Innholdsfortegnelse for 12-May-16 i You South Africa

TWO RECENT stories on our website, you.co.za, made me feel a bit misty-eyed. One tells of a little boy who sold lemonade to raise money to help his foster parents cover the legal costs of adopting him. The other is on a 10-year-old with Asperger’s syndrome who wrote a poem about what it’s like to be him. “I am odd. I am new. I wonder if you are too,” he writes. Then later in the poem, “I say I ‘feel like a castaway’. I dream of a day that that’s okay. I try to fit in. I hope that someday I do. I am odd. I am new.” I suspect many of us feel like this at some point – a bit odd, a bit of a castaway, just trying…

HE MAY not need to work another day in his life – although at this stage he hasn’t thought how he’ll spend the fortune he’s expected to receive after his epic David-versus-Goliath battle. All he knows is he wants to finish his BA degree at Wits University without stressing about his day job. Nkosana Makate has had enough stress after taking on one of the biggest companies in South Africa and refusing to back down, even when two courts ruled against him. His tenacity was finally rewarded when the Constitutional Court ruled in his favour: Vodacom has to compensate him for his Please Call Me invention that raked in tens of billions of rands for the cellphone company. Both parties were given 30 days to negotiate in “good faith” to…

FOR as long as she can remember her family celebrated important events with a feast, Zola Nene says – and she was almost always more interested in the menu than the event itself. She learnt from her mom how to embrace people with food and at school mastered basic cooking techniques. Then she broadened her dining experience, working in kitchens in Britain for two years. The experience inspired her to complete a chef ’s diploma. Today she’s the chef on the Expresso morning show on SABC3. LAMB CURRY When she was a kid, curry was on the menu at home at least twice a week. She says her mom makes the best curry in the world! SERVES 4 Preparation: 20 min Cooking: 1 hour 30 ml (2 T) olive oil…

CITRUS KISSES HUES Orange lipstick may be the most intimidating colour to wear, especially if it’s bright. If you prefer subtler shades, opt for pale or dark orange tones. TIP Matte shades tend to stand out more than glossy ones. If you don’t want your colour to be too vivid, try lipstick with a satin or glossy texture. DRESS FOR IT Use bright orange to enhance your outfit. Introduce it as an accent colour in lipstick, a clutch bag, shoes, earrings or a jacket. TIP To avoid overdoing it when wearing orange, try adding a colour such as black to create balance. TOP NAIL TIPS HUES If you don’t want it too intense, choose coral or burnt orange. Rhinestones, dots and nail art add a fun element to the look.…

WHEN she first read the script for her latest movie, Miracles From Heaven, Jennifer Garner felt sick as she imagined the anxiety her character must have experienced. In the film, which is based on a true story, she plays Christy Beam, the mother of a young girl who almost dies from a rare and incurable digestive disorder. As a mom of young children herself, Jennifer says she felt compelled to tell Christy’s story and is eternally grateful her own kids are healthy. The actress and estranged husband Ben Affleck have two daughters, Violet (10) and Seraphina (7), and a son, Sam (4). Did making this movie change your outlook on life? Playing Christy and being in the environment she was in, even though it was pretend, and being faced with…

LISTEN TO THIS! WRITTEN IN SCARS JACK SAVORETTI The 32-year-old British singer, who was born to Italian parents, released his first album, Between The Minds, back in 2007. His easy-listening blend of pop, folk and blues reminds of artists like Jack Johnson and Joe Purdy and it doesn’t require much effort to get into the groove of things. For this, his fourth album, Jack wrote or co-wrote all the lyrics and each song shows distinct character, both rhythmically and thematically. Highlights include the Mumford & Sons-style Home, the mellow Back To Me and the bluesy Back Where I Belong. Three remixes are also included, but the true beauty of this album lies in the original tracks.…

‘This book is about imagination. I think that’s what allows it to feel like it’s almost unfolding in real time as you’re reading it’– DEAN KOONTZ FIND HER By LISA GARDNER, Headline Flora Dane was kidnapped from a beach in Florida in the US and spent 472 days with her captor before she was found. At first she was kept alone in the dark in a wooden box but later she travelled all over America with him in his truck. In the five years since this ordeal she’s learnt how to defend herself and to hunt men who prey on innocent girls. But she takes her crusade too far when she kills a man after enticing him to assault her. Detective DD Warren doesn’t know what to make of Flora.…

