Innholdsfortegnelse for January 2015 i ELLE Australia

WRITER GILL PRINGLE, WHO CHATS TO RISING STAR JAI COURTNEY ON P72, REVEALS THE OTHER MEN SHE’S LOVED INTERVIEWING. GARY OLDMAN “Who else could come up with the line that his dog has more dignity than the Kardashians?” JOAQUIN PHOENIX “He cuddled me when I suggested the internet was pushing the human race further apart – I guess he agreed.” HUGH JACKMAN “He’s like the Energizer Bunny: he can go all day long and his energy and enthusiasm never wanes. Lucky Deb.” PHOTOGRAPHER HOLLY BLAKE TRAVELLED TO SYDNEY’S PALM BEACH AND SAMOA TO CAPTURE THE PIECES OF THE SEASON FOR OUR FASHION PAGES (P96), BUT HER NEXT BREAK WILL BE MUCH MORE LO-FI. “This summer I’m having a staycation at my home in Berry Mountain, on the South Coast of…

42.8806° S, 147.3250° E 001 HOBART MONA FOMA As expected, this contemporary arts festival’s line-up is eclectic, with Dan Sultan and the Violent Femmes on the same bill as cabaret star Amanda Palmer and Japanese pop-punk band Shonen Knife. Be sure to explore UK artists Architects Of Air’s “luminarium” – a huge tunnel-like installation for big kids (left). January 15 – 18; mofo.net.au 40.5744° N, 73.9786° W 002 NEW YORK NEW YEAR’S DAY SWIM Guaranteed to cure a hangover faster than two Nurofen and a bloody mary, plunging into the freezing Atlantic Ocean is a Coney Island tradition. Chill seekers make a donation to a children’s charity, but if philanthropy won’t coax you in, join the hordes who watch. January 1; polarbearclub.org 33.8910° S, 151.2777° E…

SAVE MONEY Your favourite shirt now does double time as an off-the-shoulder blouse. Pop two extra buttons, shrug off the shoulders, turn up the cuffs and team with summer’s flippy mini-skirt. LEARN A NEW LANGUAGE Skip beginner’s French and swot up on coding: someone has to invent the next big fashion app. Sign up to Codecademy and, for homework, read Walter Isaacson’s The Innovators from cover to cover. codecademy.com LAUGH MORE Have fun with a friend and work your looks to a theme. Consider it a priceless Insta-opportunity. TAKE AN ARTS-AND-CRAFTS CLASS Switch an easel for apparel and wear your work with pride. Fledgling Picassos, trick up your favourite Nikes or plimsolls with a JGoods sneaker customisation kit. shop.jgoodsonline.com DANCE MORE On the street, in the daytime, with…

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Try this at the office tomorrow: for two minutes, stand with your feet just over hip-distance apart, with your fists resting on your hips. This is the “power pose” and, according to Amy Cuddy, the Harvard social psychologist behind the second most popular TED talk of all time, it’s scientifically proven to leave you feeling “assertive, confident and comfortable”. Hunching has the opposite effect, and that’s before anyone else has imparted judgement on your poor posture. Sheryl Sandberg calls herself “a huge fan” of power posing and Lauren Bush Lauren says it’s “the physical answer to mindfulness”. And you don’t have to brave the boss with it – it still works if done in private, or even simply visualised. No excuses then.…

For most families, photographs provide the sentimental glue that secures our precious memories. In my family, it’s a painting – a portrait of my mother as a 10-year-old schoolgirl, painted long before we were even born. It might sound far-fetched to say that a painting of our mother as a child could exercise any kind of power over her adult children, but that’s indeed the case. Especially for me; her eldest child and only daughter, and the one who inherited the portrait when she died suddenly in 2005. The painting now hangs in my house in Sydney and provides a daily emotional connection between my mother and me. It hangs on a wall outside my bedroom door and I can see her when I’m in bed, which at first I…

BACKSTAGE 'I love gift-shopping, and Swarovski has such a variety of beautiful pieces for every mood and occasion. Jewelry's so personal, but, whether I'm shopping far friends, my grandma or my brother, I can find something that suits them perfectly ' MIRANDA KERR BETTER TO GIVE... Stylish sisters and fashionable friends will love an on-trend sports-luxe watch or mired metal chain they can mix and match with their festive attire. With its plethora of parties, the holiday season is the one time of year when you want to look your very best. An easy way to give your style a festive makeover is with some subtle…

