Innholdsfortegnelse for 7 November 2016 i New Zealand Woman's Weekly

‘I’ve had such a learning curve in our marriage. When she’d get scared, I’d think she was angry’ Theirs was always an unlikely union. He the recovering addict country singer; she the A-list movie star and former wife of one of Hollywood’s most powerful men. Their marriage in 2006, which came just four weeks after they started dating, shocked the entertainment world and over the years has prompted regular rumours about whether their relationship is in turmoil. But against the odds, Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban have been determined to show the world that love conquers all. And indeed it has – the couple are celebrating their 10th wedding anniversary and seem stronger than ever, with Keith (48) recently saying of his beautiful wife, “If I’m a better man, it’s…

‘I can’t ever take it back once it’s out there. But if it happened to me, it’s in the book’ She’s one of the funniest women in New Zealand, regularly selling out theatres and auditoriums around the country with her trademark deadpan humour, as well as making us laugh in our lounges with her frequent appearances on 7 Days. As the Weekly takes a few snaps of Urzila Carlson in the West Auckland home she shares with her wife Julie, their two children and their pup Molly, she is regaling the crew with joke after joke. “Don’t forget to mention the new lawn! It’s beautiful!” the 40-year-old cries as she poses on her couch, legs in the air and eyes wide. “Actually, can you please go and get that fancy…

Quick fire: What moves me to tears... The pain of other people and animals. I am reading... The Book of Joy by the Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu, plus Deepak Chopra’s The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success. I hope I am remembered for... Helping others to live happier and more fulfilling lives. Hopefully, the work I do helps normalise reaching out for help. “I’ve always taken a holistic view of life and I focus a lot on living well, eating well and getting plenty of exercise because I believe these are all vital to our wellbeing – as is intimacy. I was very lucky to grow up with open-minded parents who were frank and honest about sexuality, so I have always seen it as a normal and important part of…

STRAWBERRY & RHUBARB MAKES 1 x 23cm cheesecake We find it is best to make this dessert the day before and allow it to chill in the fridge overnight, as it is much easier to cut when firm. 1 recipe Sweet Pastry (see right) FILLING 1.5kg full-fat cream cheese 1 cup sugar 3 eggs 5 egg yolks 200ml cream Zest of 3 lemons Seeds of 1 vanilla pod (or 1 tsp vanilla paste) TOPPING 3 stalks rhubarb Zest and juice of 2 oranges 1 tsp rosewater 1 cup caster sugar 1 punnet strawberries SAUCE 2 punnets strawberries ½ cup caster sugar 2 tbsp lemon juice ½ cup strawberry jam 1 Make the Sweet Pastry. 2 Preheat oven to 180°C. Line the base and sides of a 23cm round springform tin…

1 Get shorty Tailored shorts are such a chic alternative to a skirt for the warmer months. When buying shorts, always remember to sit down in them to see how far up the thigh the hem moves. 2 Shirt dress season A shirt dress with its looser fit is a perfect option for steamy summer days. Here are some great options for you to try. 3 The Spanish wedge The espadrille is trending strongly. Combining the rope sole with the wedge style gives you height with the added bonus of being both solid and comfortable. FIND IT COLETTE BY COLETTE HAYMAN (09) 815 1481 COUNTRY ROAD 0800 105 655 DECJUBA (09) 520 0955 ESPRIT 0800 377 748 EZIBUY 0508 500 500 FARMERS 0800 327 637 GLASSONS 0800 GLASSONS JACQUIE-E 0800…

Whether you wear it with a sweep of bronzer to complete a barely-there look or with a dramatic smoky eye to balance it out – nude is a staple of any woman’s lipstick wardrobe. Choosing one that doesn’t make you look washed out, however, can be a challenge. If you want to find the ultimate nude lippy, like our model Gloria, follow these tips... USE THE NATURAL COLOUR OF YOUR LIPS AS A GUIDE Make-up maestro Bobbi Brown says your perfect nude should just enhance the natural shade of your lip rather than change it. Her suggestion is to go one half-shade darker than the colour of your bare lips. GO SHEER Choose a lip product that has enough transparency for your own natural lip colour to shine through, such…