TRUCKLOADS OF TALENT Lots of well-known artists worked with Ariana on a few of the songs on the album. Lil Wayne features on Let Me Love You and there are collaborations with producers such as Max Martin who’s been making hits since the ’90s for the Backstreet Boys and Britney Spears. IMPRESSIVE PIPES Dangerous Woman reached the No 1 spot on the Billboard Twitter Top Tracks Chart. Ariana shows off her vocal range in an a capella version of the hit on YouTube which got more than 28 million hits. GIRL POWER She says she no longer fears the stereotypes facing women in power and even wrote a feminist manifesto she shared on Twitter. TEA, ANYONE? If she could invite anyone to tea they would be the late singer Michael…

BESIDES the usual school holidays, every nation also has special public holidays to commemorate specific events. Aside from the holidays we share with other countries, such as New Year’s Day (1 January) and Workers’ Day (1 May), there are others that have a special significance for South Africa and its people. So next time one of these special days comes around, why not think about how it came about. NEW YEAR’S DAY 1 January Like many other cokntries, SA celebrates New Year’s Day on 1 Jankary. In Cape Town there’s also a “second New Year” celebration, a day on which the Cape Minstrels make mksic and dance in a procession throkgh the streets. This dates back to the time when slaves were allowed to celebrate New Year’s Day on 2…

AS SHE manoeuvres her way around the tiny kitchen and living room it’s clear 10-year-old Siya Khumalo has adapted well to using crutches to get about. Her mom, Wendy, asks her to fetch a hairbrush and Siya moves with ease, planting the rubber ends of her crutches firmly on the ground so she can swing her one leg forward. As she sits down Siya tucks her pretty polka-dot dress under the stump of her right leg. Her eyes are fixed on her cellphone and her thumbs move quickly over the screen. She’s playing a game called Minecraft, she tells us, and then flashes a smile our way. It’s been almost a year since she was viciously mauled by her former landlord’s three pitbull terriers in Rosettenville, south of Johannesburg, and…

For one Star Wars super-fan the 1 250-piece Lego Imperial Star Destroyer didn’t pose enough of a challenge. So using more than 25 000 Lego pieces, he made his own version. At more than 1,4 m long and weighing about 32 kg it’s so big about 20 of the official Lego Star Destroyers could fit inside it. It took a year to build and to celebrate its completion the fanatic, known only as Doomhandle on the website reddit.com, posted a picture of his Imperial Star Destroyer Tyrant on reddit and photo-sharing site Imgur. And you can bet even Darth Vader would be impressed: not only does it have an interior with three separate levels, it also includes a hangar bay with ships and is staffed by a crew of Imperial…

She was pretty hush-hush about her budding romance at first, but lately SHASHI NAIDOO’s been quite happy to show off her new love on Instagram. The model and businesswoman has been dating Johannesburg businessman RAPHAEL ROM for six months and the two are clearly smitten. “I actually had a part-time job at his school canteen when I was at university but that’s not how we officially met” Shashi (35) tells us. “We had a short but incredible chance encounter in Thailand three years ago and we reconnected in Joburg” Raphael (30) was born in the UK but moved to South Africa at the age of eight and now lives in Johannesburg. The adventurous couple enjoy trying out new restaurants and travelling together and recently took a trip to Durban for…

INGER JOE JONAS (26) has broken his silence over ex GIGI HADID’s relationship with former One Directioner ZAYN MALIK (23). “I think it’s interesting she moved on so quickly; it was definitely quick” the former Jonas Brothers member, who now fronts the group DNCE, told the Daily Mirror. Joe and the 21-year-old model started dating in June last year but split in November, reportedly because of their “heavy work schedules”. Just two weeks later she was apparently seen in the company of the Pillowtalk hitmaker, who’d called off his engagement to Little Mix’s Perrie Edwards (22) two months earlier. While Gigi and Zayn are said to be “getting serious”, Joe hasn’t been idle – he’s been linked to another blonde beauty, Jessica Serfaty (25), a contestant on America’s Next Top…

STAR LOOK Actress ELIZABETH OLSEN stole the show in a plunging gown by Alexander McQueen at the London premiere of her new film Captain America: Civil War.…

Rachel Roy (42) Claim to fame Fashion designer Why her? Knows Jay-Z through her ex-husband, Damon Dash, who used to be his business partner. Said to be at the centre of that lift incident. And she made everyone suspicious after her “good hair don’t care” post on Instagram. Rihanna (28) Claim to fame Singer Jay-Z signed to Def Jam records in 2005 Why her? She’s been linked to Jay-Z for years. And Beyoncé has side-eyed her many a time. Rita Ora (25) Claim to fame Singer who sued Jay-Z’s Roc Nation for not promoting her enough in the US Why her? People have been suspicious of her motives ever since she hooked up with Jay-Z’s music empire. Mýa (36) Claim to fame Singer Why her? She’s been Jay-Z’s rumoured on-off…

