Innholdsfortegnelse for 16-Feb-17 i You South Africa

EVERY so often something makes headlines and I think, “Wait, is this really happening?!” It doesn’t happen often – when you work at a news magazine there’s not much that shocks. But when it does, it hits hard. The recently released report by the health ombudsman on the Life Esidimeni tragedy was one of those stories. I could barely believe it. What went wrong for such horrific things to take place? How could the people who are supposed to care for the most vulnerable in our society let them down in such a devastating way? Turn to page 12 for more. I can’t imagine what it must be like for the families of the nearly 100 people who died. To know their loved ones were afraid and alone in their…

Just thought I’d share this. I walked past my three-year-old son sitting on the toilet reading his granny’s YOU. CELIA DIANA, EMAIL Ford needs to reimburse customers for their dud vehicles. Gone are the days when Ford was considered a solid, reliable working man’s car! What a disgrace. I bet the MD of the company doesn’t drive a Ford Kuga. DISGUSTED, SMS Where is DStv digging up all these foreign films with subtitles and dubbing? Is this the promised new material? ROMY, SMS Judge Judy is just like Donald Trump – just as racist! I’ve just watched one of her shows – a case involving a white, English-speaking man and a Latino. Guess who won . . . The white man. She should have dismissed the case as they were…

BY LATE evening on 6 January she felt distinctly on edge. She could sense something was wrong. “Why are you so quiet? I’m worried!” Marlaine Pienaar-Vice wrote in a cellphone message to her daughter. Nicola Pienaar never saw her mom’s text. By this stage her phone had already been switched off and she’d vanished without a trace. Three days later after countless unanswered messages and phone calls Marlaine reported Nikki (28) missing to Paarl police. Following a search spanning two provinces her boyfriend, Jaco Oosthuizen, was arrested in Port Elizabeth where he was caught driving Nikki’s Peugeot packed with books, bedding and clothes. He claimed he and Nikki had got into an argument and he’d left her in Oudtshoorn. But something didn’t add up. Just before midnight on 29 January,…

‘Ivanka is the one phone call Trump will always take’ THEY turn heads wherever they go. She’s the glamorous daughter of US president Donald Trump and he’s her dad’s main confidante. Despite having little political experience, Jared Kushner played a major role in putting his father-in-law in the White House. And he’s been rewarded richly with a high-profile job as senior adviser and a direct line to the president. The Kushners are now regarded as one of Washington DC’s most powerful couples, but is their new life in the volatile president’s inner circle already taking its toll? Jared (36), a property magnate and publisher, is less than a month into his job and already seems to be taking strain. When he joined the administration he was reportedly hoping he’d be…

IT USED to be so simple. You wanted to sell your home so you put it on the market and soon had a steady stream of willing buyers beating a path to your door. But not any more – these days many properties stay on the market for months. Sometimes the only way for desperate owners to get a much-needed sale is to slash their asking price radically. Yes, times have definitely changed. The average price of a middle-segment home was about 12 per cent lower in real terms in September last year compared with the peak in August 2007, says Jacques du Toit, a property analyst at Absa. “We’re seeing an overall property market that increasingly feels the pinch of the poor economy,” says Samuel Seeff, chairman of the…

Bobotie in lasagne cup SERVES 4 Preparation: 15 min Cooking: 40-45 min 15 ml (1 T) oil 1 onion, chopped 2 garlic cloves, crushed 500 g lean beef mince 30 ml (2 T) curry powder 30 ml (2 T) chutney salt and freshly ground pepper 8 Fatti’s & Moni’s lasagne sheets TOPPING 1 egg 125 ml (½ c) milk salt and freshly ground pepper 8 bay leaves Preheat the oven to 180 °C. Line large muffin tin hollows with foil and grease with non-stick spray. 1 Heat the oil and fry the onion and garlic until fragrant. Add the mince and fry until done. 2 Add the curry powder and chutney and stir-fry for a few minutes. Season with salt and freshly ground pepper. 3 Bring a saucepan of water…

