My friends don’t get buriedin cemeteries anymore, their wivescan’t stand the sadnessof funerals, the spectacleof wreaths and prayers, tear-soakedspeeches delivered from the altar,all those lies and encomiums,the suffocating smell of flowersfilling everything.No more undertakers in black suitsclutching handkerchiefs,old buddies weeping in corners,telling off-color stories, nipping shots,no more covered mirrors,black dresses, skullcaps and crucifixes.Sometimes it takes me a year or twoto get out to the back yard in Sheffieldor Fresno, those tall ashes scatteredunder a tree somewhere in a parksomewhere in New Jersey.I am a delinquent mournerstepping on pinecones, forgetting to pray.But the mourning goes on anywaybecause my friends keep dyingwithout a schedule,without even a funeral,while the silencedrums us from the other side,the suffocating smell of flowersfills everything, always,the darkness grows warmer, then colder,I just have to lie down on the…