Innholdsfortegnelse for 30 April 2015 i You South Africa

ONCE again I’m in awe of the kindness and generosity of YOU readers. A few issues back we ran a winning letter from Patrick who explained why he hated civvies day at school. For kids like him without money it’s a tough choice - between pretending you forgot you could come to school in civvies or just wearing the same clothes as last year, he wrote. We found Patrick’s letter moving. And so did you. Three kind readers have written to us offering to help Patrick. Tracey Cairns asked us to donate her winning letter prize to Patrick, Odette sent a gift card and another kind reader asked for Patrick’s size so she could donate clothing to him. Reactions to the letter were also heartfelt. You told us you were…

THERE are reminders of her everywhere in their flat. She’s in many of the images adorning the walls, her black spaniel, Lucia, is milling about and a pile of wedding invitations bearing her name is on the table. But Andrew Merryweather’s fiancée no longer lives here - and the date on the blue and white invitations, 25 April, would come and go without them becoming husband and wife. Andrew cuts a forlorn figure as he speaks to YOU in an exclusive interview 10 days before he was due to marry Robyn Siebers. She broke off the engagement weeks before their big day, saying she just wasn’t up to it any more. “It was on April Fool’s day,” Andrew (33) says softly in the home he shared with Robyn (2-) in…

HOW TO WEAR BRIGHT EYESHADOW 1 Don’t apply the pigment to the eyelid and just leave as is It’s important to blend the colour in well 2 Bright make-up eye doesn’t have to match your outfit The idea is to move out of your comfort zone 3 Keep on the the eyelid colour Extending it to the brow looks messy Create a coloured smoky eye 4 Use fewer strokes of colour during the day, then layer for intense colour at night…

Congratulations Lloyd Griffin! Lloyd submitted this recipe to Samsung’s ‘For the love of food’ competition and is the winner in the Braai Dish category. Growing up on a farm, red meat and braaiing was a given in Lloyd Griffin’s family. He explains, when you’re eating braaied meat a couple of times a week you need to come up with new ways to prepare it. This lamb dish combines dried fruit, feta cheese and fresh herbs to create a unique stuffing that we think perfectly complements braaied lamb. INGREDIENTS: 1 deboned leg of lamb, 1 cup dried apricots, 3 sprigs fresh rosemary, 2 rounds of feta, 2 tbsp freshly crushed garlic, 150ml lemon juice, 1 tbsp paprika, 100ml olive oil. METHOD: Soak the dried apricots in hot water to soften.…

WAYTO GO Here’s good news for senior citizens: a zero-premium, long-term medical aid How does it work? Say you’re an elderly person who can no longer take care of yourself but the government says there are no funds to put you in a nursing home Well, this new plan gives anyone 75 or older a gun and one bullet You’re allowed to shoot one worthless politician This means you’ll be sent to prison for the rest of your life, where you’ll receive three meals a day, a roof over your head, central heating, air conditioning, satellite TV, a library and all the healthcare you need Need new teeth? No problem Need glasses? That’s great Need a hearing aid, new hip, knees, kidney, lungs or heart? They’re all covered Who’ll be…

LISTEN TO THIS! UNITED WE ARE HARDWELL R175* If you’re a fan of experimental deep house, this album is for you Hardwell mixes up a range of styles, from gentle and soft such as Follow Me featuring R&B singer Jason Derulo, to EDM on a highly anticipated collaboration with dance icon Tiësto Sadly it doesn’t all work; we expected more from the highly rated DJ On many tracks Hardwell tries to combine too many sounds, ruining the final product Sally is a clear example of experimentation gone wrong – SAMANTHA LUIZ NEW ON THE BIG SCREEN / THE BOOK OF LIFE ANIMATION. With the voices of CHANNING TATUM and DIEGO LUNA. Director: JORGE R GUTIÉRREZ. 7PGV. On screen from 24 April. Be careful with this one There’s a good reason…

