Innholdsfortegnelse for 20 August 2015 i You South Africa

I DON’T really get why people overshare about themselves on social media. But the new trend of oversharing on behalf of your children is so not on! In extreme cases parents specifically share pictures as punishment, which is shocking, but experts agree all parents need to stop and think hard before posting about their kids online no matter what the situation. You might think it amusing that your child is belting out a pop song, but remember once the video is out there it’s there forever. And many years later the amusing clip could be used by bullies at school to humiliate your child. It’s a minefield. Our story on online shaming on page 12 is thought- provoking and has excellent advice. It highlights the many things done without thinking…

Before you post anything, social media law expert Emma Sadleir suggests you ask yourself: do I want to see this photo, comment or video of my child on a billboard next to a very busy highway? “Not just for a day, but for life? That’s how you should treat social media,” she says. Another way to approach it is to think of how the content will be viewed by others, says Helen Gosnell, a parenting skills facilitator at The Parent Centre in Cape Town. “If an employer, future partner or a stranger were to see the photo or video, what would they think? Would it affect your child’s chances of getting the interview or of starting a great relationship? What message are you sending about your child?” Technology specialist Arthur…

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1 LOVE WHAT YOU DO “Whatever you love, just go for it” That’s the advice Leona got from parents Joe and Maria – and she took it to heart, following her dream to pursue music. She was offered a bursary to attend a prestigious performance arts school in London where singer Katie Melua was a classmate. Other famous alumni of the school include Adele, Rita Ora and the late Amy Winehouse. 2 TALK ABOUT X-FACTOR Her rousing rendition of Over The Rainbow during her audition for the third season of The X-Factor was a defining moment in her career. She went on to win both the competition and the praise and mentorship of the notoriously hard to please Simon Cowell. “Leona has the potential to be up there with Mariah…

A All ages D Drugs H Horror L Language N Nudity P Prejudice PG Parental guidance S Sex V Violence LISTEN TO THIS! AWOLNATION RUN R154* As a die-hard Awol fan I adore this album, the second from the electronic rock band fronted by whizz Aaron Bruno. It’s a mix of chord-crunching head-bangers such as the hilariously titled Kooks Everywhere and soft melodic ballads that showcase Aaron’s incredible voice and thoughtful songwriting. There are so many layers to this album – it’s definitely a case of the more I listen, the more I love it. – NICI DE WET *AVAILABLE AT THIS PRICE FROM TAKEALOT.COM. PRICE CORRECT AT TIME OF GOING TO PRINT AND SUBJECT TO CHANGE WITHOUT NOTICE. NEW ON THE BIG SCREEN BOYCHOIR MUSIC DRAMA. With GARRETT WAREING,…

A GOD IN RUINS By Kate Atkinson, Transworld, R446* It must be tough to follow up an award-winning novel like Life After Life, which is probably why Atkinson’s latest is being marketed as a companion piece rather than a sequel. In the previous book Edward “Teddy” Todd was loved by one and all but as a Royal Air Force bomber pilot serving in World War 2 his chances of dying seemed high. By a stroke of luck he survives, and A God In Ruins focuses on how his life pans out. The golden-boy image is long gone – instead we meet a rather average grandfather who’s weathered family struggles and lost dreams, and has memories he’d rather forget. The plot jumps between the present and the past, introducing us to…

SHE’S only five months old but already tips the scales at 90 kg, her skin hangs in folds around her knees and she’s covered in a layer of fresh mud. It might not sound like most people’s idea of a beautiful baby yet little Thembi, whose name means “hope” in Xhosa, has captured the imagination of people around the world because the fact she’s alive is nothing short of a miracle. Behind her stands the reason for her fame: her mother, Thandi, who weighs about 1,4 tons. Three years ago the white rhino was left for dead in a pool of blood after poachers shot her with a tranquil- liser dart then hacked off both her horns. Game rangers at Kariega Game Reserve near Kenton-on-Sea in the Eastern Cape held…

SHE has the butterwouldn’t-melt looks of the typical American girl-next-door, the last person you’d expect to commit a crime. Which is probably why audiences are so fascinated with her in the role that has catapulted her to global fame. Taylor Schilling, with her big baby blues and fine blonde locks, isn’t the kind of person you’d expect to see in an orange jumpsuit. Yet her antics as the star of hit show Orange Is The New Black – or OITNB, as fans call it – has won her critical acclaim. The 30-year-old actress plays Piper Chapman in the TV series, which is loosely based on the memoir of Piper Kerman, Orange Is the New Black: My Year in a Women’s Prison (see box). Taylor plays the somewhat spoilt, previously pampered…

