Dear Keren
We have family in New Zealand, and some of my kids’ cousins are coming to the UK to visit. I’m happy to put them up, as their parents have had us to stay. I’d agreed to have two over the summer, but, since then, my daughter has split from her long-term partner and come home. I now only have one spare room. I asked my son if he and his wife could help out, and he said it wasn’t convenient. I always put myself out for my children, so I’m hurt and disappointed.
Phoebe, Birmingham
AI can understand it’s a nuisance, but it was you, not your children, who chose to have the cousins to stay. As adults, it’s their choice who they have to stay, and it’s…