LISA held up the camera and looked at the miniature Joel now displayed on the small LCD screen. As usual she didn’t have to say “smile”. He always smiled whenever he looked in her direction - with or without her holding a camera. Out of their group of friends he was the one always joking around and able to make everyone laugh. A trait she loved about him. “Have you fallen asleep behind that camera,” Joel said, “or are you just mesmerised by my ruggedly handsome looks?” He pulled a face and pretended to run his hand through long tresses, which made her laugh because he was totally bald - the result of a realistic homage to Bruce Willis at a recent fancy dress party. Lisa had gone as Cleopatra.…

WHAT IS AVENGERS: AGE OF ULTRON ABOUT? FILTHY-RICH philanthropist and businessman Tony Stark creates a programme that’s supposed to keep the peace, but things soon go wrong and superheroes such as Iron Man, Captain America, Thor, The Incredible Hulk and others have to save Earth from the evil Ultron. WHAT HAPPENED IN THE PREVIOUS FILM? Loki, the evil twin brother of Thor, the god of thunder, had a cunning scheme to grab a source of eternal energy for himself, and the superheroes had to team up to foil his plan and save the world. Of course, this was easier said than done, but no evil force could beat Captain America, Hulk, Thor, the Black Widow and Hawkeye. WHO ARE THE AVENGERS? IRON MAN Robert Downey Jnr is back as Tony…

The name game Match the Avenger names to their real names. Captain America Hulk Iron Man Hawkeye Black Widow Falcon Sam Wilson Tony Stark Natalia Romanova Steve Rogers Bruce Banner Clint Barton Avenger wordsearch First match the names to the characters, then find the words hidden in the grid – horizontally, vertically, backwards or forwards. Spidey’s maze Even Spidey needs help with this web! Help him reach the centre as fast as you can. Animal antics Fill in the names of the animals in each row – and find out the name of our great continent in the shaded blocks. Winter warmer Gran has started knitting a scarf for you, but can you tell what colour it will be? Trace the yarn carefully to see which ball it comes from.…

• Debra Jean Milke: Last month Debra (51) was released on bail after spending 22 years on Alabama’s death row for the 1989 murder of her four-year-old son. Lead investigator Detective Armando Saldate claimed Debra had confessed but it was never recorded and prosecutors hid the fact that Saldate has a history of lying under oath. Debra is out on bail and could get a retrial. • Ricky Jackson, Wiley Bridgeman and Kwame Ajamu (formerly Ronnie Bridgeman): Ricky (59), Wiley (60) and Kwame (57) were sentenced to death in 1975 for the murder of a salesman in Cleveland, Ohio. Last year they were freed after a key witness, who said he’d been coerced by police, recanted his testimony. • Henry McCollum and Leon Brown: In 1984 the half-brothers were sentenced…

• Memory loss that prevents you from doing your job properly.• You struggle to complete familiar tasks. For instance you put a plate of food in the fridge to warm it up or milk in the oven.• You don’t know what day of the week it is.• You forget words in everyday conversations.• You suddenly don’t know where you are.• You begin to make more and more errors of judgment.• You struggle to do sums and recognise figures.• You often mislay things.• You struggle to plan daily tasks.• You become emotional and cry frequently.• You ask the same things repeatedly.…

COURTNEY LOVE (50) says the new documentary on her late husband, KURT COBAIN, has helped their daughter FRANC-ES deal with his suicide The troubled Nirvana frontman shot himself dead in 199h at the age of 27 when Frances – now a visual artist – was just 20 months old “Many people who’ve suffered the after-effects of suicide, and in Frances’ case, like any child of suicide, wonder what part she played in it and why wasn’t she important enough?” the rock band Hole frontwoman told V magazine Watching the doccie with her daughter, who she was estranged from for a long time, was “very cathartic”, Courtney adds “It was an important moment of bonding between Frances and me, and I think it’s very healing for our family and for our…