SHE’s incredibly proud of being crowned the winner of Strictly Come Dancing but the real triumph for Karlien van Jaarsveld (29) is that she believes in herself again. “I surprised myself – I didn’t really think I could dance!” says the singer and wife of former Springbok Derick Hougaard (32). “But I’ve proved to myself I can overcome my fears and push myself to do so much more” says Karlien, who’s mom to 20-month-old twin boys Daniël and Eliah. The 10 weeks of the competition have been some of the hardest of her life and there were times when she wondered if it was all worth it. There were plenty of tears, she says candidly. “All the emotions and strain the competition put on my marriage and family were too…

STAR LOOK Actress SARAH JESSICA PARKER sparkled in an emerald green gown by Elie Saab at the opening night of the musical Hamilton in New York. STAR LOOK US model GIGI HADID wore neutral make-up to match her simple yet sexy dress by Guess at the David Jones show. STAR LOOK The Duff actress BELLA THORNE was lovely in a Halston jumpsuit while attending a Teen Vogue dinner in Los Angeles.…

ME AND MY BEETLE I WAS delighted to read the article about the man who cherishes his VW Beetle (YOU, 30 July). I have been a devoted lover of my Beetle for more than 44 years. My precious car, bought second-hand for the princely sum of R1 756 in Johannesburg, still has all its original parts. This car is part of our family. It’s been with us through three generations and we have so many happy and exciting memories. I wouldn’t swop it for any other model or make in the world, and I hope it will outlive me. Should this not be the case, we’ve reserved a place in our garden and will plant geraniums in it. Most importantly, wherever I travel my car brings a smile to the…

ON THE Sonnekuses’ farm, Scholtzfontein-Wes, near Hopetown in the Northern Cape, the farmyard is bustling. They’re making boerewors and biltong, and cutting up game after a hunting expedition. But this is Dorpers country and these sheep are marketed straight from the veld so they have that sought-after taste of Karoo grass and shrubs, farmer Johann Sonnekus says. About 10 years ago his wife, Stephne, started a meat industry on the farm, making boerewors, hamburgers, mince and pies with the help of Anna Magwadibane and Doreen Riet. Stephne also belongs to a gourmet foodie guild. The Sonnekus family believe in teamwork and the kids, Johann and Norma, are also adept at cooking, hunting and processing meat. We tucked into our meal at a beautifully set table under a thorn tree and,…

CONCUSSION and rugby go hand-in-hand. It’s part of the game and you can make a full recovery with the correct treatment. But if left unattended repeated hits can have serious consequences, as club rugby player Alton Jacobs (29), from Buffeljagsrivier in the Western Cape, discovered. Playing for Buffaloes Rugby Club last year, Alton hit his head against another player’s knee during the second half. His fiancée, Natro October (24), an admin clerk, recalls seeing Alton sit on his haunches after taking the knock, but with no paramedics present he continued playing. After the match and for the rest of the evening he hardly spoke a word and the next morning he couldn’t remember Natro’s name. She rushed him to Swellendam Hospital, from where he was transferred to Tygerberg Hospital in…

MY HUSBAND WON’T FIND A JOB Q I’m 50 and have been married for 15 years. My husband was an excellent provider while I was a stay-at-home mom who did contract jobs now and then. We bought a house and a year later he lost his job. I got a job close to home but it didn’t pay much – my salary was just enough to pay the bond. It’s almost five years later and my husband still doesn’t have a job. Our eldest daughter is working and helping to pay our bond and I’m grateful to her but I feel I’m holding her back. I work for an NGO now and haven’t received an increase this year. I’ve tried many times to help my husband find work by sending…

NEVER GONNA GROW UP: JACK PAROW FEAT. RIKY RICK Parow teams up with fellow local rapper Riky Rick for this throwback to his childhood, inspired by the long talks he had with Theunis Engelbrecht, co-writer of his upcoming biography, Die Ou Met Die Snor (“the guy with the moustache”). “I think this triggered a kind of nostalgia in me and is partly why I made this track” the 33-year-old says. “I wanted to make something that was easy-listening, like the pop tracks I dug growing up – a Jackson Five throwback but Parow-style” We love it! USE ME: JESSE CLEGG This is another stunning track from the local muso. The platinum-selling artist’s first offering in two years has been out for a while but it’s definitely one to look out…

VIRGO AUGUST 23 – SEPTEMBER 22 Spread your wings and fly high With the Sun moving into your sign, it’s time to turn your attention to yourself and promote your own interests. Chances are, as a Virgo, that you want to be helpful and of service to others, but this is the time to be kind to yourself. The focus is on self-development and growth, enlarging your life experience and furthering your ideals. Rather than allowing little things to hold you back, spread your wings and fly high. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 44, 21, 19, 24, 7, 30 LIBRA SEP 23 – OCT 22 Since the focus is on your hopes, dreams and wishes, turn your attention to future prospects for work and your personal life. Weighing up the pros and…

