Innholdsfortegnelse for 1-Dec-16 i You South Africa

I KNOW there’s still plenty to be done before the end of the year but I’m definitely starting to get holiday vibes here at the foot of Table Mountain. I’m hearing more foreign languages as tourists flock here, the traffic seems a tad lighter – and the number of Christmas carols and decorations in malls have ramped up in recent days. This can be a trying time, of course, but if you want to make your festive season a time for rest and reflection, get hold of two of our newest special publications. YOU Leisure is a sophisticated take on an adult colouring-in book with lots of other fun activities in addition to the meditative colouring pages. It’s a must-have for anyone who wants to unwind. Our puzzle fans have…

Steve, your letter about not being able to find work (YOU, 17 November) saddened and moved me. I’ve just completed an MA Soc thesis on the unemployment crisis in South Africa. Yes, others feel the way you do you and have lived without work for five years and longer, most with degrees and diplomas and many years’ experience. Stay strong. Talk to a pro bono counsellor in your area to help you with coping skills. There has to be a resolution for hardworking, multitalented and eager-to-work men and women like you. Your children will return to you. They’ll remember kindness by their father, not what he earned or provided. MICHELLE, SOMERSETWEST Steve, you say in your letter that you are a 41-year-old qualified electrician and can’t find work. Why don’t…

CLIFFHANGER . . . How can you not write your autobiography when such an apt title is just ready and waiting for you to put pen to paper? And the subtitle is pretty catchy too: Confessions Of A Shock Jock. One thing’s for sure – if anyone has interesting stories to tell, it’s going be motormouth Gareth Cliff. But the TV and radio personality says he put off writing his new book for years. “The publishers said five years ago I need another book and I kept delaying and delaying because I thought, ‘What am I going to write about?’ I always laugh when I see these people at 28 or whatever writing autobiographies. I just think, ‘Ugh, what do you know about the world at 28?’ ” But he’s…

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CHEESY BILTONG BRAAI TOASTS WITH CORIANDER SALT Make a meal of braaied sandwiches by filling them with this biltong and cheese mixture. SERVES 4 Preparation: 15 min Cooking: 10 min 8 thick slices farmstyle bread 125 ml (½ c) apricot jam FILLING 150 g Cheddar cheese, grated 80 ml (¹/3 c) powdered biltong 1 onion, finely chopped 10 g fresh parsley, chopped SALT 30 ml (2 T) coriander seeds 15 ml (1 T) sea salt 1 Spread each slice of bread with jam. 2 Filling Mix all the ingredients well and pile onto half the bread slices. Top with the remaining slices and secure with butcher’s string. 3 Over the coals Braai the sandwiches slowly over low coals until the bread is golden brown, the cheese has melted and the…

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IT WAS a week of firsts for Kosie Wessels. He went 10-pin bowling, saw a 3D movie “with those funny glasses” and had a blue milkshake at Spur. More than one, actually. But all these events pale in comparison with the day the seven-year-old received his new hand. “Kosie managed well with his stump,” says his mom, Caroline Strydom (39). “But the hand will make things easier.” He’d previously worn a test prosthesis and measurements were taken for the final hand. Now he has it – and it’s helping to make the nightmarish ordeal he suffered in September more bearable. It’s been more than two months since Kosie found a firecracker in 17-year-old sister Annabelle’s room and lit it with a match. The cracker exploded in his left hand, causing…

NASA CONFIRMS EIGHT DAYS OF DARKNESS. This is one that circulates every year. The claims usually entail a looming solar storm that will stir up dust and space debris, blocking out sunlight. It’s complete nonsense. Unlike their terrestrial counterparts, solar storms can’t blow up dust and dirt. JACOB ZUMA IS GIVING OSCAR PISTORIUS A TEMPORARY PRESIDENTIAL PARDON SO HE CAN JOIN THE PARALYMPICS TEAM. This is what Gossipmillsa.com reported in July. “Jail time and criminal charges motivate people to excel,” Zuma was quoted as saying. “When given this temporary freedom Oscar will run faster.” TRIPLE-BREASTED WOMAN . A Florida masseuse calling herself Jasmine Tridevil set the internet ablaze with claims that she’d undergone surgery to put a third breast on her chest in the hope of landing a reality TV…

‘My wife is beautiful, loving and incredibly understanding’ – JUSTIN TIMBERLAKE JUSTIN TIMBERLAKE (35) treated his wife, JESSICA BIEL (34), to a quick romantic holiday in the Caribbean recently. The couple were seen frolicking in the waves, with Jess showing off her trim and toned figure in a simple black bikini. Both stars have been busy lately, with Justin zigzagging the globe to promote the new animated flick Trolls while Jess has been based in New Orleans shooting her new movie, the political drama Shock And Awe, co-starring James Marsden. Justin, who’s a doting dad to their 20-month-old son, Silas, recently joked in an interview that he’s having a lot of fun practising for a second child.…