MIRROR, MIRROR ON THE WALL I RECENTLY spent a week at an upmarket timeshare in Umhlanga Rocks, KwaZulu-Natal, a beautiful site sadly marred by seriously unfriendly mirrors. As I sat on my bed facing the mirror I was horrified to see I had morphed into a sumo wrestler. In blind panic I made my way to the bathroom to check this wasn’t really happening to me. Alas, the bathroom mirror told the same story. Instead of committing hara-kiri then and there, undaunted I popped down to the Wimpy for six chicken wings and chips followed by a waffle drowning in cream and maple syrup. On my return I sneaked another peek at the mirror to see if the wrestler was still there. And yes, she was! But this time I…

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PORK RASHERS WITH HERB SAUCE AND POLENTA Save time and money - cook extra pork rashers to use with the steamed Asian pork buns later in the week. SERVES 4  Preparation: 10 min Cooking: 25-30 min 8 pork rashers salt and freshly ground pepper MINT SAUCE 10 g fresh mint, chopped 10 g fresh parsley, chopped 10 ml (2 t) sugar 2 ml (½ t) salt 30 ml (2 T) olive oil 15 ml (1 T) apple or rice vinegar TO SERVE 375 ml (1½ c) polenta salt Preheat the oven to 200 °C Put a wire rack on a baking sheet and grease with nonstick spray 1 Season the pork rashers on both sides with salt and pepper Arrange on the prepared wire rack and roast for 25-30 minutes…

Think twice before you use antibiotics, warns Dr Monique Marais, a gastroenterologist and hepatologist in Cape Town. “Between 75 and 85 percent of upper airway infections are viral yet we insist on using antibiotics, which have no effect against viruses” she says. “We cause damage to our gut because antibiotics kill various bacteria in the gut” Antibiotics should be used to treat only bacterial infections, so if you have a viral infection such as a common cold, rather give antibiotics a miss. Your diet and lifestyle are critical in maintaining gut health, says Dr Justyna Wojno, a pathologist at the National Health Laboratory Service’s medical microbiology department. “Gut flora are affected by what we eat and how we live. Stress, exercise, antibiotics and toxins can all affect the state of…

WIDOW SEEKS ANSWERS The sudden death of a reader’s husband has left her with many questions. They were married in community of property and she wants to carry on living in the house instead of selling it. But now she has to have the house transferred into her name. Why? She also wants to know if she needs to take out bond insurance for the property if she has it transferred to her name - and how this differs from homeowner’s insurance. We asked Cape Town attorney Sunél Beeselaar to answers these questions. HOMEOWNER’S INSURANCE Homeowner’s insurance is compulsory if you have a bond. This is cover which you take out with a short-term insurer for the replacement value of the structural building in the event of damage caused by…

NO EXCUSES Determined to act after seeing the movie Fame, Taraji dropped out of engineering studies to pursue a degree in theatre arts. In her junior year at college she fell pregnant but the determined star didn’t let motherhood get in the way of her dreams. “I never sat down” she says of her college years. “I went to [the professors] and said, ‘Don’t you bench me because I’m pregnant.” TOUGH COOKIE She loves playing the brash yet glamorous ex-con-turned-record label exec Cookie Lyon in Empire After 17 years in prison Cookie returns home to find her ex-husband (played by Terrence Howard) has used her money to build a hip-hop recording empire “She is what she is – I wish everybody was like that She’s free, she’s in the now,…

ALL THAT: CARLY RAE JEPSEN The Call Me Maybe songstress shows she’s no one-hit wonder. The 29-year-old Canadian is known for upbeat tunes but slows things down on her new single, a soulful R&B jam she describes as her “heart song” from her yet-untitled next album. It’s more mature and mainstream than previous work. Carly says it’s influenced by the ’80s but with a fresh twist. “I want to make music that stands the test of time” BBHMM: RIHANNA American Oxygen, BBHMM. . . Rihanna (27) is releasing one catchy tune after another. B***h Better Have My Money has been climbing charts across the globe and getting rave reviews. It was penned by 20-year-old German muso Bibi Bourelly after people who owed her money couldn’t pay her. Now US singer…