Here’s a good reason to take up golf – it may be able to add years to your life and prevent serious illnesses. A major review of the health benefits of the game has found it has a physical and mental impact on people who play, and the effects may increase the older you are. Scientists from the University of Edinburgh analysed more than 5000 studies into golf and wellbeing, and concluded that regularly playing 18 – or even nine – holes can improve the health of our heart, arteries and lungs. It can positively affect metabolism and improve balance and stamina in older people. Lead scientist Dr Andrew Murray says, “We know the moderate physical activity that golf provides increases life expectancy, has mental health benefits and can help…

Looking good Thumbs up to Jackie, Michelle, Jennifer and Peta – you look fabulous (24.10.16). We all start off as spring chickens, you experiment, try new fashions and, no matter what, you still look cute. Then whoops – we’re suddenly in our autumn era. That’s when we should avoid black unless we’ve got perfect skin. Black can be cruel; it shows up wrinkles. Mutton dressed as lamb is a 65-year-old in denim shorts with frayed hems. J Prikkel, Auckland $100 WINNING LETTER Nana’s gorgeous girl Congratulations to Nan Kerre (17.10.16). What wonderful news for you. Yes, a grandchild is the most precious gift you can receive. My granddaughter was born in a different city and, from an early age, each week her mother would put the phone to her ear…

She is a widow in her sixties and this is her first novel. She gave up her career and returned to her hometown, Los Alamos, in New Mexico, where her father worked on the project to develop nuclear weapons during World War II. I walked away from law to become a writer because… I’d always wanted to write; it was what I felt I was meant to do and yet I hadn’t followed through. My husband died prematurely, excruciatingly aware of all that he would never do, and I promised myself I would not die with similar regrets. I wrote this story because… I wanted to honour my mother and those women of her generation who so generously lent me their knowledge, energy and talents when, due to cultural limitations,…

‘I had no time to avoid him. I knew I shouldn’t swerve at 100km an hour – all the road safety ads tell you so’ I hope you had the most wonderful Labour Weekend, however you spent it. Tom and I went up to the sanctuary we’ve bought in the Hokianga. I’ve written about the place before – it’s thanks to Wendyl Nissen that we were introduced to the utter paradise that is the Hokianga. I had never been there until I went to stay with Wendyl at her haven last year, and just like that, I fell completely in love with the place, the region and the laid-back way of life. I’m a small-town girl – I grew up in Tuakau, Pukekohe, Tokoroa, Turangi, Waihi and Hamilton. I think,…

It takes a lot to stand up and say when something has gone terribly wr ong in your life. Sometimes those deeply personal events can be just too hard to say out loud and acknowledge, even with the closest of friends. But this week, two of our much-loved Kiwi celebs share their darkest moments. They’re women who mor e often than not have us in stitches laughing, but although ther e are still the lighter moments and l aughter in their stories, Peta Mathias and Urzila Carlson shar e some startling r evelations. They talk about dif ficult experiences we don’ t often chat about r ound the dinner table – tales of miscarriages, abuse and shocking assaults. It’s pretty confronting stuf f. But Peta and Urzila ar e both…

‘As heir to the throne, he is determined to head a slimline monarchy’ How many royals are too many? In Prince Charles’ view, Beatrice and Eugenie are certainly surplus to requirements – and the result is a simmering row with his brother, Andrew, which is now boiling over into a public conflict. “They’ve been butting heads over this for years and now matters have come to a head,” says one of Charles’ circle. “Put simply, Andrew believes the girls should be working members of The Firm, funded by the taxpayer. Charles believes that this would fuel public resentment and insists that they should earn their own living. “They haven’t been able to agree, so Andrew has written to the Queen, demanding she intervene. She is flabbergasted.” His letter was originally…

“I remember my initial reaction was, ‘Could this be a death sentence?’” Wearing a dove-grey suit, Michael Douglas (72) arrives five minutes early for our breakfast meeting at New York’s Waldorf Astoria. “I found a quicker exit from Grand Central Station,” he explains as he sits down and orders a black coffee. He came by train? “Sure. It’s an hour from our house in Westchester County.” Yes, but he’s Michael Douglas, for heaven’s sake. Doesn’t he bring all those commuters to an open-mouthed standstill? “No,” he says, “because there’s a sort of mutual courtesy going on. I don’t catch their eyes and they don’t bother me. I absorb myself in the papers. Anyway, most people probably think I just look a bit like Michael Douglas but it can’t be him,…