Looks as if Kourtney Kardashian and SCOTT DISICK may be giving their relationship another try. US People magazine claims the estranged pair have moved in together and Kourt is hoping to fall pregnant again. “Kourtney definitely wants four kids,” a source reveals, adding the on-off couple are currently getting along great and even enjoyed a holiday together recently in Mexico. “That was Scott’s idea. He’s trying to make things work again.” RUSSELL BRAND (41) and his fiancée, Laura Gallacher (27), are officially parents of a baby girl called Mabel. The British comedian and actor, who was once married to singer Katy Perry, had previously stayed quiet about the baby’s sex, even joking he’d like to raise his child “gender neutral”. Known for his wild ways, Russell seems to have embraced…

To the woman as young as my youngest daughter who insists on trying to destroy my 37-year marriage, shame on you! ANGRY WIFE, SMS The leafblower is the worst gardener’s toy ever. The noise is horrendous. Gardeners, be considerate and stop wasting petrol chasing a single leaf when it’s just as easy to bend down and pick it up. MOMO, SMS I hang my head in shame, Mr Zuma (YOU, 17 November). I was wrong to believe in change. You’re destroying everything we’ve fought for. DISILLUSIONED, SMS Here’s our beautiful daughter, Kelly. I found her paging through the best magazine ever. NATALIE LOUDON, EMAIL To the granddaughters of Jacqui Miller, Catherine and Nicole (YOU Say, 3 November): that was the “sweetest” and most original birthday card I’ve seen. Happy 81st…

FOR someone who didn’t think he’d make a living out of music, he’s done pretty well for himself. Not only is he doing rather well from this thing he just “likes to do”, he’s also raked in several prestigious awards. They’re displayed on a floating shelf in the lounge of Riky Rick’s Waterfall Estate home in Midrand, Johannesburg. There are two South African Hip Hop Awards – for album of the year and best male artist, both for his album Family Values – as well as an MTV Africa Music Award for video of the year for Nafukwa. While Riky – real name Rikhado Makhado – shows us around his home, the contemporary hip-hop sound of American musician Childish Gambino plays in the background. “I really wouldn’t have said I’d…

I’M SO TIRED OF THIS HUMDRUM LIFE Q My husband and I have been married for 10 years and have two children, aged four and six. Our life has become so boring and difficult because of the high cost of living. It feels as if we’re both just working, going home to take care of the kids, eating and sleeping – only to start the cycle again the next day. We no longer do fun things because everything costs money, Even inviting friends over for a braai costs money! Is this what life is about – just surviving? Jacky, email A Life is about balance – we all need time for work, family, socialising and exercise and, most important, we all need “me-time” when we can feed our soul. When…

HE’S hardly a newcomer to the industry but Gavin Edwards feels his musical journey has only just begun. After being spotted by former Westlife star Brian McFadden in 2002, Gavin and his band, Franklin, were signed to the Irish singer’s record label and moved to Dublin, Ireland. He eventually parted ways with the band, and his musical career took him all over the world – from New York and Nashville in the US to Sydney, Australia. After returning to SA, Gavin (38) took stock of his life and found a new sense of direction. He landed a spot on The Voice SA and, while he didn’t win the competition, his first single, Sparks, off his debut album, Silver Skies, went straight to No 1 on iTunes just a day after…

‘The stories are often sad and poignant, always ticklish and creative in sound and character’ AGENTS OF THE STATE By Mike Nicol Umuzi The master of the genre is back with another great page-turner. Agent Vicki Kahn is on her first foreign mission for the State Security Agency and her lover, PI Fish Pescado – the laid-back, dope-smoking surfer – gets involved with a case in which a colonel from the Central African Republic has been gunned down on the steps of St George’s Cathedral in Cape Town. Kahn’s mission takes her to a meeting with a model at Amsterdam’s Schiphol airport, then to another meeting with an old spy in Berlin. Both these characters are troubled and threatened. What followed kept me on the edge of my seat all…

HE’S A STARBOY We don’t know what’s bigger news – the fact that The Weeknd (26) cut off his trademark dreads or that he has two new No 1 hits, Starboy (featuring Daft Punk) and False Alarm! Both tracks are featured on his new album, Starboy. HIS BIG BREAK He got his start on YouTube after he caught the attention of rapper, songwriter and producer Drake when he posted three songs – What You Need, Loft Music and The Morning – in 2010. AFRICAN HERITAGE He was born in Toronto, Canada, but his music is inspired by his parents’ home country, Ethiopia. “You hear it mostly in my voice. Ethiopian music was the music I grew up on.” He speaks Amharic, Ethiopia’s official language, fluently. HE’S SINGLE! The heart-throb previously…

