Innholdsfortegnelse for Dec-2018 i Chat It's Fate

TOGETHER FOREVER Dear Jenny Have my partner Chris and I been lovers in a past life? People think we’ve been together for years, yet it is very recent. We adore each other and cry when we have to part as he lives 106 miles away. Cheryl, 51, Whittle le Woods, Lancashire The waiting game It’s 9 November 1944 in Deopham Green, Norfolk. My name is Jane and I’m sitting in my boyfriend Donny’s Land Rover on the edge of the airfield, waiting for his B-17 to return from a bombing raid. I’m only 19, and Donny is only 21, but we’re soul mates. He came over from America about a year ago to fight with the Allies, and we’ve been together ever since. After the war, we’ll be married in…

Beat the blues by being your own therapist Sometimes everyday life can be a real struggle, and it’s not surprising that many people suffer with mild depression, anxiety and low confidence. Your mind functions like a sponge, absorbing all those negative emotions – that parking ticket, that scolding from your boss or argument with your spouse - then drip-feeding them back to you over time. This can make you feel out-of-control and generally overwhelmed. Counselling is a great way to empty the ‘mind sponge’ and refill it with positive thoughts instead, but NHS waiting lists are long and private treatment can be expensive. In the meantime, this class will help you to help yourself using some basic psychotherapy know-how. Take this class to • Discover your mental programming • Increase psychological self-awareness…

Walking round Wymering Manor in Portsmouth, my feet clattering on the wooden floorboards, I grew more and more uneasy. I felt like I’d visited the place before – but I had the strangest feeling that the house didn’t want me there. ‘Don’t be silly,’ I scolded myself. ‘It’s just your imagination playing tricks on you.’ It was 2016, and I was on a tour of the Grade II-listed building. Unused since 2006, it had fallen into disrepair. Although a housing association had bought it and was in the process of restoring it to its former glory, it had a shabby, melancholic air. Most of the current building was constructed in the 16th century, but parts of it are much older, dating back to Roman and Mediaeval times. It’s a piece…

This has been a year of highs and lows for me, from my eldest son’s wedding in June, to the loss of my brother in August to a brain tumour. Nick was just 53, and a nicer guy you couldn’t hope to meet. He was a devoted husband and dad, and incredibly generous with his time and expertise on everything technology-related. I know, beyond any doubt, that this Christmas he will be there with the angels watching over his family. The evening before the funeral, I was stood in our back garden taking in the washing, thinking about him and asking the angels to show me a sign that he was with them. As I gathered in the pegs off the line, I looked up at the sky - and…

The Full Moon in Cancer this month takes place on 22 December, the day after the winter solstice. That’s the day we all turn the corner. The winter solstice marks the shortest day of the year in the northern hemisphere so use it as a turning point – welcome new light into your life ahead of the new year. Since, for many, Christmas can be fraught with family issues, and since the December Full Moon will be in the family-oriented sign of Cancer, use the energies to ‘bring light’ into your family.…

PEACE ON EARTH Compared to recent months – and indeed next month – December may seem relatively quiet and peaceful. That’s not to say nothing is happening. Venus and Mercury move into Scorpio. Mercury, planet of communication, is on a retrograde hurtle, so expect lost keys, missed texts and pocket dialling – the struggle is real, folks! But take heart because this pint-sized planet is moving forward again from the 6th. The New Moon is in Sagittarius on the 7th, meaning fun times ahead for Saggies and anyone with a sense of adventure! The Full Moon takes place in family-focused Cancer on the 22nd – perfect timing for a harmonious Crimbo. Tuck in to your turkey and roasties – because things are going to start getting more interesting in January!…

We’ve teamed up with Shaken Udder to bring you some utterly delicious homemade Christmas treats – perfect to spoil your guests with, or just to spoil yourself! SALTED CARAMEL BREAD & BUTTER PUDDING Serve this on Christmas Eve, or as an alternative to the traditional Christmas pudding – your guests will love you for it! Ingredients • 25g butter, plus extra for greasing • 8 thin slices bread • 50g chocolate chips • 350ml Shaken Udder Salted Caramel Milkshake • 50ml double cream • 2 free-range eggs • 25g granulated sugar Method 1. Grease 6 individual ramekins. 2. Cut the crusts off the bread and spread each slice with butter on one side then cut into 2cm squares. 3. Arrange a layer of bread, buttered-side up, in the bottom of…

They say some of the best gifts in life come badly wrapped, and that was certainly the case when I opened my front door one day. ‘Mum, this is Melvin,’ said my son Rodger, who was standing on the doorstep. The man with him was quite a sight. He was wearing tracksuit bottoms and a thin jacket – no good for keeping out the Irish weather! His cheeks were painfully thin and he looked like he’d not seen a bath, or eaten a decent meal, in weeks. But as I looked at him, something told me he’d been sent to us for a reason. I could feel that our souls were connected and I wasn’t about to turn him away from my door. ‘Pleased to meet you,’ he muttered. Despite…