LENTIL AND SWEET POTATO SOUP SERVES 4 Preparation: 10 min Cooking: 50 min SOUP 30 ml (2 T) olive oil 1 onion, chopped 3 garlic cloves, chopped 125 ml (½ c) red lentils 1,5 litres (6 c) water 2 large orange sweet potatoes, peeled and cubed 500 ml (2 c) vegetable stock 2 ml (½ t) each ground cumin, paprika and dried oregano 30 ml (2 T) tomato paste salt and freshly ground pepper TO SERVE 5 ml (1 t) cumin seeds 10 g fresh mint, chopped 45 ml (3 T) olive oil 1 Soup Heat the oil in a large saucepan and fry the onion until translucent. Add the garlic and stir-fry for a few seconds. Add the lentils and water and simmer for 30 minutes. 2 Add the…

ARE you looking for a cupboard to fit in with the style of your home but can’t find the right one? The solution is simple: transform a plain, old cabinet for your bedroom, dining room or garage with these three fabulous and functional projects. (And it is much more affordable than buying it all ready-made.) TOOL CUPBOARD YOU NEED • Pencil and ruler • Pegboard (roughly twice the size of the front of the cupboard) • Electric saw or handsaw • Safety glasses • Liquid nails adhesive • G-clamp • Hammer • Nails STEP 1 Use a ruler to measure the width and height of the front of the cupboard doors. If you have a four-door cupboard like ours, treat the smaller door and larger door on one side as…

I CAN’T SHAKE THIS DEPRESSION I’ve had post-traumatic stress for years after being a victim of crime (several times), a car accident, suffered poor health and more recently a devastating fire in which I lost everything I owned. I can’t keep a job as I get too emotionally involved and when I get upset with procedures I resign. I know I can’t be without a job as I don’t have anyone to support me but even on an antidepressant I have such bad symptoms I become physically ill for at least two weeks every two months. There are times I feel suicidal but I’ve never tried to take my own life. My doctor says I have addictive tendencies and won’t prescribe sleeping tablets. I only sleep about three hours a…

SPECTRE 2015. 143 min. 13V. Action. R129* After the events in Skyfall (2012) Mallory (Ralph Fiennes) has taken over as M, head of MI6, and spy James Bond (Daniel Craig) is on leave. When he receives a message from the previous M (Judi Dench), Bond travels to Mexico City where he finds a clue that leads him to uncover the existence of a vast global criminal organisation headed by a mysterious leader (Christoph Waltz) with links to Bond’s past. Craig’s fourth and likely last outing as the uber-spy hews more closely to what’s expected from a classic 007 film than his previous efforts. This should satisfy traditionalists but perhaps disappoint those who found the gritty, Jason Bourne-style action and much more conflicted central character of the Craig era refreshing. Craig…

GUYANA Jaguar Found in Central and South America, this endangered big cat – the third largest after the tiger and lion – can be found on the coat of arms of Guyana. Argentina’s national rugby team, the Jaguares, are also named after this predator because it represents courage and agility. CANADA Beaver This semiaquatic rodent was chosen because the fur trade formed the backbone of Canada’s economy for about 300 years. The beaver appears on stamps and the country’s five-cent coin and is often used as a mascot for universities and sport teams. Recently some groups have petitioned for the mighty polar bear to replace the beaver, saying it’s “more deserving”. USA Bald eagle The mighty bird of prey native to North America was adopted as the US’ emblem in…

One of the pitbulls that attacked Siya is being rehabilitated at Soweto Animal Rescue and Advisory Centre. Jerry Selwane, head of the centre, needed a warrant from the police in order to remove the animal – the only one authorities believe has a chance of rehabilitation. The second animal was put down while the third was killed by a neighbour on the scene. The dogs were chained in a confined space which would have raised their stress levels and triggered unpredictable behaviour, Selwane says. “It’s a miracle the girl survived.” If you’d like to help Siya Khumalo email careline@dischem.co.za.…

