FOR BETTER SEX, ASK HER THIS: “WHAT WOULD YOU SAY IS THE BEST SEX WE EVER HAD?”
1. When to Ask
After sex. Studies show that more time couples spend talking afterward, the more sexually satisfied they are, says Amanda Denes, a pillow-talk expert (yep) from UConn. Feeling safe and satisfied helps you open up, Denes says. Having an orgasm floods the brain with the “cuddle hormone,” oxytocin, while levels of cortisol, a stress hormone, drop.
2. Why it Works
This simple query is a good window into your partner’s preferences. You’ll each learn to be reminded of what works. That’s what sexual communication is all about, says Denes – talking about what you like and how you like it. Coax out details: setting, timing, positions, types of touch. It’s…