Stars IN THE SKY Judy Garland Judy was always a dancer and singer and nothing has changed - she’s still filling the air with music and song. Her pathway was scarred with upset and turmoil and this took its toll on her as she struggled to trust anyone around her, especially in love, but she found love at the end of her days with her family and children. She felt the loss of a partner or lover greatly in her life and they are now back together. She’s following that yellow brick road to her final place of happiness. PSYCHIC SNAPSHOT This photo of the Brown Lady of Raynham, taken at Raynham Hall in Norfolk, has fascinated and amazed people for many years. She’s said to be the ghost of…

Milking it As mindful eating grows ever more popular, people are switching from cow’s milk to dairy-free alternatives such as oat or almond milk. The more eco-friendly option is oat milk, as almonds require six times the amount of water to grow as oats do. But almond milk contains half the calories of oat milk. So when you’re deciding which to choose, it comes down to taste! Treatment of the month: Face gym None of us like getting wrinkles – but if you’re freaked out by the idea of botox or going under the knife, is there any choice but to grow old gracefully? Inge Theron, founder of facegym.com, says that you can achieve the same effect with exercise. ‘I realised that to truly achieve a natural face lift one…

Canny crystal Dear Katie, What will help me to build a loving relationship with my adopted grandchildren? Ceri, 63, Colwyn Bay Dear Ceri Rose quartz can support emotional healing and encourage love to blossom. Unakite helps to promote a sense of unity and peace, so have it around your own home and give it as gifts to your family to help bring a happy resolution to this situation. HAVE YOUR COLOURS INTERPRETED Dear Katie This year has been awful and I am in despair about everything. When will things turn around for me? My three favourite colours are yellow, white and purple. Monica, 70, Swindon Dear Monica Yellow can help you to be analytical about your situation, but can also cause anxiety as it has a high vibration. Wear green…

All around me were the screams of dying men, the snapping of wooden pikes, the dull thud of steel on flesh, as my soldiers fought against enemy knights on chargers. Then the scene faded. I was back with my friends, playing in the grounds of derelict housing blocks in Coatbridge, North Lanarkshire. Since the age of three, I’d had strange visions of myself commanding men in a Medieval battle. ‘I was the leader of Scotland,’ I’d tell my mum and dad. They humoured me. But although I was only young, I knew I was right. Trying to understand In January 1965, I was 10 years old. I was watching the funeral of the former prime minister Winston Churchill on TV when the commentator mentioned Winston Churchill’s son, Randolph. ‘Randolph’s our…

Thinking things through Dear Michelle I’m self-employed and work is becoming harder to find. I’ve been offered a job by someone I know, but it’ll mean moving from Southampton to Edinburgh. Should I uproot my family and go? Cassie, 46, Southampton Dear Cassie I am using the Enchanted Map Oracle by Colette Baron-Reid for intuition. The first card encourages you to take some time out to look at everything you have in your life right now. It’s important to take your time and think carefully, as what you consider to be humdrum now could seem precious in the future. Listen with an open heart to those closest to you - they need to be fully behind you or there’ll be trouble ahead. You also need to be sure that you’re…

This month The December New Moon is in Sagittarius on 7 December at 2.20am. So make your New Moon wishes as soon as you wake up! The New Moon in Sagittarius is a great time to get some perspective on what you have learned this year. Write a gratitude list, including all the things for which you’re most grateful. Think about your biggest issues from the year and ask the Universe: What was I meant to learn in 2018? Then close or ‘blur’ your eyes and use your index finger to choose card 1, 2 or 3. Card 1: Unleash your adventurous side. Take risks and be daring! The message for 2018 for you was about having the courage to strike out and chase your goals. In this politically correct,…

NOT ALRIGHT ON THE NIGHT Dear Roi I’m a musician and I had a dream where I was playing a big concert and all my musical equipment started going wrong! It was collapsing, or falling over, or not doing what it was supposed to be doing when I played it. It was awful, really terrifying. What does it mean? Hatchii Watanabe, 42, Tokyo Dear Hatchii Well, it’s not hard to work out what might be going on in your subconscious, is it? While this could be a direct representation of your understandable fear of things going wrong when you’re on stage, it’s also about your fear of failing more generally, too. Fingers crossed that your equipment both on- and off-stage holds up admirably for you! Culture corner The Artist’s Dream…