GARDENER WITH A NAIL IN HIS EYE These gruesome pictures show what happened after an electric weed-eater sent a 9-cm nail flying into a man’s eye. Doctors at Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston in the US carried out a risky procedure to remove the nail from the 27-year-old gardener’s eye. They couldn’t tell how long it was or its path into his skull, so radiologist Dr Rajiv Gupta used a new type of CT scanner to get detailed images. “It reached almost to the brain. It was a very long nail,” he said. The gardener was fortunate the nail hadn’t penetrated his eyeball but bypassed it. Doctors say had it struck just a millimetre either way he would probably have suffered major damage. The bad news was that it was…

HIS rippling pecs, bulging biceps and thighs of steel have turned him into an action superhero second to none. But when US magazine People recently named Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson its Sexiest Man Alive the staff had more in mind than just his beefy bod – his big heart and gentle nature counted too. “Sweet, smart and sculpted,” they called the 44-year-old father of two, who takes over the hottie mantle from David Beckham. So how did Dwayne feel about the honour? “I said, ‘That’s awesome. Then I thought, ‘Wow, we’ve pretty much reached the pinnacle.’ I’m not sure where to go from here. I’ve done it all. This is it.” He reckons he’s perceived to be hot because he “doesn’t try to be sexy”. “I think it’s also about…

EASY WAYS TO SAVE WATER MANY thanks for the article on grey water (YOU, 10 November). We’re now much more conscious of saving our precious water! Here are a few more ideas: Put basins in the kitchen sink and handbasins and when you’re done with the water use it on flowers and shrubs – you’d be amazed how much water goes down the drain! Shower/bath every second or third day – unless you tend to perspire intensely. Use hand sanitiser instead of washing your hands with soap and water all the time. Use dry shampoo on your hair once a week instead of washing your hair twice a week. It works wonders. Cut drainpipes and secure rubbish-bin-size containers underneath to catch rainwater which you can use to water plants. Plant…

A BMW coupé pulls up in front of a guesthouse near a beach in a popular suburb on the shores of Table Bay. A young man gets out and starts offloading luggage. There’s something familiar about him, the guesthouse owner thinks – and when he realises who he is, he freezes. The guest is taller and heavier than Leon Smith* thought he’d be but there’s no doubt it’s him: Henri van Breda, the 22-year-old charged with the axe murder of his parents, Martin (54) and Teresa (55), and brother, Rudi (22), at the swanky De Zalze Winelands Golf Estate in Stellenbosch in January last year. Just then a white Toyota Yaris drives up and comes to a halt next to the BMW. Daniellá Janse van Rensburg (20), Henri’s girlfriend of…

MANY colleagues give him a wide berth when they see him in the halls of the university where he’s taught for 40 years. Some say he’s lost his marbles and criticise him openly. His legal costs have run into millions. It was a controversial tweet of just 21 words that landed Professor Tim Noakes in this mess and turned him into the pariah of the local academic world. So, knowing what he knows now, if he could travel back in time to that fateful day in 2014 would he still hit the send button? “Yes, I’d absolutely tweet it again because it was absolutely correct,” the sport scientist and low-carb advocate says in an exclusive interview with YOU. When Tim (67) advised a mom, Pippa Leenstra, on Twitter on 5…

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MAKING meals in the holidays needn’t become a nightmare if you plan ahead and have a few basic dishes you can turn to amid the hustle and bustle. Rusks and granola are easy breakfasts, pesto adds flavour to omelettes, frittatas, polenta, pasta, braai meat or chicken, and a pickled salad is ideal for making a meal in moments. And holiday life is even easier if you have a readymade dish or two on hand in the freezer. PRESTO PESTO Change the type of leaves you use or add a touch of ginger and – hey presto! – you can make a different type of pesto every time. A tub or two of pesto is a must in your holiday fridge. Stir it into yoghurt and marinate meat in the mixture,…

1 Mist fragrance on your hair brush and run it through your hair just before you blow-dry – the heat locks in the scent. 2 your Scent favourite your space fra . - Spray grance on a paper towel and put it in your wardrobe or a drawer – your clothes will pick up the scent. 3 Apply your fragrance to well-moisturised skin before you get dressed. This allows the scent to settle better and stay on for longer. 4 Don’t rub your fragrance when applying it – this breaks down its chemical composition, diluting its strength and making it smell different. 5 Store the bottle(s) away from direct sunlight or rooms affected by heat, such as the bathroom. A cool, dry place is ideal for storing fragrances. 6 Don’t…