SHE’S richer than Adele, has sold more records than One Direction and is among the tiny handful of one-name stars in the world. But unlike her famous peers you won’t find pictures of this Irish singer-songwriter splashed across celebrity websites or consuming columns in the tabloids. That’s because Enya – she of the haunting song Orinoco Flow – is a virtual recluse, spending her days holed up in a Victorian castle near Dublin, Ireland, with just her cats for company. Even relatives barely see her. The 54-year-old chanteuse, known for her ethereal pop tunes and one-of-a-kind voice, made headlines recently when she was named the richest woman in British and Irish music history with a £91-million (R1,9-billion) fortune to her name. Over her nearly four-decade career she’s sold more than…

No, JACK PAROW hasn’t decided to give up music and become a children’s entertainer. The rapper was dressed up to shoot the music video for his new song Party Too Much – at a preschool in Amsterdam, of all places. “Well, I was there on tour so I kind of just fell into it” Jack says of the video, which sees him collaborating with Dutch band Ertebrekers (heartbreakers). “The basic story is we’re clowns and I’m like a magician and stuff at this preschool. But we’re, like, really bad clowns and I’m, like, a super-really-bad magician. I kind of make a kid disappear and then I don’t know how to get him back and his mom freaks out and the clowns are drinking and stuff. . . That’s kind of…

1 MYTH BIGGEST BOOTY Her butt has been the subject of headlines for years but a recent story claimed she “stuffs her 55-inch (140-cm) cakes in a pair of jeans”. “My butt isn’t that big” exclaimed the reality TV star. “I’d say it’s about 12 inches (30 cm) off. It’s definitely not 55 inches” Now you know! 2 MYTH BAD PARENT Kim hit back at a headline that read “Kim ignores NORTH as she stumbles to the ground”, saying the two-year-old “does this thing where she, if people are holding her hands, she wants to be like, ‘Swing me. Carry me’ She didn’t stumble; she was just playing around. They got a picture where I’m not looking at her and they were like, ‘Kim doesn’t look around; she doesn’t even…

• Top EDM artist CALVIN HARRIS (32) has nothing but love for Rihanna. “The first time I heard her sing We Found Love it was like I was already listening to the radio,” he said. “Her voice is out of control. She has that iconic voice.” The two have reteamed for the track This Is What We Came For. “It was just relaxed; she’s one of the few people who will stay in the studio until it’s done. We were in until 8 am,” the Scottish DJ says about the recording session. Just be sure to heap some praise on your girlfriend, Taylor Swift, too, Calvin! • Good news, ladies – ZAC EFRON is single again! The Dirty Grandpa star and his girlfriend of almost two years, Sami Miro (28),…

A MOTHER’S LOVE MA, I clearly remember the days when you looked after elderly people for a mere R20 and with that same R20 you made a miracle meal for us, even if it was just a few tomatoes, an onion and a little mince. You never stopped working and you always sought to provide for us, for people you knew were struggling, and for children who weren’t even yours. Ma, I love you with all my heart and soul. From the cracks on your heels to the wrinkles on your face and your grey hair, I love you. I admire you and your miracles, and even though it’s not happening right now, I swear to you that I’ll make you proud. I’ll work as hard for you as you…

THE bitter irony of it still makes her head spin. On the same day Michelle Hattingh received a standing ovation for a presentation she gave entitled Any Man Can Rape, the 23-year-old was raped. Just hours after being applauded by her peers, she was lying on a beach, terrified out of her wits and powerless to stop what was about to happen to her. Her ordeal went on for an hour and by the end of it her life had changed irrevocably and her plans for the future lay in tatters. What followed was years of trauma, a battle with depression, lost friendships and a fear of any man who came near her. It’s taken her almost five years to come to terms with what happened to her that night…

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READER Marie Sauzier of Sunning-dale, KwaZulu-Natal wrote to say she knitted this jersey for her greatgrandson Alonso. She’d kept the pattern after it was published in YOU in 2001. We had the pattern retested and adjusted to give three extra sizes. MEASUREMENTS To fit a baby aged 3-6 (6-9; 9-12; 12-18) months Chest width 49 (54,5; 60; 65) cm Length to shoulder 30 (32,5; 35,5; 37,5) cm Sleeve length 21 (23; 25; 27) cm MATERIALS • 3 (3;4;4) x 50 g balls of Elle Family Knit Chunky in Springbok Green shade 156 (MC) • 1 x 50 g ball of Elle Family Knit Chunky in Springbok Gold shade 157 (G). • Oddments of Chunky yarn in these colours for motif: White (W), Black (B), Light Brown (LB) and Dark Brown…