THE best shampoo is one that leaves your locks looking and feeling the best they can. First identify your hair type: is it curly, thick, colour-treated or fine? Then decide if it needs replacement of moisture, oils or protein, extra treatment or just cleansing. Now it should be easier to find the right product. HOW TO SHAMPOO YOUR HAIR Wet your hair with warm water. Pour a coin-size amount of shampoo into one palm and rub your hands together. Run your hands through your hair, distributing the product in strokes evenly through the strands as you do so. Rinse off the first application and apply shampoo again to wet hair. The first round of shampoo removes product build-up and the second gives your hair a good clean. Massage your scalp…

We never understand how little we need in this world until we know the loss of it – SCOTTISH PLAYWRIGHT JM BARRIE HOMES AND CARS In case of fire, property insurance covers damage to structures and permanent accessories such as built-in cupboards. Your home-loan provider often supplies this type of insurance but you can take it out yourself. For sectional title properties, insurance is usually organised by the complex’s body corporate. Your home-contents insurance, which you take out, covers items in the home in case of fire damage and usually also items in outbuildings. Standard vehicle insurance includes fire damage but third-party insurance doesn’t cover your vehicle, says Dawie Loots of MUA Insurance Acceptances. REQUIREMENTS Insurers might require lightning rods to be installed and fire extinguishers to be kept…

CRASH COURSE IN TECHNOLOGY The owner of a global computer company is chatting to the CEO of a big car manufacturer. “If automotive technology had kept pace with computer technology over the past few decades,” the computer guy says, “you’d now be driving a 32-cylinder car instead of a four-cylinder one, and it would have a top speed of 20 000 km/h. Or, an economy car that weighs 50 kg and gives you 1 000 km to the litre. In either case, the price of a new car would be less than R5 000.” “Sure,” the carmaker says, “but would you really want to drive something that crashes four times a day?” CHARITY BEGINS AT HOME John is relaxing at home when there’s a knock at his door. He opens…

SHE’S now one of the most famous women in the world – and undoubtedly one of the wealthiest. So it’s cool to know she once stared rejection in the face. In fact many, many times. But JK Rowling never gave up and her perseverance paid off. The Harry Potter author is now one of the world’s bestselling writers and everything she touches turns to gold. One of her crucial keys to success was never giving up despite being rejected, and this is something worth keeping in mind. Yes, rejection hurts, but it’s impossible to avoid altogether. “It’s important to realise you might feel depleted, angry and even anxious because of the experience of being rejected,” says Johannesburg clinical psychologist Tyrone Edgar. “The emotions that come with rejection aren’t problematic. It’s…

ONE TOUGH COOKIE Talk about determination! Despite undergoing chemotherapy and radiation treatment for breast cancer, ZOLEKA MANDELA decided she had to get back to a healthy weight and has been working out like a boss. Besides exercising regularly, the author and granddaughter of the late Nelson Mandela also took up a 30-day ab challenge – and the results are amazing. “My back fat has officially fallen thanks to the 30 Day Ab Challenge, my home treadmill, drinking three litres of water a day and cutting out ALL the things I absolutely LOVE – sugar, carbs and junk food/fatty food,” Zoleka said on Instagram. “I had my 11th radiation treatment this morning, I barely have much energy left in me (my doctor says my exhaustion will worsen towards the last leg…

At the time of going to print Beyoncé’s record-breaking pregnancy pic stood at 9,2 million likes, beating the previous titleholder, fellow singer SELENA GOMEZ (24), whose July 2016 photo of her sipping a bottle of Coke has around 6,3 million likes. B and Jay-Z signed the picture, “We’d like to share our love and happiness. We’ve been blessed two times over. We’re incredibly grateful that our family will be growing by two, and we thank you for your well wishes. – The Carters”…