I am struggling to look directly into Jessica Mauboy’s deep, brown Bambi eyes as she playfully undoes a crucial button on her denim dress and caresses her décolletage. “Oh I’m really a big fan of my chest and my bust, so I like to work that area,” says Mauboy. “Also my legs, I like to show a bit of leg when I’m performing, either a split or a bit of a mini. I love a V-neck… When it’s appropriate I really love to show it.” Being taken on a guided tour of the singer’s favourite body parts feels wrong, like seeing your grandparents naked. The flirtatious woman attracting stares in a cafe is meant to be Australian music’s squeaky clean pin-up and the ultimate girl next door, particularly if you…

WHAT: THE SUPER ELIXIR $145, WelleCo, welleco.com THE SPIEL: Just two teaspoons daily of Elle Macpherson’s green powder balances the body’s pH to an alkaline state, which she believes is the key to optimum health. BEST FOR: An overall nutritional boost – and those who don’t fit vegies into every meal. The Super Elixir claims to increase energy, improve digestion and support a stronger immune system. STAR INGREDIENTS: Bioavailable super greens, Chinese herbs and probiotics. VERDICT: “The pleasant pineapple flavour means it goes down easily and I breeze through the morning, no second coffee required. Do I feel like a supermodel? No. But my stylist comments on how quickly my hair has grown and I’ve managed to avoid every office cold. Although it’s pricey, it’s cheaper than a…

JANNA JOHNSON O’TOOLE BEAUTY & FITNESS DIRECTOR JANNA Just a single spritz of this beautifully scented strand saviour nourishes, reduces static, creates shine, breaks down odour and shields against UV damage. (Don’t worry – I’m feeling a bit inadequate now, too.) Protective Hair Perfume, $65, Sachajuan, (07) 3395 4997 JANNA Thanks to this 18-carat polish, it’s now super-easy to give everything in your life a Midas touch. Don’t Speak Pure 18K Gold Top Coat, $29.95, Gwen Stefani For OPI, opi.net.au JANNA The actives in this serum are balanced out with soothing, calming ingredients, so it effectively targets redness and pigmentation without irritation. Complexion perfection awaits. Enlighten Dark Spot Correcting Night Serum, $95, Estée Lauder, 1800 061 326 SARA McLEAN ACTING BEAUTY & LIFESTYLE EDITOR SARA With the density of a…

Anne-Dorthe Larsen, the founder of Danish clothing company Nué Group, admits she lives and breathes fashion. As someone who knows her Lim from her Lanvin, she’s accustomed to trends going in and out – but she blames her equally fickle approach to design and decor on her upbringing. “My grandmother painted and moved the furniture around every six months and I’m the same way,” she says. “Even as a child my parents let me paint the walls and rearrange things – it became a habit.” So despite instantly falling in love with the Copenhagen apartment she shares with her partner Kasper Smith and their nine-year-old daughter Freya, she knew she had to put her own stamp on the home. Overhauling the original layout, the couple divided the living area into…

PLANNING How to cure chronic lateness WITH SHANNAH KENNEDY, LIFE COACH Perpetually running behind schedule is never a good feeling, either for you or the person you keep waiting. Become an early bird with these tips. CHANGE THE WAY YOU BUDGET TIME Punctual people give themselves round numbers to get somewhere – 30 minutes, for instance. The chronically late, on the other hand, budget exact times, like 23 minutes, which doesn’t account for inevitable delays that pop up. Tell yourself you’re not on time unless you’re 15 minutes early. SET PRIORITIES Trying to finish “one last thing” before a meeting or engagement is a common cause of lateness, so create boundaries to help you get through the day more efficiently. That means limiting time killers like Facebook and Instagram. CREATE…

