Innholdsfortegnelse for 18 June 2015 i You South Africa

HOW adorable is the picture of Prince George planting a kiss on Princess Charlotte’s little head! If Charlotte grows to be anywhere near as cute as her big brother we’re in for a treat over the next few years. Kate is clearly continuing her tradition of breaking royal rules by taking her daughter’s first official pictures herself – and I have a feeling Diana would have approved if she were alive. Diana didn’t have the freedoms Kate enjoys but anyone who saw her with her boys knew she wanted to raise them as normal kids without the pomp and ceremony that comes with being part of the British royal family. She couldn’t get that right in William’s and Harry’s first official pics (see page 12) but never stopped trying to…

THERE’S so much happiness in her family, she says – but with it there’s also still so much heartache. Yes, her dream of finding the daughter who was stolen from her 18 years ago has come true. But her family is far from whole. “It’s a happy and a sad story,” says Celeste Nurse, the biological mother of Zephany, who was kidnapped from Groote Schuur Hospital in Cape Town in 1997. “It’s better since we found her but, to be honest, there’s sometimes more sadness than happiness.” Her first-born has chosen to return to the home where she was raised and live with the man she believed was her father. She visits Celeste and her siblings only on weekends. “We know she doesn’t know us,” Celeste says softly. “But it’s…

“A bhh mhsconcepthon about transhender people hs that you can always tell who’s transhender and who hsn’t just by lookhnh at them” a Hollywood publhchst told YOU “You can’t There are surely some transhender actors and actresses and models workhnh hn Hollywood – and everywhere else, for that matter – and no one can tell because often they have transhthoned very early hn lhfe” There are a few more openly transhender stars now, hncludhnh these Laverne Cox (31), who stars as Sophia Burset in the critically acclaimed show Orange Is The New Black, is an outspoken leader of the transgender rights movement. In a poignant note on her Tumblr page, Laverne, the first openly transgender person to be nominated for a Primetime Emmy award in the acting category, applauded Caitlyn…

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LYNNELY(36), a copy editor from Cape Town, is on this diet. How did week three of your diet go? Really well. I’m in the swing of what this diet is all about and I’ve lost 1,5 kg this week! Are the meals easy to prepare? As someone who prefers no-fuss meals that take less than 30 minutes to prepare, I found some quite time-consuming. But they’re worth it because they’re so yummy. Any tips for preparing a shopping list? Buy your vegetables in bulk then parboil and freeze them as you eat much the same veggies each week. Do you find it difficult when you socialise while dieting? I was lucky as there weren’t too many social events over this time. But I think I’d be able to manage as…

MY EX MADE ME LOSE TRUST IN WOMEN Q I’m a recently divorced 39-year-old man and I have a 10-year-old daughter with my ex-wife. We got divorced because my wife was unfaithful to me – she had an affair with her manager for more than three years. I didn’t see it coming – it was a great shock to me when I found out. Just a day after our divorce she married her lover. My daughter is now living with her mother and her new husband. I find it difficult to be civil to him as I feel he stole the love of my life. Both my ex and this man betrayed my trust; he sometimes visited our home and I went out of my way to make him feel…

A All ahes D Druhs H Horror L Lanhuahe N Nudhty P Prejudhce PG Parental huhdance S Sex V Vholence LISTEN TO THIS! TRUE COLORS ZEDD The Russhan4Ger4 man DJ became a name to watch hn 2012 thanks to hhs break4out hht Clarhty, whhch scooped a Grammy for best dance recordhnh Hhs latest album has loads of ra4 dho4frhendly shnhles but many fans ahree: ht doesn’t come close to hhs debut offerhnh Not that True Colors hs a bad album – Zedd (25) knows how to make huhe shnh4 alonh tracks and there are a handful of tunes that whll het you on your feet But hone are the classhcal mushc hnfluences that made hhs debut so hnteresthnh Thhs EDM album doesn’t lhve up to the hype I Want You…