I was a daughter-in-law (DIL) once upon a time, and my MIL (mother-in-law) never said a complementary thing about or to me. Oh, she adored her son and grandchildren. But she never gave me a chance. My FIL (father-in-law) was precious – always sweet and happy. When my son married I made sure to do and say all the things my MIL didn’t. I tell my DIL (daughter-in-law) how pretty she looks, how delicious her meals are and what a good wife and mother she is. She loves me, asks my opinion about things and then I ask, “What do you think?” And so we chat. Don’t force your son to choose between his mother and his wife. You’re a better person than that. And anyway, you had your chance…

CURRIED BRINJAL SHAKSHUKA Give shakshuka – eggs poached in a tomato-based sauce – more substance by adding brinjals. SERVES 4 Preparation: 10 min Cooking: 40 min 15 ml (1 T) olive oil 1 onion, chopped 2 garlic cloves, crushed 5 cm ginger, grated 1 chilli, finely chopped 2 ml (½ t) cumin seeds 2 ml (½ t) mustard seeds (optional) 15 ml (1 T) roasted masala 50 g tomato paste 1 can (410 g) chopped tomatoes 250 ml (1 c) stock 2 brinjals, cubed 5-10 ml (1-2 t) sugar salt and pepper 4-6 eggs TO SERVE fresh coriander toast Preheat the oven to 180 °C. 1 Heat the oil on the stove in an ovenproof pan and fry the onion, garlic, ginger and chilli until fragrant. Add the spice seeds…

Match fruit shades with neutral items in your wardrobe – or colour block them to make a statement LEMON DRESS TONE DOWN For an elegant day look, team the dress with neutral hues (blush, sandy tones and browns). The focus remains on the lemon dress but the colour is subtle. SHOW OFF For a bolder look, wear the dress with watermelon or grapefruit colours to create a fresh and electric appearance. GRAPEFRUIT PANTS TONE DOWN Team the cheery pants with neutral and low-key items. SHOW OFF Wear the pants with a vibrant top and accessorise with another single bright colour. GO TO THE YOU SHOP AT SPREE.CO.ZA/YOU OR GO TO YOU.CO.ZA AND CLICK ON SPREE FOR MORE WOMEN’S FASHION. STOCKISTS COLETTE BY COLETTE HAYMAN 021-937-5465, EXACT 021-937-5742, FOSCHINI 0860-104-764,…

IT STARTED as a nagging pain in my lower back and left buttock. It was the weekend and I thought the pain would probably be gone by the next day. But come Monday it was still there and as the week went on it got worse. My left leg started to feel numb and by the end of Tuesday I was practically dragging my leg around. I thought it must be a pinched nerve. Instead of kicking off my shoes and grabbing a cool-drink with friends after work, I couldn’t wait to strip my jeans from my now swollen leg. My mom massaged my thigh every night and I kept thinking it would get better. After all, I was 22, active and healthy. But on Saturday morning I woke in…

SUICIDE SQUAD 2016. 118 min. 13LV. Action fantasy. R119* In this long-awaited film based on characters from DC Comics, a secret government agency headed by the ruthless Amanda Waller (Viola Davis) assembles a group of supervillains to go on a mission where the chances of survival are slim. A nano bomb is implanted in each of their heads so that if they try to escape or don’t obey his commands, the man tasked with keeping them in check – Colonel Rick Flag (Joel Kinnaman) – can kill them with the push of a button. On their first mission the group have to save the world from the evil ancient goddess Enchantress (Cara Delevingne) and her brother, Incubus (Alain Chanoine). This requires a true team effort, which some members won’t survive…

A All ages D Drugs H Horror L Language N Nudity P Prejudice PG Parental guidance S Sex V Violence LISTEN TO THIS! STARBOY THE WEEKND R195* This Canadian crooner knows how to turn out hit after hit! His latest album debuted at No 1 on the US Billboard 200 Album chart and all 18 tracks made it onto the Billboard Hot 100 Singles chart. It’s the man also known as Abel Tesfaye at his best, experimenting with new sounds and collaborating with the likes of Daft Punk and Kendrick Lamar. He even pays homage to his parents’ home country by sampling Ethiopian legend Aster Aweke. The result is a string of pop-infused gems and an album that’s much more commercial than anything he’s released to date, even though his…