THE manufacture of suncare products is a matter of public health and environmental concern. At Avène’s dermatological laboratories we’re mindful of this and committed to following an eco-friendly approach to creating sun filters that provide high tolerance and prolonged cell protection, and formulas that minimise the impact on the marine environment. Avène’s “skin protect, ocean respect” approach is an example of the company’s twofold ethical responsibility: it uses its dermatological expertise to develop improved formulas with effective ingredients, while remaining committed to environmentally friendly manufacturing methods. This year Avène is taking sun protection even further. A recent study not also proved its formulas’ efficacy in cell DNA protection, it also showed how the company’s decision to remove the silicone from all its suncare formulas reduced their impact on marine ecosystems.…

LISTEN TO THIS! TROUBLE IN MIND DAX BUTLER Local 60-something singer-songwriter Dax Butler’s second solo album is a hugely impressive affair. He uses his gritty voice and even grittier lyrics on 12 addictive tracks that veer from one genre to another without detracting from the whole. Superb instrumentation, arranging and production provide a moody backdrop for his heartfelt songs about love, loss and past mistakes.ThinkTomWaits meets Americana stalwart Johnny Dowd and it’ll give you a bit of an idea, but the range of styles – from Irish sea shanties toWest Indian-inspired grooves – defy easy classification. Give it a listen – you’ll be humming one or another of its delightful tunes for the next few days. – JOHN PHILLIPS NEW ON THE BIG SCREEN A UNITED KINGDOM REAL-LIFE HUMAN DRAMA.…

Ditch the husbands, boyfriends and kids and invite your gal pals around to indulge in a girls’ night in with one – or all – of these fabulous movies and series on ShowMax! The Time Traveller’s Wife A bittersweet love story about a romance that spans time and space. With Eric Bana and Rachel McAdams. Dirty Dancing One of the best summer love stories ever. A young woman (Jennifer Grey) from a wealthy family falls for her gorgeous dance instructor (Patrick Swayze) during a family holiday. P.S. I Love You A real tearjerker, this romantic drama stars Hilary Swank as a woman whose terminally ill husband (Gerard Butler) writes a series of letters and messages to guide her through the months following his death. Dear John Channing Tatum stars as…

‘Celebrities should never trust their drivers. They’ll always know where you’re going and tip people off' IT’S A Monday morning and I’m in a nondescript London hotel, waiting to meet Mark Billingham in an empty bar area just off the main reception. Billingham – just “Billy” to his friends – has spent 27 years in Britain’s Special Air Service (SAS), fought in war zones around the globe, hunted down IRA snipers, apprehended Balkan war criminals and rescued British hostages. In 2005 he led the SAS counterterrorist team during the London bombings and their aftermath. He is, to put it mildly, the most heavy-duty individual I’ve ever had to meet. Which is why it’s all the more surreal that, within moments of him arriving, we’re talking intently about Kim Kardashian. The…

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THE NAME’S NAIDOO – BRENDON NAIDOO For months she kept us guessing, referring to him only as “Mr Bond”. But DJ Zinhle has finally made a public declaration of love and posted a picture of herself with the man who’s stolen her heart. He’s 31-year-old Brendon Naidoo, CEO of Apogee Empire Management in Johannesburg. And he clearly has her smitten. “@brendonnaidoo you are everything,” the successful DJ and businesswoman gushed on Instagram recently. “Thank you for being my light, for your support and beautiful heart. You are amazing and I am blessed to call you my man.” HERE’S WHAT WE FOUND OUT ABOUT HIM Brendon is a sharp dresser who loves stylish timepieces and suits (hence the nickname Bond). The tall, dark and handsome Mr Bond has a master’s degree…

FOUR decades after Star Wars launched her career, CARRIE FISHER has dropped a bombshell – she had an affair with married co-star HARRISON FORD (now 74). The 60-year-old confirmed the long-standing rumour in her latest memoir, The Princess Diarist. She says they had a three-month affair while working on the first Star Wars movie. She was 19 at the time; Harrison was 33 and married to his college sweetheart, Mary Marquardt. Despite their fling, Carrie says she had nothing to do with their divorce, which happened the same year. “My affair with Harrison was a very long one-night stand. I was relieved when it ended. I didn’t approve of it myself,” she writes. “He didn’t abuse the situation . . . it seemed to take its natural course.” Why is…

INNER ARM Earlier this month Iggy, a big horse lover, shared a close-up photo of another new tattoo, a blindfolded horse. All eyes were on IGGY AZALEA (26) when she arrived at GQ Australia’s Men Of The Year Awards to pick up her Woman Of The Year award. But it wasn’t just due to the singer having nothing on underneath her blazer; it was also because of her new half-sleeve tattoo, which extends from the elbow to the wrist. She’s remained mum so far on the meaning behind her new inking, but from what we can see peeking out it appears to include images of birds and flowers.…