DAMAGE TO HOME CONTENTS After a reader’s Jack Russell terrier ruined an expensive carpet, her insurance claim was rejected. She wants to know why. Your Money asked Lizette Erasmus of IntegriSure how damage by pets is covered in general. She explains that damage by pets and wild animals isn’t a standard insured danger under home contents cover. That’s why in general damage to furniture and other items isn’t covered. ALL-RISKS COVER This cover is usually taken for more expensive items that can be removed from the house, such as laptops or smartphones. It’s additional insurance for which you have to pay extra. This worldwide cover includes accidental damage by tame or wild animals. So if your cat knocks your laptop over and it breaks, it’s covered. This also applies if…

MARRIAGE MADNESS • The best way to get husbands to do something is to suggest that perhaps they’re too old to do it. • Men with pierced ears and earrings are well prepared for marriage – they’ve experienced pain and bought jewellery. • Keep your eyes wide open before marriage – and half shut afterwards. • By all means marry: if you get a good wife you’ll be happy; if you get a bad one you’ll become a philosopher. • A husband is like a fire – he goes out when left unattended. • My wife dresses to kill. She cooks the same way. • My wife and I were happy for 20 years. Then we met. • A good wife always forgives her husband when she’s wrong. • I…

FAMOUS BIRTHDAYS WORK AND MONEY: TAURUS . . . • Is prosperity-conscious. • Works slowly, steadily towards their goal. • Never thinks the grass might be greener on the other side. • Attaches great importance to material security. • Can impede progress by maintaining the status quo. • Wants to build something, whether a healthy bank balance or a successful career. • Is averse to risk-taking. TAURUS 20 APRIL – 20 MAY Get out of your rut and be more open-minded Chances are this might be quite a social week for you, one where you’ll enjoy the company of your friends, loved ones and acquaintances. It’s thus the time to get out of your rut to mix and mingle. It’s quite possible that in the process you’ll meet people who…

PRINCE William and Kate, the Duchess of Cambridge, made it all look so effortless when they toured India recently. Few would ever have guessed thatmonthsofmeticulous planning had gone into choreographing their every move. So what’s it really like travelling with the royals? Having accompanied them on 20 such tours, British correspondent Gordon Rayner describes a strange mix of ceremonial splendour, gruelling hard work – and, of course, afternoon tea. WE’D BEEN escorted by the police to a locked-down military aerodrome and stood on the tarmac as a squall blew rain sideways into our faces. Umbrellas buckled, the cold penetrated us to the core, yet none of our huddle of reporters and photographers would have missed this for the world. When the rain finally eased, the sky was pierced by an…

HE RECALLS that desperate phone call he made to his mother. Tears streaming down his cheeks, Riyad Mahrez delivered the heartbreaking news: he’d just been told he was not good enough to play fourth-division French soccer. “You’re too scrawny,” the team’s manager had sneered. “You’ll get killed on the pitch.” But once his tears dried the youngster remembered the promise he’d made to his father before the older man’s death. “My dad was always behind me; he wanted me to be a footballer,” Mahrez says. And if Ahmed Mahrez were alive today he’d be beaming with pride. Not only has his gutsy son proved his critics wrong, he’s done it in spectacular style. It’s been little more than two years since he was snapped up by English club Leicester and…

TEN years ago few people knew his name. He was fresh out of design school, a young man with big ideas about creating gorgeous gowns and seeing them glide down red carpets on the equally gorgeous figures of A-list stars. “I must be the luckiest person I know,” says Gert-Johan Coetzee as he shows us around his fashion studio in Linden, Johannesburg. “Because here I am and all my dreams have come true.” Today his name is synonymous with South African fashion and he’s become known for dressing not only top local stars but also international celebrities for red-carpet events. On one wall of the studio are framed handwritten thank-you letters from former Miss World Rolene Strauss, public protector Thuli Madonsela and Oscar-winning actress Lupita Nyong’o. In a corner of…

‘They’re working on their marriage’ INSIDER MEGAN FOX AND BRIAN AUSTIN GREEN Seems safe to say actress MEGAN FOX (29) and her hubby, actor BRIAN AUSTIN GREEN (42), are estranged no more! The pair, who split last year after five years of marriage, were spotted looking lovey-dovey on a romantic break in Hawaii recently and word is the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles star is considering calling off their divorce. According to a source the raven-haired beauty was the one who wanted the divorce. “Brian has done everything to try to convince her otherwise. He planned this trip back to Hualalai, where they got married. It was great and Megan is coming around,” the source reveals. The pair are said to be “very excited” about the baby and can’t wait to…