1 ALONSO MATEO VALDES ESPINOSA (9) @luisafere Alonso, from Laguna Beach, California, became a hit when his fashion consultant mom, Luisa Fernanda Espinosa, started sharing pictures of her natty boy on Instagram. But don’t assume she’s behind his snappy outfits – he chooses his own clothes from his walk-in wardrobe when he doesn’t have to wear his school uniform, his mom says. 2 BLAISE (5) AND STELLA (7) BENNETT @stellaandblaise The siblings from southern California both started modelling at age three and have worked with many big names – from Gap and Tommy Hilfiger to Kohl’s. 3 ESMAÉ HARPER (SIX MONTHS) @allthingsvictoria Meet the most chic baby on Instagram! This New Yorker has a classy wardrobe. 4 MONROE JOY WHITTAKER (20 MONTHS) @ miss.monroe.joy This tot from Texas shares a…

WILL KYLIE EVER FIND LOVE? SHE’D been gushing about their upcoming wedding for a while but sadly that dream is now over for Australian pop star KYLIE MINOGUE (48), who’s ended her year-and-a-half relationship with British actor JOSHUA SASSE (29). The singer reportedly kicked the Galavant star out of her London house after suspecting him of cheating on her with Spanish actress MARTA MILANS (34). The two apparently grew close while filming the TV series No Tomorrow in Canada last year. Confirming the news on Instagram, Kylie, who’s endured a string of failed romances, thanked her fans for their “love and support”, adding they “wish only the best for each other as we venture towards new horizons”. Nevertheless pals say she’s “heartbroken”. “She really believed he was The One. But…

DIFFERENT day, different woman . . . that appeared to be the motto SCOTT DISICK was living by when he was spotted cosying up to a bevy of sexy babes while in Miami recently. But there was a reason behind his behaviour – he’d just had a blazing row with the Kardashians in Costa Rica where they were filming a segment for their reality show. Turns out the 33-year-old – who was snapped seemingly gazing at his former partner KOURTNEY KARDASHIAN’s pert derriere – had secretly flown a girl down to the South American country and put her up in the hotel where the crew were staying. After someone ratted him out, he got into a huge row with KRIS JENNER (61) and KIM KARDASHIAN (36) who felt it…

THEY got up to mischief, played to their hearts’ content and enjoyed carefree days on their grandfather’s farm. There were no thoughts of growing old, feeling frail or saying farewell far too young. Pieter van der Westhuizen remembers his and Joost’s childhood as a happy time. The brothers grew up in a less affluent suburb in the east of Pretoria “but it didn’t bother us because they were good times”, Pieter (47) said in a 2013 interview. “We were full of mischief – those were the days when you could make mischief in a nice, healthy way. Things like playing toktokkie [knocking on strangers’ doors then running away] and helping yourself to the fruit off someone else’s tree – things like that. “Nothing terrible, but it did mean Joost and…

IN THE end his kids were the greatest loves of his life and he took every opportunity to share how he lived just for them. He wanted more time with them, he wanted to share things with them, he wanted them to know how much he loved them. Jordan (13) and Kylie (10) were everything to Joost and his life changed when they came along. But before they were even so much as a twinkle in his eye he’d won many hearts. The young rugby star was always something of a charmer – tall, strapping and athletic with piercing blue eyes and long dark lashes. Even a British rugby writer remarked on his looks after the then 23-year-old Joost scored two tries against the Scots on their home ground, Murrayfield.…

COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS EVERY second Thursday a group of mature ladies get together at our church and our group leader, Moira, organises something interesting. Today it was a group of incredibly special people from a care home called San Michelle who entertained us with song and dance. These less privileged, handicapped people miss out on so much in life, yet were so happy and content. They arrived with huge smiles, so filled with joy that they were able to entertain us. Their souls shone through as they sang in perfect harmony and danced in rhythm with one another and the music. It was amazing. It’s with deep gratitude and thanks that we salute all those who make such a difference in their lives – those who are prepared to give…