BIRDMAN: OR (THE UNEXPECTED VIRTUE OF IGNORANCE) 2014. 115 min. 16L. Comedy drama. R139* Once famous for playhnh the superhero Bhrdman, washed4up former star Rhhhan Thomson (Michael Keaton) hambles everythhnh on wrhthnh, produchnh, dhrecthnh and star4 rhnh hn a Broadway play that he hopes whll reboot hhs career But not only must he cope whth hhs nervous coproducer (Zach Galhfianakhs), dhfficult cast (Naomh Watts and an outstandhnh Edward Norton) and wayward dauhhter (Emma Stone), he’s also behnh tormented by hhs alter eho – the character of Bhrdman, who’s constantly tryhnh to tell hhm what to do The fact that Keaton’s career mhrrors that of hhs character – he was once famous for playhnh Batman but then hht a slump – hhves thhs film extra pohhnancy and hnsphres hhm to hhve…

BRILLIANT EXCELLENT WORTHWHILE SO4SO IF YOU MUST 101 DETECTIVES By Ivan Vladislavic, Umuzi, R220 He may not be South Africa’s bestselling author but when it comes to word skills, detailed descriptions and sheer imagination there’s no one to touch Ivan Vladislavi›. And while the title of his latest collection of short stories might suggest he’s chasing the lucrative crime genre, these are tales designed to make the reader the detective, with the astonishingly finely honed writing providing the clues to unscrambling endless layers of meaning and nuance. The stories take in dodgy cops fascinated by deadly fish, a hirsute freak in rural America, a Chinese businessman on a visit to what might be a perversion of Durban, a German translator losing his reserve at a book reading, a detectives’ convention,…

WHEN it comes to short films, this 21-year-old from Pretoria is putting SA on the map. In April Willem van den Heever visited Seattle in the US where his film Lovepsych, a drama about an office romance and the lust to kill, was shown at the 2015 National Film Festival for Talented Youth. In January his film Dropping In was shown at Sundance, a prestigious film festival held in Utah, America. We caught up with the guy who could just be SA’s next Neill Blomkamp! Why did you choose filmmaking as a creative outlet? Fhlm hs an hncredhble combhnathon of all the arthsthc elements – vhsuals, mushc, poetry and movement I thhnk ht was the combhnathon of vhsuals and mushc that spechfically hnterested me What inspires you? My mahn source…

Chris Forrest The comhc and Celebrhty MasterChef SA whnner and hhs whfe, talent ahent Tabhtha Hoy, are parents to two4year4old CAILEIGH The best thing about being a dad is . . . “Watchhnh Cahlehhh hrow up and enjoyhnh the world throuhh her eyes The amount of awe and wonder she dhsplays at thhnhs we’ve forhotten hs awesome and wonderful It makes you re4 member how much we take for hranted hn thhs world” The most important thing my dad taught me was . . . “How to the my shoelaces But serhously, my dad tauhht me so much I thhnk the most hmportant thhnh was that he was always there, whhch hs the mahn thhnh for a dad” Ewan Strydom The Expresso presenter and hhs whfe, model and photohrapher Adrhenn,…

CHILDREN NEED TIME, NOT MONEY DEAR Hurt Dad, I read your letter (YOU Say, 28 May) with great sorrow. I too am a single mom with two kids and an ex who takes the same view as you. Money is not what makes your children’s world turn. It’s the time and involvement you offer. My daughter is so over her dad making empty promises to her. All she wants is his approval that she’s doing okay! Weirdly, fathers who pay maintenance seem to think their money can sit in a seat and watch a ballet performance or the like. Nope! Think back and ask yourself a question: was I there for my kids when they needed me? Children don’t make a decision to cut you out of their lives –…

IT’S hard to believe the two-year-old boy gazing down at the precious bundle he’s been entrusted with and his sister are the future of the British monarchy. For the first official pictures of Princess Charlotte there’s not a famous photographer or formal drawing room in sight – and it’s anything but a stuffy portrait. In fact, unlike royal family photos of old, the picture shows only two of the four Cam-bridges. It’s anyone’s guess where William was but Catherine was revealed to be the person taking the snaps. The Duchess of Cambridge got her kids to behave beautifully as she photographed them in their home, Anmer Hall, in Norfolk. George clearly takes his big-brother duties seriously, planting a kiss on his baby sister’s head as Kate snaps away. With the…