THINKING AHEAD helped Jodi and James have the holiday of a lifetime. Jodi Markham says she and hubby James share a simple philosophy on travel — “Life is here to be lived and the world is here to be seen”. The fun-loving Wellington couple have already ticked off many of the dream destinations on their bucket list, and spent seven months travelling around Asia in 2011. Their once-in-a-lifetime trip included rescuing a baby monkey in Vietnam and being the only Westerners in a village in China. “Some of the locals chased James down the road because they thought he was the footballer David Beckham!” laughs Jodi. “Ever since then, James has liked to think he looks a lot more like David Beckham than he actually does.” Jodi believes advance planning…

Lisa King isn’t out to change the whole world, but she is definitely changing the worlds of kids from some of our poorest families. The founder of Eat My Lunch, along with award-winning restaurateur Michael Meredith, is up to her elbows in beetroot, carrot and bread when the Weekly catches up with her. The sun’s just peeping over the horizon and she and a team of volunteers are already 30 minutes into the three-hour daily slog of buttering, topping and wrapping lunches for pupils at 32 low decile Auckland schools. That’s something like 1300 lunches! But it doesn’t stop there – there’s another 1200-plus to prepare for the customers supporting the “buy one, give one” social enterprise. And from this month, another army of volunteers will be doing the same,…

October Cheese Month has been a wonderful chance to try out some of the fantastic products being made in New Zealand. I’ve loved using our locally made cheese in these international favourites. Go on and give them a try. Have a gouda day! Send your foodie thoughts and questions to Nici: nwickes@bauermedia.co.nz Italian bruschetta with raclette & peppers and feta & beans MAKES 10-12 For a quick snack or party food, it doesn’t come much easier than bread and cheese. And when you throw in some spring bounty – such as broad beans – and add melted cheese, you take it to a whole new level. Try my cheat’s version of raclette, a Swiss cheese dish, or the broad bean smash, and you’ll be in heaven. 1 loaf ciabatta, sliced…

Double dairy Well, this is dangerous, chocolate lovers. In their first collaboration since the overwhelmingly popular chocolate milk that sent the country into meltdown in 2014, Lewis Road Creamery and Whittaker’s have teamed up to bring us their new chocolate butter. Different and delicious (trust us!), it fuses LRC’s butter with Whittaker’s 72% dark Ghana chocolate, all whipped to perfection for your toast, pastries and pancakes. Available from most major supermarkets and specialty food stores nationwide, RRP $8.99 for 200g. We’re saying something cheesy... She’s a self-confessed cheesea-holic and along with her scrumptious cheese recipes in this week’s issue (page 38), Nici has a few tips for you to see off national cheese month in style! • Use hard cheeses (Parmesan, pecorino, some aged cheddars) in cooking, as they hold…

Find out which foods shouldn’t be stored in the fridge, impress your friends with a simple recipe for savoury eggs, and clean up three items that often get overlooked in your kitchen. Cold comfort! FOODS YOU SHOULDN’T STORE IN THE FRIDGE Did you know that a lot of the things we think need to be stored in the refrigerator are actually much better off being kept at room temperature? For some foods, a cooler temperature actually ruins the flavour and can speed up the moulding process. Here’s a list of the foods you should keep out of the cooler: ONIONS When you don’t use a full onion, it seems like a no-brainer to pop the leftover half in the fridge for later, right? Wrong. Not only does refrigerating onions leach…

Gee, weddings can be expensive, can’t they? One of the elements that shouldn’t cost an arm and a leg is your celebrant. Check up on what their pricing covers when you receive their quote. Celebrate good times! You were surprised to find that the wedding celebrant you wanted to have marry you asked for a fee of $1500. You thought this was a rip-off. Do registered wedding celebrants have to adhere to any rules about how much they can charge? I agree that $1500 is a large fee. I don’t know who you were dealing with and what service he or she offered to provide, but there are no rules about what they can charge. I would bet that there are many “celebrity” marriage celebrants who would charge considerably more…