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WARDROBE DENIM Black skinnies from Acne or Topshop. LINGERIE Victoria’s Secret – it must be every small-chested girl’s best friend! SHOES Converse. BAG The Marion by Alexander Wang. WATCH For now: Michael Kors. One day: Cartier. SHOPPING HAUNTS Le Bon Marché in Paris and Tuchuzy in Bondi Beach. POLISH HAIRDRESSER It depends where I am, but I recently had a fringe cut by hairstylist Koh on our trip to Samoa, which I love! MVP BEAUTY PRODUCT Youngblood Mineral Cosmetics and Dior’s Dior Addict Fluid Stick in Intrigue. HAIR HERO Kérastase or Moroccanoil products. SIGNATURE SCENT Nina by Nina Ricci or La Vie Est Belle by Lancôme. FACIALIST In Sydney, I see Isabel Almeida. Globally, I look for Aveda salons. SPA Alkaline, a day spa…

When it comes to easy summer style, Italian girls, or at least girls in Italy, do it better. Think Audrey Hepburn in Roman Holiday or Gwynnie and her souvenir skirts and white shirts in The Talented Mr Ripley. The look is lunch meeting-to-lido and there’s nowhere better to observe it in action than at Milan Fashion Week. Frequently spotted strolling down the Via Montenapoleone, labels like Gucci, Marni and Prada prove that, much like food, Milano moda must be approached with gusto: rich colour, bold print, creamy leather and sharp silhouettes, all seasoned with a generous helping of accessories (Italian made and always offbeat) and a golden tan (fake it). Take Tarcila Bassi, ELLE Italia’s web editor, who whizzed between shows on her moped wearing a moto jacket, gingham skirt…

“FASHION? I DON’T REALLY FOLLOW FASHION. I LIKE FASHION, BUT I DON’T FOLLOW IT.” Jonathan Howard (above) is nothing if not honest. The in-demand Sydney milliner, who’s just sent off a shipment to Net-A-Porter (his first and biggest international order) and kits out everyone from HRH Kate to Yoko Ono, classes himself as a straightforward craftsman. “I just enjoy making things.” Elegant and unpretentious like their maker, Howard’s newest summer hats, made under his label Hatmaker, deal in “raw beauty”, crafted in handwoven straw sourced everywhere from America and Ecuador to Japan and China. “It’s a constant search to find the very best. As time goes on and the world gets faster, things are being made more quickly and the quality gets left behind.” Hand-dyed in house and finished with…

Manolo Blahnik and Christian Louboutin are probably booking long holidays right about now because sexy skyscraper heels have teetered to the end of the road and gone walkabout. The trend started far from the footpath, with Christopher Kane sending models down the London runway in metallic pool slides in his spring/summer 12 collection, but when Phoebe Philo offered a fur-lined version at the spring/summer 13 Céline show, footwear forever changed direction. It’s now official: the beautiful calf-elongating, toe-crunching, spindly stiletto has been replaced by the ugly shoe. Some are flat enough to have Tom Cruise jumping on the sofa and most are chunky enough to have women puzzled about how to wear them. Last summer most of you probably dipped your polished toe into the trend by trading your thongs…

JANE BIRKIN ACTRESS, MODEL AND SINGER Mahler at the Royal Albert Hall, London, 1966 “It has to be Leonard Bernstein conducting Mahler at London’s Royal Albert Hall when I was young. At the end, he put down his baton and the orchestra took off their bow ties, picked up police whistles and, to our joy, played us the West Side Story overture. I waited in the snow for two hours to ask for his autograph. I got it.” LA ROUX SINGER Prince at The O2, London, 2007 “This Prince gig made me realise what sort of performer I wanted to be; his energy, his movement, his voice and his ability to play so many instruments. We arrived late, just after Prince came on stage. The atmosphere that hit us as…

Iggy Azalea and TI Rapper/producer TI kicked Iggy Azalea’s career up to the next level when she signed to his label. While she didn’t end up enlisting him to executive produce her debut album The New Classic, they still collaborate and he always has her back. Cara Delevingne and Katie Grand Marc Jacobs refused to cast Cara Delevingne in Louis Vuitton’s AW12-13 show, calling her a “dwarf”. Were it not for the support of his stylist-in-crime Katie Grand, who continued to champion the Brit model by casting her in other key shows and shoots until the industry caught up, it’s possible those brows would have gone unnoticed. Kendall Jenner and Olivier Rousteing When everyone was up in arms about a Kardashian giving fashion a bad name, it was the Balmain…