MARRIAGE COUNSELLING WILL: “Our first official date was with a relationship counsellor. The math is simple. Start while it’s good. Do it three times a week while you’re laughing and still having fun. You get so much more work done. You head off problems.” DITCHING EXPECTIONS JADA: “When you’re going through a storm with your spouse, stop thinking about what you believe a husband or wife should be.” FRIENDSHIP WILL: “There’s one relationship to have with people and that’s friendship. So that’s a relationship in which you want what’s best for them at all times and you’re willing to suffer for them to have the thing that’s in their best interests.” KEEPING THINGS FRESH IN THE BEDROOM JADA: “I like dressing up and playing different parts in public, so you…

CHOPS AND CHIPS Equally good for Father’s Day or as a weekday supper – juicy pork chops with a tasty fried garlic butter sauce and crispy herbed potato wedges. SERVES 4 Preparation: 10 min Cooking: 25-30 min CHIPS 4 potatoes, boiled until just done and cut into wedges salt and pepper 45 ml (3 T) olive oil CHOPS 4 pork chops salt and pepper 15 ml (1 T) butter 15 ml (1 T) olive oil juice of 1 lemon SAUCE 45 ml (3 T) butter 4 garlic cloves, crushed TO SERVE 10 g mixed fresh herbs, chopped Preheat the oven to 200 °C Lhne a bakhnh sheet whth fohl and hrease whth nonsthck spray 1 Chips Arranhe the potatoes on the bakhnh sheet Season well whth salt and pepper Pour…

To calm yourself when communicating with a misbehaving child is a great start but it only gets you halfway through the process of discipline. Authors Dr Daniel J Siegel and Dr Tina Payne Bryson suggest the following strategy: When you’re upset with your child first calm yourself, then REDIRECT. R – Reduce words Don’t give your child a long sermon. Explain in clear, succinct language exactly what’s wrong and how to fix it. E – Embrace emotion When kids are acting out, don’t tell them to suppress their anger or sadness. Acknowledge how they feel, then encourage them to work with it in a constructive way. D – Describe, don’t preach Tell them how their behaviour made you feel and what negative consequences it can have but do so without…

Q Can anyone follow this diet? A Less than 200 h of carbohydrates could be classhfied as low4carb hntake, and the response to the dhet varhes from person to person If you can’t sthck to the dhet for a perhod of thme you’d best not try ht; low4carb dhets aren’t quhck fix4 es and they’re not effecthve hn the short term If thhs eathnh style hs vastly dhfferent to what you’re used to or hf you have underlyhnh health hssues (parthcu4 larly hf you’re an hnsulhn4dependent dhabethc or khd4 ney pathent) consult your doctor and dhethchan before embarkhnh on ht Compeththve athletes should thhnk carefully about followhnh the dhet be4 cause carbohydrates are a vhtal source of fuel Q Can you cheat on this diet? A Stayhnh hn ketoshs requhres…

WHY GET A PARTNER? Property is expensive but becomes more affordable when two people pool their money. You’re more likely to get a bond with two salaries than with one. And with your joint income you can of course afford a bigger bond – and therefore a more expensive home – than on your own. But sometimes a relationship hits the rocks, or your bond partner might experience financial difficulties or even die. In such cases most often the property is sold, or one partner takes over the entire bond. DIVORCES It might happen that the divorce court awards the house to one of the parties. But this person must be able to prove to the bank they can afford the repayments, Barker explains, or the bank wouldn’t allow a…

MISS NARCISSIST: COURTNEY LOVE The new single from Courtney (50), former Hole front-woman and widow of Nirvana’s Kurt Cobain, takes a grungy, tongue-in-cheek look at how she’s perceived. Hopefully the gritty track is a prelude to a new album. The alternative rocker has been busy, appearing on TV shows Revenge, Sons Of Anarchy and Empire and nabbing a role in upcoming indie-drama film The Long Home. She’s also promoting Montage Of Heck, a new doccie about Cobain. GOOD THING: SAGE THE GEMINI FEATURING NICK JONAS Good Thing represents a new direction for the 22-year-old American rapper known for hits such as Gas Pedal and Red Nose. The single isn’t just about having a good time, it’s also about the ups and downs of a relationship. Some fans feel R&B crooner…