TAURUS APR 20 - MAY 20 Make sure you get your priorities right In true Taurus fashion, the week revolves around your practical needs, either physical, financial or both Since there’s a danger of overindulgence, make sure you operate from a place of need rather than want It’s a better idea to strengthen your finances than add to your waistline If too stubborn you can expect difficulties, either with family members, those in authority or people you deal with in your profession LUCKY NUMBERS 42, 39, 17, 44, 7, 28 GEMINI MAY 21 – JUNE 20 Your planet, Mercury, moves into your sign this week, whetting your appetite for travelling and meeting people You can look forward to lots of social interaction, but be prepared that some encounters could be…

• Is IRELAND BALDWIN’S trip to rehab a result of her break-up from Angel Haze? The 19-year-old model daughter of Alec Baldwin and Kim Basinger explained she was experiencing “emotional trauma”, which some have put down to her recent split from the outspoken female rapper. However insiders deny this, saying Ireland checked herself in “due to a variety of pressures in her life”. • SHIA LABEOUF went off on another tangent recently about how he really hates being famous. “As a celebrity/star I’m not an individual,” he told Hollywood Reporter. “The requirements to being a star are namely, you must become an enslaved body. Just flesh - a commodity, and renounce all autonomous qualities in order to identify with the general law of obedience to the course of things. The…

I totally agree with Patrick about civvies day (YOU Say, 16 April) - so does my principal. Children can be cruel. We have the same problem at our school, which also leads to learners being absent because they can’t compete with the rest or they don’t have R5 or R10 to pay for wearing civvies. Principals, there are other ways to raise funds. Think about Patrick and the other thousands of underprivileged learners. CONCERNED TEACHER, CAPE TOWN • Patrick, my heart goes out to you. Thank goodness as children growing up in the ’50s we had no civvies days. We also grew up poor and many times wore hand-me-down clothes. As a grandmother fetching her grandchild at school and noticing on civvies day how children dress up as models in…

THERE seems to be a dark cloud hanging over South Africa - the gloomiest we’ve had in years. There’s the continual load-shedding by Eskom, the defacing of statues and landmarks - and now another devastating spate of xenophobic violence. The country is going to the dogs, many a radio-show caller has lamented in recent weeks. And readers’ letters to newspapers and online comments echo these sentiments: we need to start packing for Perth, we’re becoming a lawless society, we’ve lost our moral compass. The bad news is things could get out of hand if nothing is done, experts say. But the good news, they counter, is we have the capacity to rise to and overcome these challenges. “We should be worried because things could unravel,” political analyst Dr Somadoda Fikeni…

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I’M NOT one for kitchen gadgets but if there’s one appliance I can’t do without it’s a good food processor; one with a big bowl and efficient motor so I can make anything from smoothies to pesto and dough or pastry. It means no more kneading and no more rubbing in butter and you can make anything from mock puff pastry and shortcrust pastry to pizza dough. t – teaspoon/s T – tablespoon/s c – cup/s 1 SAVOURY SHORTCRUST PASTRY WITH CHEESE Perfect for a quiche or savoury tart MAKES ABOUT 400 G PASTRY  Preparation: 10 min Chilling: 1 hour 375 ml (1½ c) cake flour 1 ml (¼ t) salt 125 g chilled butter, diced 125 ml (½ c) grated mature pecorino cheese pinch of cayenne pepper 1 egg…

AN ENTIRE meal cooked on the coals - that’s the recipe from Precious Ntuli of Pietermaritzburg in KwaZulu-Natal that made her the latest finalist in our competition to find the top woman braaier in South Africa. Not only is it a deliciously simple way to feed the family, you don’t need electricity. If you don’t want to serve the chakalaka straight from the can, heat it over the fire before spooning it over the pap. T-BONE STEAK SERVES 4  Preparation: 20 min Cooking: 30-35 min 4 T-bone steaks 45 ml (3 T) spice mix for chops PAP 750 ml (3 c) boiling water 500 ml (2 c) mealie meal 5 ml (1 t) salt 30 ml (2 T) butter TO SERVE 1 can (410 g) chakalaka 1 Pat the steaks…