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THE top three contestants in the 2015 Championship Boerewors competition were announced on Saturday 1 August at the Hop ’n Vine Festival at The River Club in Cape Town. Their boerewors will be on sale at Shoprite and Checkers from 28 August to 10 September and customers will then vote for their favourite. The recipe with the most votes will be announced on 16 September and become the 2015 Championship Boerewors. For more information on the competition go to championshipboerewors.co.za. GEORGE BALOYI (52), SOSHANGUVE George Baloyi, who’s Checkers’ regional meat market manager for Gauteng North, was ecstatic when his name was announced. It is, after all, his fifth entry and this is his first time in the final. He came second in his region twice before and was regional winner…

THEY arrive hand-in-hand at the Four Seasons Hotel The Westcliff, smiling as if they’ve just won the lottery. They don’t seem to mind or even notice the cold, rainy weather or the wind blowing on this blustery Johannesburg day. In fact Jonathan Boynton-Lee and Jay Anstey seem to be glowing with some inner light of their own as they speak about their relationship for the first time in an exclusive interview with YOU. “It feels like we’ve been together for years,” the Top Billing presenter says, gazing into Jay’s eyes. The two have been friends for years but their relationship took a romantic turn only recently. Jonathan believes this is thanks to his dear friend Simba Mhere. “We made Simba’s death [31 January] our anniversary,” he says. “He’s the one…

Not another nanny? Seems it was GAVIN ROSSDALE’s roving eye that led to GWEN STEFANI (45) pulling the plug on their 13-year marriage. The No Doubt singer, who has three sons – Kingston (9), Zuma (6) and Apollo (17 months) – with the Bush front-man (49), filed for divorce recently, citing “irreconcilable differences”. She’d reportedly become fed up with rumours of his infidelity, which included that he was sleeping with their nanny. “Gwen is absolutely devastated about the marriage ending” a source dishes. “But she had no other choice. She was very suspicious that Gavin was involved with the nanny.” The Brit’s track record won’t help. He initially lied about having a fling in the ’80s with male cross-dressing singer MARILYN (52) before coming clean. In 2004 it emerged Gavin…

A WHITE Ferrari to match her platinum locks! To celebrate his girlfriend, KYLIE JENNER, turning 18, rapper TYGA handed her the keys to a Ferrari 482 Italia worth a whopping $320 000 (R4,16 million). Covering her face with her hands, the reality star (who was apparently wearing a wig!) looked ecstatic, if a little shocked at the lavish gift which was adorned with a big red ribbon. The teen celebrated her big day with a party at Hollywood hotspot Bootsy Bellows, attended by friends and family. Her sisters were there, including Kourtney (36) who arrived with a gaggle of gal pals. The mother-of-three’s estranged partner, Scott Disick (32), apparently didn’t score an invite. THE EX SMILES! Kylie’s divorced parents, CAITLYN JENNER (65) and KRIS KARDASHIAN (59), were pictured together for…

I was touched by Waldemar Schultz’s letter to his late son, Kieran (YOU, 6 August) . We also lost a son, just before his fifth birthday. The added tragedy in our lives is that our family didn’t survive intact. Sadly my ex-husband was unable to cope with his grief, resulting in him pulling away from the rest of us – as if by doing so he could protect himself from ever experiencing such grief again. Foolish, but very human. My advice to anyone experiencing such a tragedy is to guard your marriage. Don’t shut each other out. Share your deepest emotions. Who better to understand than the partner who’s experienced with you the joy of the child’s life and the agony of his loss? BE WARNED, EMAIL • I want…

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South Africa is a world leader in identifying and treating concussion at a professional level but more should be done at school level, says sports physician Dr Kobus Hugo. Usually medical assistance at schools is provided by paramedics, who might not be trained to identify concussions. BokSmart and Sports Concussion South Africa have programmes in place to educate schools, coaches and referees. Concussion SA also runs neurocognitive computerised tests for concussions at a number of schools, says sports physician Dr Jon Patricios. Players suspected of head injuries are immediately taken off the field, says Dr Kobus Uys, an orthopaedic surgeon in charge of first aid at Paarl Boys’ High, Western Cape. “A quick test is done in which a player has to repeat three numbers quickly and without hesitation from…