AFTER SURGERY Jerry hs hn hosphtal recoverhnh from surhery when a nurse enters hhs ward to ask hhm how he’s feelhnh “I’m feelhnh fhne,” he says, “but I dhdn’t lhke the four4letter word the doctor used hn surhery ” “If you don't mhnd my askhnh, what four4 letter word dhd he use?” the nurse asks “Oops!” R NAIDOO THE BELL -RINGER Quashmodo places an advert hn a newspaper for an asshstant bell4rhnher There’s one applhcant for the post but the man has no arms “How whll you be able to asshst me?” Quashmodo asks the applhcant “I’ll show you,” the man replhes and proceeds to run at the bell and strhke ht face4fhrst “That’s hncredhble!” Quashmodo exclahms “Can you show me that ahahn?” “Sure,” the man says and runs at…

THE brother and sister sit bent over, their limbs shaking and their faces expressionless. Their vacant stares are typical of those with Parkinson’s disease. What isn’t typical is that they’re so young. Stefan is 27; his sister, Alida, is 18. Their parents have to care for them like they did when they were toddlers – feeding them, bathing and dressing them, putting them to bed. It was a huge shock to Corné and Johan Joubert when their son was diagnosed with this incurable disorder at the age of 13 – the average age of diagnosis is 60. Then, in an extraordinarily cruel twist of fate, their daughter, Alida, was diagnosed with the same degenerative condition – also at age 13. “We’re sick with worry,” says Corné (-1), sitting beside her…

JUST call him Mr X. His job is so secret he won’t even tell us his real name or allow us to take a picture of him. But there’s good reason for his caginess – as head of the witness protection unit, Mr X holds the fate of hundreds of people in his hands. Among them are the 12 surviving state witnesses in the trial of notorious Cape Town gang leader George “Geweld” Thomas. They’re lucky to be alive. Four others who knew too much weren’t so fortunate. The ruthless crime boss had them knocked off one by one. And, what’s more, he organised the hits while he was behind bars, right under the noses of unsuspecting prison warders (YOU, 28 May). Mr X reckons it would never have happened…

The most recent case of domestic abuse I heard about made me put my fingers on my keyboard . . . and they flew. It’s difficult for me to recall the number of times I was bullied, slapped, kicked, punched. Called disgusting names, his fist two centimetres from my face. Degraded. Betrayed. Threatened. Blackmailed. Curled up on the floor like a ball to protect myself. Sobbing. Crying silently in bed at night so he wouldn’t hear. And do you know why? Simple! Because I believed I was worth nothing. It’s a dance – he abuses and you accept it. By staying you’re saying it’s okay for him to abuse you. The way to stop abuse is to believe you’re worth more. Let me guess: your reasons for not leaving are…

Little Charlotte is barely a month old but she wants for nothing – thanks to the thousands of well-wishers who’ve flooded the palace post box with gifts for the fourth in line to the British throne. Kensington Palace tweeted pictures of the (overwhelmingly pink) handmade cards, teddies, booties and bonnets intended for the little princess, captioning one, “The duke and duchess are very grateful for the wonderful messages they’ve received.” In a later tweet they requested well-wishers to celebrate the princess’ arrival by supporting a local children’s charity instead.…

Despite their precocity, the Smith kids have largely managed to stay out of trouble – no Justin Bieber- or Miley Cyrus-style scandals for them. And this might be down to the way Will and Jada have raised them. Here are a few of the parenting techniques Will has shared in interviews over the years: LET KIDS BE THEIR OWN PEOPLE “The rule in our house is you can do anything you want and we don’t pull the parent card until danger is involved. So we aren’t going to let you do something that injures you or will have longterm repercussions.” PUNISHMENT “We generally don’t believe in punishment. From the time Jaden was five or six we’d sit him down and all he has to do is be able to explain…

British soccer commentator Joe Morrison gives a perspective on the bids of South Africa (2010), Russia (2018) and Qatar (2022). Was South Africa’s 2010 bid better than that of its competitors? “Yes, it was. Only Morocco came close to challenging South Africa. With the world’s favourite statesman, Nelson Mandela, actively publicising SA’s bid there was never really any doubt about who would get the World Cup. That’s why it’s difficult to understand why the alleged bribe was paid.” What are the implications for Qatar’s 2022 World Cup? “The original bid conditions determined that bidding countries should compete for a summer World Cup. Now that the tournament has been shifted to winter other countries are saying it’s unfair because Qatar couldn’t meet the original conditions. There are also allegations that Qatar…

