Innholdsfortegnelse for 03-Aug-17 i Drum English

Africans are behaving like sex is a new thing. Sometimes you have to watch stuff with your kids and tell them the good and bad of premature sex. Stop telling your kids that babies are bought and brought to you by the aeroplane. Sex talk could eliminate teenage pregnancy. MAMAKAMO MPHOLO MERCY Watching sex scenes with kids is so wrong. That is why they have age restrictions, it’s not about being black, it’s about respect. Even in the Western culture, no matter how much they talk about sex with their children, they never watch sex scenes with their children. DAPHNEY KHUTHADZO MUAVHI I only watch Muvhango because there are no sex scenes or kissing. MATSOBANE LEGOABE I was relieved there were no sex scenes [tonight] – yooooo – as old…

LONG before Caitlyn Jenner, there was Iko Mash. Before Caitlyn made being openly transgendered acceptable to mainstream society, the South African actress, make-up artist and socialite changed the way young transgender kids viewed themselves and made it acceptable to openly support LGBTQI issues. Iko, who died suddenly on 21 July, was a larger-than-life figure loved by her friends and peers. But behind the glamour, Iko guarded a life-threatening secret: she had secretly been battling cancer. She started chemotherapy just two weeks before her passing, her close friend and confidant Amstel Maboa tells us. He first heard about her illness at the weekend of the Metro FM awards in February, says Amstel. He’s the only surviving member of the pop group 3Sum, which shot to fame in the mid-1990s for their…

HEAR his name and you’ll think of a man who has carved a long and successful career in the music industry both in South Africa and beyond. But Steve Kekana is a lot more than a singer – he’s a person driven by a constant quest for self-improvement. And to the 58-year-old star that means studying as much as he can to secure a better life – for him and all the other musicians out there. Steve, unhappy with the royalties awarded to him for his countless hits, became an advocate to challenge the system and make sure he got what he deserved. But even that wasn’t enough – in December he will take the bar exam to cement his position as an advocate in the high court – one…

CHAKALAKA STEW PREPARATION: 10 MIN COOKING: 35-40 MIN SERVES 6 60 ml (¼ cup) cooking oil 8 chicken portions, skinned and seasoned with salt and pepper 2 large leeks, chopped 4-6 carrots, chopped 300 g green beans cut into quarters 3-4 large sweet potatoes, cut into chunks 4 mealies, cut into quarters 5 ml (1 tsp) cayenne pepper (optional) 10 ml (2 tsp) chilli flakes 15 ml (1 tbsp) chicken spice salt and pepper 500 ml (2 cups) chicken stock 1 each green, yellow and red pepper, cubed 410 g x 2 cans butter beans in tomato sauce cooked pap to serve 1 Put a No 4 or 5 three-legged cast iron pot over medium-hot coals and heat 30 ml (2 tbsp) oil. Brown the chicken portions and set aside.…

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‘Blood supply to the hip is poor, so hip injuries take a while to heal properly’ Q HE’S IGNORING HIS PROBLEM I think my partner has a low sex drive and poor self-esteem. He doesn’t admit he has a problem but he gives himself a boost by taking herbs from a traditional doctor. He’s also a heavy smoker and he drinks alcohol. I’ve been trying to talk to him but he just ignores me. I want to help him - but how? GTM, SMS A You might be making assumptions – the herbs he’s taking might be to boost something else. Try to find out exactly why he’s seeing a traditional doctor and what he’s taking the herbs for. However, nothing can happen until your partner admits he has a…

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IT’S 3.30 am, the sky is dark, the streets are quiet and everyone in the house and the neighbourhood is still in dreamland. Everyone, that is, except Veronica Mtetwa, who laces up her sneakers, zips up her hoodie and hits the road. She runs through the pain to overcome her challenges and beat poverty – one marathon at a time. The 34-year-old domestic worker from Ballito in KwaZulu-Natal is rewriting the story of her life. In between tending her boss’ house, doing laundry, cooking for the family of four and caring for the kids, she’s living her passion. Later this year she’ll head overseas to run in the world’s biggest long-distance race: the New York City Marathon. Running has changed everything, she tells us. “I didn’t know it would take…