REUBEN Riffel grew up in Groendal, a working-class neighbourhood on the outskirts of foodie town Franschhoek in the Western Cape, where he now lives and owns a restaurant. The two neighbourhoods are worlds apart, but it was in the kitchens of his childhood that his love for food was formed. His mom, Sylvia, cooked with love and care – now the well-known chef likes to spoil his wife, Maryke, and children, Latika and Max, with home-cooked food made with love. Here he shares recipes from his new book, Reuben At Home. WHOLE ROAST CHICKEN SERVES 4 Preparation: 20 min Cooking: 1 hour 1 whole chicken sea salt and black pepper 10 garlic cloves, peeled bunch of small rosemary sprigs zest of 1 orange and 1 lemon, plus the juice 125…

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‘Action might not always bring happiness, but there’s no happiness without action’ – AMERICAN PHILOSOPHER WILLIAM JAMES FULL BURDEN IS ON MY SHOULDERS Q I used to be happy and my husband and I had good jobs, but then he went through a stressful time at work and had a breakdown. Since then he’s developed a fear of being on his own. He’s lost his self-confidence and is so unsure of himself he wants my permission for every decision. He resigned after the breakdown and started doing contract work but he hasn’t had any since April. He refuses to socialise and if he has to go to the shop for me he phones several times so I can make simple decisions for him. He makes no effort to market his…

For birth charts and other astrology enquiries email Petra at YourStars@you.co.za or go to astrozone.co.za. PISCES FEB 19 – MARCH 20 Towards the end of the week the Sun moves into your sign, heralding the beginning of a new personal year. Apart from planning a fabulous birthday bash, it’s also a good time to set new goals for your year ahead. While it’s always good to first reflect before making plans for the future, try not to let your past failures diminish your confidence and aspirations. Those failures were just learning curves. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 47, 13, 20, 30, 7, 24 ARIES MARCH 21 – APRIL 19 The success of your week will depend on how well you can control your feisty Aries nature. Your energy level is high, but…

The award-winning producer and DJ’s debut album, Unmasked, is finally out! Here’s all you need to know about the local muso who’s been taking the charts by storm with hits such as Let Me Know (featuring Shekhinah). 1 His real name is Yuvir Pillay but his close pals call him Sketchy. 2 The 27-year-old hails from Durban and has worked with some of the biggest stars on the local music scene, from AKA and Locnville to Jimmy Nevis and Danny K. 3 Like Sia and Daft Punk he’s known for keeping his face hidden – although he drops his signature ski mask on the cover of his album. Wearing the mask was unplanned, he’s revealed. “Sketchy Bongo never had a ski mask. [Fellow Durban rapper and producer]…

SPOILER ALERT! Nina recently shared the best news ever for TVD fans – she’s returning for The Vampire Diaries series finale. Can’t wait! ‘SHORT HAIR, DON’T CARE’ The Bulgarian-born beauty, who moved with her parents to Canada when she was two, chopped off her long hair recently and now sports a bob. “I’ve been wanting to cut my hair for seven years but when I was working I couldn’t. I felt like it was time for a change, to debut a new me.” NAMASTE Nina is #totallyfitnessgoals. She stays fit by doing yoga and jogging. She took ballet and jazz classes as a child and even competed internationally in rhythmic gymnastics. #ONTREND She recently hosted a La La Land-themed birthday party at a Hollywood club – on point…

JOHNNY DEPP’s ex-business managers say the star is out of control when it comes to spending, even splashing out millions to blast the ashes of his friend, author Hunter S Thompson, into space. The allegations came after the Fantastic Beasts And Where To Find Them actor filed a lawsuit against the Mandel Company, alleging fraud and asking for $25 million (R337 million) in damages. But the company claims it warned Johnny (53) he was spending too much on his “ultra-extravagant lifestyle”, which includes maintaining 14 properties, 45 luxury vehicles and having wine worth $30 000 (R495 000) flown to him every month. EVAN RACHEL WOOD (29) is set to marry her bandmate Zach Villa. The Westworld actress and the muso, who’ve been sporting engagement rings, first met in 2015 while…