MY DAUGHTER NEEDS TO TAKE A STAND Q My warm-hearted daughter has always had many friends but seems attracted to unsuitable people. She’s always given a lot of time and sometimes money to help others, often to her detriment. She’s particularly attracted to manipulative men and is now married to a man who’s a total narcissist. He always has to be the most important thing in her life or, more accurately, in the room. Her career is unimportant to him and she works to support him. He insults her at every opportunity and has affairs, even leaving clues about what he’s up to. When she wants to end the relationship he reverts to being the “devoted husband” - and then she says she can’t abandon him because she’s everything to…

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TOUCH By Claire North, Little Brown, R261 If you’re into thrillers and love sci-fi then give this fast-paced read a try Kepler is a ghost who can move from body to body with just a touch, taking over peoples’ lives for years and leaving them with a severe case of amnesia or using them for a short time and causing just a short blackout Kepler’s latest host body, Josephine, is shot and killed at a train station in Turkey After managing to escape by jumping through a series of bodies the entity follows and becomes the killer, determined to find out why Josephine was killed The story travels across countries as Kepler makes some startling discoveries about the motives of the person behind the attack The story is definitely different…

The 26-year-old is single after she and fiancé, Gone Girl actor Boyd Holbrook, broke up earlier this year. “I’d love to date a chef. I’d probably get really fat but I don’t care.” She loves reading and rates The Sun Also Rises by Ernest Hemingway as her favourite book. “You feel manly reading it.” Her favourite Avenger is Iron Man. “The Iron Man movies are my best. That’s how I got into the Marvel world and became a fan.” She says it’s important to her not to ride on her sisters’ coat-tails. “I never wanted anyone to t ink that I’d use my family n me to get me anywhere.” Lizzie, as her friends and family call her, has starred in films such as Godzilla, Very Good Girls and Martha…

SHAKA was a great Zulu warrior king and conqueror. He ruled in the area between the Drakensberg and the Indian Ocean in today’s province of KwaZulu-Natal. More than two centuries ago there were many Nguni chieftainships. During his brief rule Shaka united more than 100 chiefdoms into a powerful Zulu kingdom. The Zulu nation survived after its founder’s death and was able to resist efforts to break it up. DIFFICULT CHILDHOOD Shaka was born around 1787 He was the son of Senzangakhona, head of a tiny Zulu tribe of about 1 500 people who occupied a territory of 150 km² His mother, Nandi, was the daughter of a Langeni chief Senzangakhona took Nandi as his third wife and Shaka’s early childhood was spent at his father’s homestead, esiKlebeni, near present-day…

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NO ONE could remember afterwards if it was Kate Moss’ idea or that of her fellow model Annabelle Neil-son. Suffice it to say that the two of them were sitting in London’s Groucho Club, having drinks with the acclaimed fashion designer Alexander McQueen and his latest boyfriend, when the subject of gay marriage came up. The year was 2000 - well before it was legal for two people of the same sex to marry. “Would you?” McQueen asked his partner George Forsyth, after some prompting from the girls. And George, a filmmaker, readily agreed that he would. The girls immediately became very excited. Within a few minutes they’d arranged everything: Lee - as Mc-Queen was known to his friends - would have Annabelle as his bridesmaid, and George would have…

HE’S a man who wears many hats - more than 100 of them, in fact. And there’s a simple reason for this - he has no hair. “I started balding in 1998 when I was 20,” funnyman David Kau says in his familiar soft tone. “It was my final year at the University of Cape Town (UCT), and as a result I started shaving my head. “In about 2001 or 2002, I was in London where I was performing shows for a month and I couldn’t find a black barber so I didn’t shave. I realised I’d thought I was balding all over my head but it was just on the top. I’ve been wearing hats ever since.” In his career he wears many figurative hats too - he’s a…