YEP, there’s another baby on the way for CRISTIANO RONALDO and he’s smiling all the way. The soccer star confirmed his model girlfriend, GEORGINA RODRIGUEZ (22), is pregnant after she popped up on Cristiano’s (32) Instagram feed with what looked suspiciously like a baby bump. The news comes hot on the heels of his twins’ birth in June (DRUM, 20 July). MATEO and EVA, were revealed on Instagram – the proud dad shared a pic of himself cradling the babies with his eldest son, Cristiano Jnr (7). The mother of the twins hasn’t been identified and it has been widely reported that the twin babies were born via a surrogate. SOURCES: EONLINE.COM; EW.COM; DAILYMAIL.CO.UK; NEWS24.COM; NYDAILYNEWS.COM; PEOPLE.COM SPLASHNEWS/GREATSTOCK, GALLO IMAGES/GETTY IMAGES, HELEN SLOAN - © 2017 – HBO, INSTAGRAM/ CRISTIANO,…

IT’S quite scary to see how easily hackers could get into your accounts and basically take over your life just because of one password being discovered. If you’re one of those people who has the same password on more than one site, social network or app, turn to page 20 now to see why you should change them right away. Let us know if you’ve ever had an experience where someone has hacked your account (e-mail letters@drum.co.za). Another cautionary tale involving technology can be read on page 14. Texting and driving is never a good idea, so just don’t do it. No WhatsApp, notification, e-mail or Facebook alert is worth losing your life – or endangering that of others. Have a happy – and safe! – week. THE DRUM TEAM…

‘I’ve lost all my sons and I’ve asked God why this happened to me’ IT’S just before sunset and dozens of women in traditional wear line the streets armed with sticks, empty buckets and zinc cuttings. They start drumming and singing praise songs as they eagerly await the first sign of their boys returning home as men. “Ibuyile indodana (the young man is back),” they shout when the initiates appear in the fading light, guided home by the women’s ululations and the sound of ingqongqo (drumming). It’s a joyous occasion – but for one woman, the scene is unbearable. Nokubonga Khetwa (36) should be among the happy crowd welcoming home her three boys. Instead she is grieving their loss as, one by one, they succumbed to injuries they sustained after…

PLAY MUSIC Learning and playing music both stimulate the brain in important ways. They’ve been linked to improved analytical, maths and language skills, as well as fine motor skills (the coordination of small muscles, like those in the hands and fingers, with the eyes). Learning to make music has also been linked to strengthening the big bundle of nerve fibres that connect the two sides of the brain. READ AND READ SOME MORE Whether it’s reading to your kids or for yourself, this activity has been shown to improve brain function. It’s also been linked to improving things such as problem-solving, organising information, detecting patterns, understanding processes, and accurately interpreting and responding to other people’s feelings. GET REGULAR EXERCISE Numerous studies have linked brain power and physical activity. A recent…

FAMOUS LEOS BARACK OBAMA 4 AUGUST MICHAEL EALY 3 AUGUST JESSE WILLIAMS 5 AUGUST SHAKES MASHABA 6 AUGUST CHARLIZE THERON 7 AUGUST MEAGAN GOOD 8 AUGUST BENEDICT VILAKAZI 9 AUGUST RELATIONSHIP DO’S AND DON’TS Charm Leo by stroking his/her ego and making him/her feel special. Don’t get upset if your Leo partner bosses you around. Allow your Leo partner to sometimes be a drama queen/king. Lure Leo with luxurious gifts and undivided attention. Remember that your Leo lover is a playful being. Once besotted, loyal Leo is yours forever. Expect your Leo partner to take the lead and run the show. LEO 22 JUL – 22 AUG If you’re a true Leo, chances are you like to be well groomed and look the part. Since it’s a week to pay…

1 Which is the world’s biggest island? A. Madagascar B. Greenland C. Borneo D. Great Britain 2 What colour jersey is worn by the winners of each stage of the Tour de France cycle tour? A. Green B. Black C. White D. Yellow 3 Which chess piece can only move diagonally? A. Bishop B. Knight C. Queen D. King 4 When talking about which subject would you refer to loops, arches and whorls? A. Car parts B. Hairstyles C. Fingerprint patterns D. Intestines 5 Cork is harvested from the bark of which kind of tree? A. Birch B. Beech C. Elm D. Oak 6 Which Mozambican is the only woman in the world to have been first lady of two different countries? A. Graça Machel B. Michelle Obama C. Jacqueline…