SO SUAVE! My five-year-old son Ewan had a shower and when he got out, he wasn’t happy with his hair being so messy. So I combed it for him and then when he looked in the mirror, turning his head from one side to the other, he said, “Hellooo, ladies.” Mariely, Papakura HICCUPS Having just bought a typewriter, I was not very proficient with it. Grandson came in while I was berating the machine. “What’s the matter with it?” he asked. “Oh, it’s just got the hiccups,” I replied. Do you know what that sweet child did then? Oh, well, I suppose I had always given him a drink of water when he got the hiccups... but still! Speak Up, Gisborne, June 3, 1974 LIVE WIRE My friend, aged 93,…

Sam Pease is a presenter on TVNZ 1’s Kiwi Living and is also the author of the book Date Like a Dude. My favourite ever book is… I have a zillion faves, but the one with the happiest memories is the first book my son was obsessed with, Rod Campbell’s Dear Zoo. Even now, when I hear the words, “I sent him back”, I’m instantly transported back 10 years to when we used to read together. And that makes me smile. My book of the moment is… I’m obsessed with gritty chick lit – unpredictable books for women about the darker side of life and relationships. One that recently blew my mind was Mud Vein by Tarryn Fisher, a story about a reclusive novelist who wakes up on her birthday…

They’re two of the hottest actresses in Hollywood and until now have never shared the big screen together. But Sandra Bullock (52) and Cate Blanchett (47) are about to change that – teaming up for the first time in Ocean’s Eight, an all-female spin-off of the Ocean’s Eleven trilogy. The pair seemed to be enjoying their day of filming, with Sandra looking like she meant business in black trousers and a khaki trenchcoat, while Cate looked like she had stepped out of the ‘70s in a green velvet suit and leopard-print coat. The actresses were later seen at a café drinking coffee, chatting and laughing together. With more than a dozen Oscar and Golden Globe nominations between them, the dynamic duo are bringing star power to the Ocean’s Eleven reboot,…

‘Fern is the sister I never had. I love her. She is both respectful and hard-working’ It’s hard to believe the third series of smash-hit comedy/ drama The Brokenwood Mysteries is already upon us! We chatted to its two lead stars, Fern Sutherland and Neill Rea, about on-set capers, international success and the biggest mysteries they face in their own lives. The show is experiencing huge success in France, as well as Denmark. What do you make of that success? Fern: I think of places like France and Denmark as being pretty flash. So if they like our show, it must be all right then, eh? Someone I haven’t spoken to since high school messaged me with a picture of the Metro newspaper and was like, “You’re in the paper…

“I thought, ‘I can’t die, I’ve got kids. I’ve got to be around for them’” A little pampering goes a long way. And when you are facing rounds of gruelling chemotherapy, radiotherapy and invasive medical treatment, it goes even further. Jayne Tranter (42) would know. Diagnosed with terminal breast cancer in 2012, a bit of “me time” can take the edge off a day where she faces aches and pains, and often debilitating nausea. “I have times when I’m really achy because I’ve had a monthly infusion for bone-strengthening,” she shares. “Sometimes it’s really good to go and have a treatment, like a facial or a massage when you’re struggling physically or feeling mentally fragile.” The Wellington mother is able to take this precious time for herself thanks to Sweet…

Spinach & three cheese pie SERVES 6 This is a great recipe and makes a substantial vegetarian lunch or dinner. It’s super-convenient too as it can be assembled in the morning and cooked when you need it. 1 large onion, finely chopped 1 tbsp olive oil Few large bunches of spinach (or 1 bunch silverbeet), chopped 1 head of broccoli, chopped into florets 3 eggs ½ cup mixed fresh herbs – parsley, thyme, mint Pinch nutmeg Salt and pepper 125g feta, crumbled 125g ricotta cheese or cottage cheese 75g cheddar cheese, grated 12 sheets filo pastry 120g butter, melted 1 tsp sesame seeds 1 Preheat oven to 180ºC. Grease a baking dish a bit smaller than a sheet of pastry. 2 Sauté the onion in the olive oil…