Domestic bliss Picking up the phone, I rang the estate agent. ‘I’ll be putting in an offer,’ I said. I’d left London a year earlier and was living in a rented property. I’m an angelic reiki healer and tarot card reader and I was craving peace and quiet. I wanted to live by the sea and the house I wanted was just three miles from the coast - perfect! My offer was accepted, but then the owners just disappeared! They didn’t pick up the phone to the estate agent or allow me to get a survey. There was no information at all and everything ground to a halt Waiting game After three months of waiting I was at the end of my tether. There was nothing else available to buy.…

SIGN OF THE MONTH The Sag nature Happy-go-lucky, big-hearted and broad-minded – you’re a good mate to have. You love adventure and every day is a journey of discovery for you. Unsurprisingly, you adore travel and learning about new cultures and new views, A natural extrovert with a fab sense of humour, you’re not afraid of change and you go after life and goals with gusto. You can’t bear being pinned down and you loath narrow-minded people. Some people may find you a bit outrageous or over the top – you may have to curb your honest and outspoken nature at times. Your love life You’re as adventurous and lusty between the sheets as you are in life! Your lovers can expect plenty of laughter and playful experimentation. The downside?…

Careering down a narrow road in rural Bulgaria, swerving to avoid potholes, we looked out at the wild, rugged Rhodope Mountains with a growing sense of unease. My friend Sabina and I had booked a week-long trip to travel across Bulgaria by car, exploring the capital of Bulgaria, Sofia, and Plovdiv, the second biggest city in the country. But here we were now, in the middle of nowhere, on a treacherously narrow mountain road with a sheer drop down one side, with just a paper map, written in the Bulgarian Cyrillic alphabet, to guide us. ‘Is it just me, or do you feel a bit…scared?’ I gulped to Sabina. And things were about to get much darker. You see, we were looking for the gateway to Hell! Legend says Orpheus…

This November, Jupiter, planet of good fortune, moves into the sign he rules, Sagittarius. He’ll stay there throughout December, meaning his influence during the festive season will be especially powerful. It looks like we’re all in for a very merry Christmas – but can you have too much of a good thing? Let’s take a look at how each of us can make the most of the gifts Jupiter brings…. ARIES A dventure, excitement, new starts and ideas to explore – Jupiter has really got you powered up! All your Fire sign get-up-and-go comes to the fore, bringing with it a sense of optimism. TREASURE IT: Grab every opportunity to do something you’ve never done before and interact with different beliefs and cultures. Travel as much as you can. TRASH…

YOUR TOP PIC Lady in waiting I was walking through town recently when I felt a cold chill run down my back and then I smelt smoke. Nothing was on fire! When there are spirits present, I usually smell a smoky smell. I turned round, looked up and there staring down at me was this ghostly figure. I rummaged through my handbag quickly for my phone so that I could take a picture before it disappeared. I managed to capture this spirit on my phone. I later found out that the picture I took was the ‘Lady in Grey’ who’d been present in that building for many, many years. Wendy Lamb, Ipswich, Suffolk Seeds of happiness Although most of us love Christmas, for other people, the holiday season can be…

On 21 March 2017, John and Melvin were both admitted to Belfast City Hospital. Melvin was wheeled down to theatre first to have his kidney removed, and then later the same day, John was taken into surgery for the kidney transplant. Once again, I was in full mother hen mode, dashing between their two bedsides. When Melvin came round, he was up and about. All those years on the streets had certainly made him tough. And by the time John woke up, he grinned up at me and said, ‘Time for me to go home’. Melvin was sent home later that day, and John was kept in for a few days before being discharged. Special plan Meanwhile, Dianne and I had come up with a plan, after spotting Melvin’s date…

Celebrity Past life Kim Woodburn was Danish royalty in a past life but rose to fame for being a cleaner in this one. This has been hard for her to take! She’ll never be happy unless she has regression and sorts out her past life from this one! Meditation mandalas Do you have trouble ‘switching off’ in order to meditate? Jenny digitally paints channelled meditation mandalas specifically for you. Stare into the image and take flight into a spiritual connection with your guides. GOT A QUESTION FOR JENNY? EMAIL ITSFATE@SWNS.COM  OR VISIT JENNYSMEDLEY.CO.UK…

Dear Barrie I lost my beloved dad in January 2015. I miss him every single day and would love to know that he is OK. My life has changed drastically since he passed and I would love to know that he is still with us. He was a very special man who made a big impression on all who met him. Suzanne Hymers, St Albans Dear Suzanne Dad speaks to me about not being able to support you. He talks about a move or change around Feb/March that he wants you to be aware of. He was a man who certainly wanted to be part of his family and was always there for you all. He mentions about David, Steve and Amy or Emilie. He points out a birthday in…

Dear Katie I’m having a great time with my new partner but want to know where it’s going. Will this romance eventually lead to marriage? Sharon, 52, Powick, Worcestershire Dear Sharon There are two key colours within your aura: pink and silver. You’re extremely loving and affectionate as a person, but you can also be very sensitive about other people and how they treat you. You’re in the right place to welcome great abundance into your life, and this includes love. Trust yourself and your partner, and enjoy the journey - good things are on the way!…