Jai Courtney is dog-tired. It’s only late morning but he’s been up all night filming with Arnold Schwarzenegger, then caught a flight down from San Francisco to meet me at a Beverly Hills hotel. “Aaah, coffee!” he sighs hoarsely, taking a long gulp. A curious thing happened at Los Angeles airport and he’s still trying to process it, even calling a friend on the drive over to debate whether he reacted poorly. “It was funny. When I got off the plane this kid came up to me and said, ‘Are you the guy from the Divergent movies?’ and I said, ‘No,’” reveals the Sydney-born actor, cringing. “So I was telling my friend on the phone before, and she said, ‘Why didn’t you just say yes?’ and I said, ‘I don’t…

DANGEROZ Screening creepy crawlies is essential for Aussies. I use this app to make sure any spiders lurking in our daughter’s bedroom aren’t deadly. Price: free SHOPSHOP A virtual shopping list. Just enter the item you need, then tap it to strike it off when you buy it. The app even remembers previous items, so you don’t have to keep typing in “milk”. Price: free WATERMARK PRO Great for design types. It lets you add watermarks to any photo and works with existing images, or you can create your own watermark from scratch. Price: free SQUAREADY This was recommended to me by my stylist friend Romy Frydman (of Style Me Romy) and I’ve used it ever since. It resizes photos to fit Instagram’s specs. Price: free…

BEAUTY NOTE Make the switch to a lighter, fresher fragrance for the summer months. Try the aquatic floral scent of L’eau D’Issey EDT, $119 for 50ml, Issey Miyake, (02) 9695 5678…

BEAUTY NOTE Fresh summer makeup means limiting layers, so go for a BB cream that combines sheer coverage, sun protection and skin-loving ingredients. Try Revitalift Total Repair 10 BB Cream, $35.95, L’Oréal Paris, 1300 659 359…

LIP COLOUR KISS & BLUSH, $59, YVES SAINT LAURENT, 1300 651 991 “The applicator is perfect for applying colour and the mousse-like formula blends easily, while giving beautiful colour to the lips,” says Mari Ruus, ELLE Norway . BODY MOISTURISER – Australia’s Choice DAISY DREAM LUMINOUS BODY LOTION, $40, MARC JACOBS, 1800 812 663 “A SUBTLE FRUITY-FLORAL SCENT WITH SKIN-PERFECTING LUMINOSITY TO CREATE A BEAUTIFUL FINISH,” says Janna Johnson O’Toole, ELLE Australia . FRAGRANCE NARCISO EDP, $88 FOR 30ML, NARCISO RODRIGUEZ, (02) 9695 5678 “Modern femininity in a bottle: a floral yet musky scent that sticks to skin like sexy lingerie. It’s very, very seductive,” says Elisabeth Martorell and Monique Le Dolédec, ELLE France . HAIR STYLING VIP VOLUME IN POWDER, $38, KÉRASTASE, KERASTASE.COM.AU “You…

It’s the morning after. Your head is pounding, you feel nauseous and you didn’t sleep well – welcome to your latest hangover. With this kind of aftermath, it’s a wonder we drink at all. And, as we all know, the long-term side effects of drinking too much over the years are even worse, including weight gain, acne and liver damage. But it is possible to enjoy your drink and stay in shape – you just need to get tactical… THE PSYCHOLOGY OF DRINKING We might not think about it as we sip our glass of pinot, but alcohol is a drug – a psychoactive one that affects our mood and behaviour and, after caffeine, it’s the second most-widely consumed narcotic in the world. Drink a glass or two and you’ll…

The way to win over your dinner-party guests: with a strong start and a grand finale. Serve up some epic cocktails to begin (see next page) then finish with a delicious dessert and you’re onto a winner. But Christopher Thé from Sydney’s Black Star Pastry promises you don’t need a CV as sweet as his to keep punters pleased. “Often just some beautiful stone fruits – teamed with broken biscuits, ice-cream and sprinkled in sugar – are enough to make an impact,” he says, explaining that the French have nailed this sweet but simple equation. “A dessert definitely doesn’t need to be fancy to be delicious.” Thé’s other tips? Splurge on summer fruits while they’re in season and remember that aesthetics are important. “An easy rule of thumb is to…

