn’t emit smoke or leave you with ash to clean up. But you have to exercise great caution when handling the highly flammable fuel, says Brian Tait, a consultant in the energy industry. Tait says bioethanol gel often burns with an almost invisible flame. This is why you have to make sure the heater’s flame is out before you fill it up. “Also ensure the heater is properly cooled off,” he says. It’s important to read and follow the manufacturer’s instructions, Tait adds. A spokesperson for a supplier of bioethanol…

SHE looks nothing like the pretty girls she’s played on TV. Gone are the figure-hugging clothes that showed off her dancer’s physique and the perfect make-up accentuating her exotic looks. For her role in the new TV drama Lockdown, Lorcia Cooper wears drab standard-issue prison garb and her face is all bruises and scars – and she loves it. “I think people are just so shocked that I’m playing a character such as Tyson – but yes, that’s me. It’s given me a chance to show what I’m capable of.” Shot at Constitutional Hill – a former prison complex in Braamfontein, Johannesburg – Lockdown has been compared to hit American TV show Orange Is The New Black. The edgy series, set in a fictional high-security women’s prison, is centred on…

A TALE OF TWO DAUGHTERS MISSUS, I once had a daughter the same age as yours, but I never knew her. While I took care of your girl, mine was neglected. While I combed her hair each morning getting her ready for school, mine went to school unkempt. While I cooked for your daughter mine went to bed on an empty stomach, for there was no one to cook for her. While yours was scared of the bogeyman I held her, comforted her and wiped her tears away – mine was abused and neglected. When yours turned 18 we sent her to varsity while mine gave birth to her firstborn. When your girl walked down the aisle mine took her last breath, because Aids was her ultimate call. As I…

IT’S one of the biggest open-water swimming events in the world and draws competitors from near and far – so it was no surprise when one of the swimmers in last month’s Midmar Mile came all the way from the USA. This was in fact the second time Craig Dietz tackled the challenging swim across the dam in the KwaZulu-Natal Midlands. He enjoyed it so much the first time around he came back for more. Which is all unsurprising – except that Craig has no limbs and propels himself through the water with a single blue flipper strapped to his right leg stump. At the start of the race the 43-year-old from Harrisburg in Pennsylvania hurried into the water along with the other hundreds of swimmers, then flipped himself onto…

HAIR growth on the upper lip, between the eyebrows and on the chin can be embarrassing for women, and it can be quite a chore to get rid of. We look at various ways to remove it, and whether these methods are safe, short-lived or a permanently solution to your problems. TEMPORARY SOLUTIONS These methods of removing hair last two to five days, depending on how fast your hair grows. When using these types of removal, you simply get rid of the hair on the surface of the skin, meaning it’s painless but there’s still hair in the root beneath the surface. HAIR REMOVAL CREAM Topical creams dissolve the hair on the skin’s surface. CUTTING Facial hair scissors or clippers are used to remove hair. SHAVING A razor is the…

AT SABABA, a popular deli in Cape Town, it’s all about wholesomeness and uncomplicated food packed with flavour. Owner Tal Smith has compiled a second cookbook, Feast With Sababa, making it easy to prepare those wonderful dishes at home too. Sababa, in Hebrew, is slang for awesome, cool or great and is also a play on Tal’s maiden name, Saban. Her husband, photographer Russell Smith, took the pictures. RICOTTA CHEESECAKE “This might be the quickest cake you’ll ever make,” Tal says. “All the ingredients are mixed in a bowl and baked in a cake pan, but that doesn’t make it any less good! It’s much lighter than an American-style cheesecake.” SERVES 8-10 Preparation: 15 min Baking: 30-40 min 900 g ricotta cheese 200 g honey 5 eggs 22 ml (1½…

It doesn’t matter about money; having it, not having it. You’re still left alone with yourself in the end – BRITISH MUSICIAN BILLY IDOL ACCESS TO YOUR MONEY First consider your personal circumstances, experts advise. If this is your emergency fund, how quickly can you access the money? If you were to invest in shares through a unit trust, you could usually access the money within 48 hours. This is called a liquid investment as you can access your funds relatively quickly. But if you invest in property, you’d first have to sell it to get your money out – which might take many months. CHOOSE WISELY First do research and get professional advice. Whichever option you choose, there are long-term concerns. If you decide on property, the location…

10 CLOVERFIELD LANE 2016. 99 min. 10-12PG V. Sci-fi thriller. R85* After surviving a horrible road accident, Michelle (Mary Elizabeth Winstead) wakes up shackled to a wall in a doomsday bunker. Soon she meets her host and apparent rescuer, Howard (an intense John Goodman). According to him he saved her from a massive attack that killed everyone in America. But is he telling the truth? Or does he have some sinister motive for keeping Michelle in his bunker? A third inhabitant, Emmett (John Gallagher Jnr), confirms the attack – but Michelle remains sceptical, reluctantly accepting Howard’s hospitality. 10 Cloverfield Lane is labelled as a spiritual sequel to the found-footage smash hit Cloverfield (2008) about an alien attack on New York. But this film is a much smaller, more intimate affair.…

BE HONEST It’s okay to let the person know if you’re not quite sure what to say or do. BE AVAILABLE Let the other person know you’re there for them. Call, visit or offer to keep them company by going places (such as visiting the grave) with them. HELP OUT Bake treats, help with chores or homework, or exercise with them. TALK Don’t be afraid to use the name of the person they lost. LISTEN Allow them to cry and let them tell stories and share memories of their loved one. GIVE THEM SPACE If that’s what they need (if you’re unsure, ask them). TELL AN ADULT YOU TRUST If you’re worried that the grieving person isn’t coping, don’t carry the weight of worry on your shoulders – open up…

‘I’d rather weep in a Rolls-Royce than be happy on a bicycle’ A MEGA-RICH fashion tycoon, a scorned ex-wife, a contract killing, a psychic, a prison ferret called Bambi and an astonishing twist that’s left everyone gob-smacked – it’s the stuff movies are made of. But this gripping saga of betrayal, murder and punishment is all too real. And the woman at the heart of it all – the so-called Black Widow – is laughing all the way to the bank, her pet macaw dramatically perched on her shoulder. After serving 18 years in jail for ordering the hit on her ex, Patrizia Reggiani has just been awarded the equivalent of R14,8 million a year from his estate stemming from an inheritance agreement signed two years before his death. She’s…

Turns out SCARLETT JOHANSSON (32), who’s split from second husband Romain Dauriac (34), has an interesting outlook on love. “I think the idea of marriage is very romantic . . . but I don’t think it’s natural to be a monogamous person. I might be skewered for that, but I think it’s work, a lot of work. And the fact it’s such work for so many people proves it isn’t a natural thing,” the actress told Playboy magazine. While singer and actress Hilary Duff (29) has been holidaying with her new boyfriend, singer Matthew Koma (29), in Costa Rica, her ex-husband, MIKE COMRIE (36) – with whom she has a four-year-old son, Luca – is facing allegations of rape. A woman claims the former ice-hockey player sexually assaulted her during…