BACK TO WORK FANS may be crying buckets but it’s business as usual for the cast of SHONDA RHIMES’ hit series The Fixer (Scandal in the US) who arrived on set to start work on the seventh, and sniff, final season. How’s it possible seven seasons have happened already? Shonda posted a clip of leading lady KERRY WASHINGTON and co-stars goofing around during a read-through of the first scripts, and wrote, “I love these human beings. #SCANDAL 701 table read today. I cannot WAIT to show you what we have in store . . . ” The stars of the show also shared snaps of their reunion online. ‘#Live Love Laugh... SMDH [Shaking my damn head]’ KEVIN HART KEVIN LAUGHS LAST WELL, that was the news that wasn’t! Funnyman KEVIN HART…

WHEN death strikes a family, the bereaved members shouldn’t only stand united to bury their loved ones, they also need to remain united to find closure. Maxwell and Thandi Mayisela seem to have done just that after losing their three children in a horrific school bus accident (She brings us hope, 27 July). Sticking together during this grieving time makes them see things in a positive light. They acknowledge that baby Lithabo will help them find closure as the years go by. Although the family is still nursing their wounds, they will be comforted by the tasks of raising little Lithabo. One hopes little Lithabo will grow up to live up to her name and bring back happiness to the family. PERCY MOFFAT, MAMELODI EAST THE WINNING LETTER RECEIVES R300.…

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‘There are no laws for couples living together when they break up’ Q MY WIFE DOESN’T WANT SEX Our sex life is a mess. I’m always the one who initiates sex, but half of the time she’s not in the mood or too tired. If we do it, she rushes me to finish and then pushes me away. I’ve tried to talk to her about it, but she never gives me a clear explanation why she doesn’t want to be intimate. Now I’ve found sexual pleasure with someone else. I’ve told my wife about it, but I just want to be happy and have peace in my house. FRUSTRATED, E-MAIL A The main concern is how this newfound pleasure is going to affect your marriage. What happens if things get…

GENERATIONS: THE LEGACY Sphe revels in being the hero but it doesn’t last long. Fana realises Mrekza is onto him. The Diales find a half-naked man in their kitchen. Lesedi is mortified when Mpho sees what she has in her blazer. Jack’s (VUSI KUNENE) henchman makes a gruesome discovery in an old mineshaft. Gadaffi is forced to lie to his brother. Police arrive at the Moroka house. ISIDINGO Lerato wants Sechaba to tell the rest of the family about her condition. Anja and Wendy find out the truth about Zandre. Hendrik gives Zandre an ultimatum: show up for the interview or move out. Kgothalo (KATLEGO DANKE) rejects Sechaba as a business partner. Morongwa apologizes to Gatanga. Basetsana pushes Ofentse into the next phase of their plan, but a lot of…

FRESH AIR Three soldiers are captured by an enemy in the desert and given one last request each. The first soldier asks for water, the second for beer. The last soldier asks for a car door. Their captor asks why he wants a car door and the soldier says, because when it gets hot, I can wind down the window! LAUGH A LITTLE A pirate walks into a bar with a steering wheel on his pants. The bartender says, “Hey, you’ve got a steering wheel on your pants.” The pirate says, “Arrrr, I know. It’s driving me nuts.” Two gold fish are in a tank. One looks at the other and says, “You know how to drive this thing?” A man is walking in the desert with his horse and…

UNDERAGE sex, depravity, child porn, abuse, sex tapes . . . The dossier of disgrace dogging one of R&B’smost notorious characters is so full of lurid accusations it’s hard to imagine things could get any worse. But R Kelly is making headlines again after the release of an explosive report claiming he is a master manipulator who dupes young women into doing his bidding. The 50-year-old singer has been accused of keeping a harem of women on his Chicago and Atlanta properties and brainwashing them as part of an abusive cult, news site BuzzFeed reports. The article titled Inside the Pied Piper of R&B’s Cult claims the women – all aspiring singers between 18 to 31 – are under the assumption the star is helping them boost their careers. Kelly…

STAY IN SA, SIYA KOLISI PLEADS IT’S not all about money, Stormers captain SIYA KOLISI says. He pleaded with South African players to stay in the country and help build a rugby legacy in South Africa. Speaking after his team’s 17-11 loss to the Chiefs at the Super Rugby quarter-final in Newlands, Cape Town, the emotional captain said it was tough to lose players to overseas clubs. Young players could benefit more from staying in SA, he said during a post-match press conference. “We can’t always compete against the pound or the euro. . . but we are trying to create something different here. You want players to be happy and enjoy themselves.” A number of Stormers players, including Juan de Jongh and Cheslin Kolbe, are heading off to international…