At what age will my son be old enough to watch Good-fellas with me?
Peter, Fort Collins, CO
Wait until he’s at least 11, says Rutgers psychologist Paul Boxer, Ph.D. That’s about when a boy’s social behavior beliefs start to crystallize; they remain fairly stable after that. And once adolescence hits, vetoing violent, profane, or sexual content is likely to prompt him to shut you out, says pediatric psychologist Carl Pickhardt, Ph.D. In preadolescence, practice “co-viewing.” As you watch a movie, note inconsistencies between it and real life, says Boxer. When a battle breaks out in The Avengers, say, “You know that’s totally fake, right? That’s not how real people solve problems.” For more realistic, intense, or graphic violence, maybe wait a bit longer. But don’t just say no. Try:…