ARBITRATOR The short-term insurance ombudsman is tasked with looking after the interests of both policyholders and the insurance industry, but when it comes to handling complaints it is independent and impartial. The ombudsman is accessible and offers consumers the opportunity to solve their problems fairly quickly and without taking costly legal action. Last year the ombudsman’s office dealt with 10 253 short-term insurance complaints and refunded consumers R116 million. YOU AND YOUR INSURER If you and your insurer have a disagreement, put your complaint in writing. Make sure you provide all the facts and nature of the problem in chronological order. And remember to provide your policy number, ID number and contact details. If lodging the complaint by phone, record the date and time of the call and the name…

THIRSTY WORK A man from Gauteng walks into a crowded pub in Cape Town, clears his voice and announces to the crowd of drinkers: “I hear you Capetonians are a bunch of hard drinkers. I’ll give R500 to anybody in here who can drink 10 beers back to back.” The room is quiet and no one takes up his offer but one guy gets up and leaves. Thirty minutes later the same guy returns and taps the Gautenger on the shoulder. “Is your bet still good?” he asks. The guy nods and asks the bartender to line up 10 beers. The Capetonian immediately tears into the beers and drinks all 10 back to back. The other patrons cheer him on as the Gautenger watches in amazement. Afterwards he hands the…

PAPER TOWNS OPENS IN THEATRES IN SA ON 21 AUGUST. BREAKOUT FILM STAR There’s lots of buzz around the 23-year-old’s first lead role as Margo in the film adaptation of John Green’s bestselling novel Paper Towns. Just like Margo, Cara runs on her instincts, she says. “She just does what she feels in the moment and doesn’t really think about the consequences.” CO-STAR LOVE She has nothing but love for her Paper Towns co-star Nat Wolff (20). Not only is he funny, he’s also a good kisser, she dishes. FAMOUS EXES The openly bisexual star has dated a string of celebs, including One Direction’s Harry Styles (21) and Fast and Furious actress Michelle Rodriguez (37). PRIVILEGED CHILDHOOD Cara’s dad, Charles, is a property developer and her mother, Pandora, is a…

THREE of the most famous Western composers are Johann Sebastian Bach, Ludwig van Beethoven and Johannes Brahms. Collectively, they’re usually known as the three Bs. Bach is a master of the Baroque period. Beethoven represents the Classic period and Brahms is remembered for his works from the Romantic period. JOHANN SEBASTIAN BACH (1685-1750) He was born in Eisenach, Germany, where his father was the village musician. Both his parents had died by the time Bach was 10 and his brother, a church organist, raised him after that. Bach became an organist too. Bach first worked for a duke, later a prince, and eventually became the music master of the St Thomas church and school in Leipzig. Although his job kept him quite busy, in his free time Bach led a…

JONATHAN 1 What is Jay’s favourite movie? Singing In The Rain or anything Audre y Hepburn. 2 Her favourite music? The Mahogany Sessions; anything indie rock/f olk. 3 Her favourite destination? Sedgefield. 4 Her favourite food? Soup and scr ambled tofu for breakfast. She lik es hot and spicy food 5 Her . favourite TV show? How I Met Your Mother. 6 Favourite drink? Whisky, red wine, champagne. JAY SAYS 1 I’ve got so many – Perfume, Wallflower, 500 Days Of Summer and Singing In The Rain. 2 Indie folk rock or anything old school. 3 Sedgefield. 4 I love cheese! 5 How I Met Your Mother. 6 Whisky and water. JAY 1 Jonathan’s favourite movie? Silver Linings Playbook. 2 His favourite music? His favourite song is Counting Crows’ Colour…

UNTIL recently the lowly cauliflower was the vegetable kingdom’s wallflower. This pale member of the cabbage family waited forlornly in the produce section for a friendly consumer to take it home. There it would have to be satisfied with playing a supporting role as a side dish, its delicate taste overwhelmed by ladles of white sauce and piles of grated cheese in an effort to persuade those around the table to get it past their lips. But the Cinderella of the veggie world is now the belle of the ball. Supermarkets and restaurants around the country say cauliflower is selling like hot cakes. Pizza bases, macaroni and cheese and shepherd’s pie are just some of the dishes that have been given a makeover thanks to this humble vegetable. So why…

• So rock ’n roll! LENNY KRAVITZ (51) accidently flashed his audience in Sweden recently when his tight leather pants split in the crotch while he was performing on stage. Given the I’ll Be Waiting rocker was going commando at the time the moment quickly went viral under the hashtag #penisgate. Aerosmith frontman Steven Tyler (67) couldn’t resist weighing in, sending his pal a hilarious text that read, “Dude . . . No underwear and pierced . . . F*** me. You never showed me that s**t”. Ha! • Did KATY PERRY (30) just take a not-so-subtle dig at archrival Taylor Swift (25)? The This Is How We Do singer, who’s embroiled in a long-running feud with Taylor, recently started following an Instagram account called sluttytaylorswift, which is clearly a…