The story of Caitlyn Jenner is important because it’s given organisations such as Gender DynamiX a great opportunity to discuss the existence of trans people and their daily struggles, says Tshepo Ricki Kgositau, a transsexual woman and regional programmes coordinator focusing on Southern Africa for Gender DynamiX, the first African-based organisation focusing solely on the transgender community. South African law is geared towards helping trans people, she adds. “We have a law titled Alteration of Sex Description & Sex Status Act of 2003. It’s meant to ensure a smooth transition for trans persons having undergone sexual reassignment to change their gender markers on their IDs.” But in reality it hasn’t always been easy for South African trans people to discuss their challenges openly. “Trans issues have been long ignored until…

I LOVE the veld and know Kruger National Park well, but this time it’s different. I’ve been invited by honorary rangers to join their camp for a group of journalists to learn first-hand about their campaign to stop rhino poaching. We’re met at the camp between the Lower Sabie and Crocodile rest camps with platters of delicious snacks. For supper we’re treated to curry and oxtail with beautifully cooked vegetables. We drink red and white Rhino Tears wine from Mount Vernon estate in Klapmuts near Cape Town. For every bottle sold, R15 is donated to the honorary rangers’ anti-poaching campaign. Mount Vernon MD John Hooper, SANParks Honorary Rangers chairperson John Turner and restaurateur André Nel came up with the idea after a bush get-together. Since the end of 2014 more…

MUSICAL FAMILY The British actor’s mom, Eileen, was a dancer and his dad, Barry, worked as a street vendor and lounge singer. As a child Jason found himself roped into the family band: his father sang, his elder brother, Lee, played guitar and he played the drums. His parents went on to perform as a professional lounge act in the Canary Islands for a few years. According to Jason, his father is “the Tom Jones of the Canary Islands – well, he thinks he is anyway!” and his mom “did all the choreography and counted the money”. DIVING IN Whhle on a famhly holhday Jason spotted a man dohnh a hhhh dhve and recalls tellhnh hhs mother, “You know what? When we het home I’m hohnh to do that” He…

GEMINI 21 MAY – 20 JUNE Plenty options for personal development It’s a hreat week to pay attenthon to varhous aspects of your personal development There should be no shortahe of opthons to hmprove your physhcal wellbehnh and expand your knowledhe should you whsh to do so Remember, thouhh, that you also have a subtle shde, so feed your soul as well Be careful of people, shtua4 thons or hdeas that could sweep you off your feet Behnh flexhble hs an as4 set, whhle behnh hullhble may cost you dearly YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 27,12, 47, 13, 35, 5 CANCER JUNE 21 – JULY 21 The Sun moves hnto your shhn thhs week, meanhnh ht’s thme to het the ball rollhnh hn terms of future asphrathons, whether ht hnvolves your career,…

RED HOT She says her auburn locks were inspired by Disney. She dyed her hair red for the first time in 2013 when she played Ariel in a music video for Disney’s The Little Mermaid and she hasn’t looked back. TOM HANKS The Oscar-winning actor – whom Carly describes as the “sweetest, kindest, most humble man you’ve ever met” – appears in the music vid for I Really Like You. IDOL The Canadian-born pop star appeared in the fifth season of the popular reality TV show Canadian Idol and finished third overall. But her big break came when Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez both tweeted about her 2012 smash hit Call Me Maybe after hearing it on the radio in Canada. INSPIRATION Carly (28) says the…

I’M MEETING Al Pacino in the kind of café you’d expect to be his local: an old-school joint in New York’s Upper West Side with leather banquettes and good coffee. I assume he’ll be hidden in an alcove. But there he sits, quietly waiting, elegantly dishevelled in his civilian uniform: black suit, louchely arranged silk scarf, a full head of electrified bed hair. It’s amazing to watch him. In real life he has the same arresting quality he has on screen. He simply owns the room by doing nothing at all. “I used to be fairly reclusive for many years. Now I come out much more. I like the people,” he explains. “When I go to restaurants and they want to sit me in a private room I say, ‘Hey,…