I spent 14 years as a beauty writer. When I started, I had no idea such a thing even existed, but being paid to play with lip gloss and mascara sounded like a pretty sweet deal to me. Later on, as it became clear to the scores of hungry young women desperate to get into the magazine industry that being a beauty editor was a direct path into the editor-in-chief’s chair (there’s still no better way to learn the business of publishing), everyone wanted in. There’s no doubting that it’s a glamorous gig: gorgeous lunches, overseas trips and supermodel interviews all par for the course. You know how you can have a star named after you? I’ve got three, courtesy of various beauty brands. I’ve also seen an inordinate amount…

The first time Stella Jean got a call telling her that Giorgio Armani wanted her to show her eponymous label at his Armani Teatro show space during Milan Fashion Week, she thought it was a joke and put the phone down. The second time, she was driving and had to pull over to get out of the car and scream with excitement. Being hand-picked by the godfather of Italian fashion is a pretty extraordinary career boost. But while Armani’s support might have thrust her into the fashion limelight, it’s her joyful use of colour and print mixed with sophisticated, couture-like tailoring that’s kept her there. The Stella Jean brand is autobiographical to the core, inspired by Jean’s experience growing up in Italy in the ’80s with an Italian father and…

JOB DESCRIPTION I travel the world – particularly to New York, London and Hong Kong – dealing with everyone from our buyers to the technology teams, hosting events with designers and taking our most loyal clients to runway shows or world-class events like the US Open. WARDROBE WEAKNESS I’m tall and love wearing sky-high heels. I remember breaking a pair of heels aged three – my aunty wasn’t very happy. I encourage every tall woman to go as high as possible – the view from up here is amazing. NEW-SEASON ESSENTIALS Frame Denim boyfriend jeans, Equipment silk shirts and Adam Lippes T-shirts. NEXT UP A silk maxi-trench in pastel blue by Michael Lo Sordo. TRAVEL BAG My Rimowa suitcase. PACKING STYLE I lay outfits out and try them all on,…

In 2009, lifestyle blog Luxirare ruled the RSS roost. Its founder Ji Kim – a design school graduate – set a new standard for polished perfectionism with every post, uploading shots of Picasso-esque potato chips, edible crayons and crazy-cool fashion sold via her e-boutique, all of it handmade. Her followers couldn’t get enough until, in 2013, Luxirare vanished. When it reappeared months later, it had transformed. Food posts were almost comically sloppy, and Kim took shots at bloggers she deemed “unethical” – she even named names. Fashion forums went nuts. “Um, does anybody know what’s up with her?” posted one user. “I prefer the old Luxirare to… whatever this is.” So, breakdown or breakthrough? You decide. Sometime in 2008, I did something completely irrational and purchased a domain name, www.luxirare.com,…

It’s the professional relationship you need if you’ve got a hope of rising through the ranks of the modern-day workplace, and the one thing Cara Delevingne and Sheryl Sandberg have in common. We’re talking about a sponsor: a powerfully positioned backer who’s prepared to wield their influence on your behalf, with the aim of helping you escape the “marzipan layer” of the workplace. That’s the “sticky” middle slice of management, just below senior leadership, that so many talented women find themselves stuck in, with no exit in sight. If you’re thinking sponsorship sounds like a new-gen interpretation of mentorship, think again. The big difference, according to Sylvia Ann Hewlett, author of Forget A Mentor, Find A Sponsor, is that mentors advise while sponsors act. “Mentors act as a sounding board,…

WEDGWOOD Here at ELLE HQ, we’re shamelessly passionate about cake breaks. Serve up your favourite treats – we have indecent thoughts about lemon drizzle sponge and pannacotta lamingtons – on Wedgwood’s Daisy Teaware range, with its delicate floral blooms and gold accents. We make no judgement about second (or third) serves. wedgwood.com.au NINE WEST Find your work-shoe soulmate at Nine West. These Tatiana pumps are classic and polished enough to climb corporate ladders, but the pointed toes and serious heels mean you can strut straight to after-work cocktails. $140; ninewest.com.au DEEP SPRING Nothing says summer like a deck chair, the latest issue of ELLE and ice clinking in a fruity drink… Deep Spring Orange & Passionfruit, made from natural mineral water with a splash of organic juice, is our sparkling…