Neutrals are an indispensable part of any woman’s closet as they are universally versatile and elegant. They will work from season to season. Here are some tips to keep in mind. What hue’s for you? • Sands, stones, beiges, tans and taupes all work together for a timeless combination. • This fantastic Trenery jacket is easily dressed up or down and would be the perfect addition to anyone’s wardrobe. JACKET $229 from TRENERY. TOP $26.99 from SHANTON. SKIRT $99.99 from JACQUI-E. NATURALIZER SHOES $179.95 from EZIBUY. • The khaki tones and textures used in these lace-up heels from Number One Shoes and Max shorts look great with this beautiful print top from Storm. It’s a match made in heaven! • This hue works well with similar tones, as well as…

I don’t know a single lady who isn’t bothered by signs of ageing around her eyes but I always say it’s the sparkle in a woman’s eye that keeps her looking fresh, sexy and youthful. Care for your eyes with a good eye cream, but don’t ever lose your twinkle. Women of vision! Lighten the darkness Having dark circles around the orbital bone and inner corners of the eyes is common. It’s often hereditary but can be caused by pigmentation, tiredness or a build-up of toxins. While more sleep and water can help with the last two, you can’t change your genes. “If you’ve had an indulgent weekend with lots of rich food and wine, chances are it will soon show up on your skin,” says Olay skin expert Amy…

 A three-course meal cooked on 17 different appliances, in an outdoor living area, on something very smoky that isn’t really hot enough to barbecue, is my idea of hell. Give me my nice warm kitchen any old day. ‘Figuring out how to integrate it into your outdoor living space is the real trick’ Not a barbie girl! There are certain things the Partner and I are bad at, both individually and as a couple. As with anybody who’s not perfect, these inadequacies result in sometimes trivial issues and sometimes Serious and Expensive Mistakes. The time is fast approaching when we are likely to encounter the latter. The problem is, it’s barbecue season. Last time we allowed ourselves to be inveigled into buying a barbecue, it was because we had family…

Ever wondered what a bra resembling two fried eggs would look like? Or how about an evening gown constructed from biscuit packaging? Audiences at this year’s World of Wearable Art (WOW) Awards didn’t have to wonder because these were just some of the wonderful and wacky outfits on display. Now in its 28th year, the 2016 WOW extravaganza featured a whopping 133 garments entered by 163 designers from 40 different countries. That’s a lot to pack into a two-hour show but on a rainy Wellington night, when spring seemed to have forgotten what it was meant to be doing, around 3500 of us packed into the TSB Bank Arena on the Capital’s waterfront to ogle the beautiful, the bizarre and the breathtakingly creative. Ask anyone who has been to a…

SCORPIO Oct 24 – Nov 22 Scorpios are usually cool under pressure, but someone is going to do a very good job of causing you to lose it – unless you are very careful. The worst part is that it is done deliberately to make you look bad. Be on your guard, make sure you do not allow anyone to throw you off balance, then they will look foolish because they will lose their temper with you. SAGITTARIUS Nov 23 – Dec 22 Expect the unexpected and then some! This is especially relevant when it comes to new relationships and romance. You have your usual “type” and this person will be way beyond your comfort zone. For some reason, you are attracted to this person and you need to keep…

This novel is a real treat to read but also thought-provoking and informative. It’s a wartime tale with a difference as it focuses on the lives of those involved in the development of the first atomic bombs. The story is told through the eyes of Meridian Wallace, a brainy and serious young woman who is set on becoming an ornithologist and studying the behaviour of crows. However, Meri’s plans are derailed by love. At Chicago University, she meets Alden Whetstone, a much older physics professor, and is awed and attracted by his brilliant mind. When she marries him, Meri sees no reason why she shouldn’t be able to continue with her own academic career. However, Alden has been transferred to New Mexico, where he is working on a secret project…

Our children have manners. You will notice I didn’t use the word “good” in there. No reflection on them, they can only use the information they are given and they’re still learning. I take responsibility. I mean, they put “please” and “thank you” in the right places when held to ransom, but I’m not sure that qualifies as good manners. They use those words under duress as a sort of password to get what they want rather than as an expression of gratitude. Ah well, I guess as long as they say them in the right places, that’ll do the job. The actual feeling of thanks can come later. Because manners are the opposite of birthday presents in that respect: it’s not the thought that counts. With manners, it’s saying…