FRINGING, FRAYING, PALM PRINTS AND POP COLOURS: SMART SUMMER DRESSING SWAGGERS FROM POOLSIDE TO PAVEMENT. GET THE JUMP ON THIS SEASON’S ’70S REDUX WITH DIRNDL SKIRTS, FLARED PANTS AND EASY ESPADRILLES. ADD WOODSTOCKWORTHY TASSELS JUST FOR FUN. TAILORED TROUSERS COME SLOUCHY THIS SEASON, AT THEIR COOLEST IN TWO-TONE TROPICAL PRINT OR TEAMED WITH SUMMER STRIPES.…

BEAUTY NOTE A sexy ensemble doesn’t require much makeup – just keep brows extra neat. Brush up and fill in for natural-looking fullness. Try Professional Eyebrow Pencil, $8.50, Rimmel London, au.rimmellondon.com…

Simone Rocha should work for Ireland’s tourist board; her collections are steeped in the country’s folk traditions and her inspiration boards are scattered with photos of children in lacy confirmation gowns standing at the doors of remote Gaelic churches. When I confess I’ve never been to Dublin, she explodes with enthusiasm. “It’s amazing. It’s very real. It’s very small. Everyone knows everybody. I grew up in a village called Ranelagh and now [my parents] live at the other end of Ranelagh. You knew everyone in between. I spent my days in the snooker hall playing pool. I was there until I was 23, finishing my BA degree.” You wonder how that upbringing helped mould the designer, now 28. It definitely instilled an immediately obvious confidence in her, a conviction of…

The ultimate New Year’s resolution: achieving Rosie Huntington-Whiteley’s lit-from-within complexion. Learn more about the face of ModelCo’s natural skincare routine on page 152.…

FRIDAY  “I’m working today so I left home makeup-free” “I leave my eyes on from a shoot but wipe off the base and reapply foundation to head out to dinner” SATURDAY “I use this after a morning workout” “I keep my day makeup minimal – just tinted moisturiser and mascara” “Bronzer and defined brows bump up my look for night” SUNDAY “I like to give my skin and hair a break” “My favourite perfume for daytime” “MY JOB MEANS I’M CONSTANTLY MADE UP, SO ON MY DAYS OFF I LIKE TO KEEP MY LOOK FRESH AND NATURAL. TO ME, BEING BEAUTIFUL IS BEING UNIQUE.”– STEPH SMITH@STEPHCLAIRESMITH…

The words “tequila” and “shot” seem made for each other, perhaps because, in the past, drinking it felt like being shot: the screaming, the burning pain, falling to the floor… It is indeed a wonder that a liquid that tastes so bad it’s supposed to be improved by licking salt and sucking on a lemon could become popular, but modern, premium tequilas are shaking off this image. At dedicated, new-school tequila bars like Sydney’s Méjico, the lick, sip and suck tradition has been sacked. “We don’t offer lemon and salt with our tequila, in fact, we don’t allow it,” says bar manager Will Atkins. “Mexicans don’t drink it like that and never have; it’s a frat-boy thing that became a trend, like eating the worm out of a mezcal bottle,…

CRAVING AN AUSSIE TAKE ON ITALIAN FOOD WHILE IN BALI? VISIT SEMINYAK ITALIAN FOOD, A NEW PROJECT FROM THE CREW BEHIND THE FORMER NORTH BONDI ITALIAN. seminyak-italian.com RELAX, JUST DO IT Trade the luxurious spa for an open-air hut with water views and experience the Ocean Opulence treatment: a body scrub, soothing warm-seashell body massage and toe-tingling head massage, with the waves of the Indian Ocean providing the soundtrack. Bring a friend who you don’t mind groaning beside for the couple’s treatment. CLASS ACT The Four Seasons Jimbaran Bay is the Hermès of hotels, a reassuring classic that moves with the times while representing a standard of luxury that immediately commands respect. Telling your best friend you’re staying in one of the 147 pavilions is like waving a Birkin in…

BEWARE THE CAREER KILLER DEAR E JEAN , There’s this gorgeous guy at the office who I’ve hooked up with several times. I care deeply about him, but when I try to kiss him, he’ll say, “I’ll make you a deal. You give me oral sex, and I’ll kiss you.” I want my hand held! I want to be cuddled! I want to introduce him to my friends! But he has refused over and over again on all three counts. Last Thursday he spent a drunken night with my close friend and co-worker, and they fooled around. But I feel if I just wait it out, he’ll be ready to be in a relationship with me. I’m afraid if I tell him, “No, I won’t get on my knees,” he’ll…