The Battle of Bannockburn took place on 23 and 24 June 1314 and was a major victory for the Scots in the First War of Scottish independence. Edward II assembled a force to free Stirling Castle, which was under siege by the Scottish army. The English army was overcome by the Scots force, led by Robert the Bruce. Thousands were killed when they tried to escape. Thomas Randolph commanded one of the divisions of the Scottish infantry. He was regent of Scotland before his death in July 1332.…

Wandering round the dark, dank and notoriously haunted Niddry Street Vaults in Edinburgh late one night in 2008, it wasn’t ghosts that were on my mind. ‘I can’t wait to get home and have a cup of tea,’ I thought. You see, I’m a tour guide for ghost tour company Auld Reekie Tours, which holds regular ghost tours in the Vaults, a series of stone chambers built under the city’s South Bridge. Back in the 1800s, the Vaults housed slum dwellings where violence and murders were rife. Since then, numerous chilling reports of paranormal activity have led to the Vaults gaining a reputation for being one of the most haunted places in the UK. Strangely, though, I always felt safe and at home there. Well – most of the time!…

Every month, I draw a card for all of the four astrological elements. Think of it as this month’s advice for you from the heavens. FIRE (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius). A new start is coming! The new year’s coming - but this card is also a sign that 2019 really is going to be a big restart for you. Embrace it! EARTH (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn). What do you need to release? December is ideal for letting go, so do that. Write a list of all who hurt you in 2018, forgive them and burn the list. AIR (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius). Bring love into the situation. Whatever’s upsetting you, this card recommends you bring love into it to clear it. Feel the love! WATER (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces). Hold your vision. If you’re…

Whether it’s down your local cafe, or eating at a fast food place or a fancy restaurant, we all enjoy a meal out once in a while. But what does it mean if we dream about doing so? Let’s take a look at the menu… CHEF If you’re in charge of the kitchen in your dream world, then you know just what you need to do and exactly how to do it. Your creative powers are coming to the fore, and success is within your grasp. CUTLERY This shows that you have the right tools for a particular job – or the innate ability to deal with a particular situation. SOFT DRINKS These symbolise a need for more emotional support, or perhaps an easing of the flow of good things…

21 MARCH - 20 APRIL Aries Your love life We all need a bit of craziness in our romantic lives – it’s all going on around the 1st! Partners can’t help but be intrigued. To get to the bottom of recent explosive events, be prepared to dig deep. Long and meaningful conversations – even consulting a professional relationship counsellor - will be helpful this month. Communications will definitely improve after the first week. Mid-month, you may even get a taste of the stability that is beginning to look positively exotic! Life and laughs Making plans about taking off should be the priority for you. After the 12th, enjoyable plans start to fall into place. However, what occurs on the 22nd diverts your attention away from the seasonal festivities. Matters close…

RIDDLE’S REMEDIES Dear Kirsten My mother-in-law doesn’t like me, and she’s coming to stay this Christmas! Is there anything I can do to make her stay enjoyable for both of us? Alex, 43, Oxford Dear Alex Smooth things over and melt her heart with a little ice magic. Write her name on a piece of paper, then draw a heart shape around it. Place in a dish, then pop an ice cube on top. Leave the dish by the fire or near a radiator until all the ice has melted. To finish remove the paper, hold in both hands and say, ‘Soft and open is your heart, let us make a fresh start.’ Goddess report Coventina is the Celtic goddess of springs, wells and rivers. Also known as the ‘goddess…

Taking my headphones off, I slumped down in my chair, exhausted. I had just finished another long, gruelling 12-hour day as a television producer for a cable channel. I loved my job but the hours were punishing. I left Kent at 6am, travelled to the London studios and didn’t get home again until 9pm. Day after day, it was a case of eat, sleep, work, repeat. I’d divorced my husband two years earlier, and although I was incredibly busy, sometimes my life felt a bit…empty. I’d been practicing reiki for the past 10 years to help me relax. I enjoyed it but I was still pretty sceptical about all things spiritual. Then, in September 2006, out of sheer curiosity, I went on a one-day angel course where I learnt how…

STAN THE MAN Dear Jackie My horse Stan is 15 years old. I’m struggling to keep him physically comfortable, although he has regular physiotherapy treatments. Can you help? Jenny, Sheffield Dear Jenny Stan tells me he is a kind horse and would look after you, and himself. He can be cheeky but he also gives you horse kisses! He gives me the feeling of being very tight in his back legs which causes him to put the ‘handbrake’ on when you’re riding downhill. Does he sometimes stand oddly, as if he’s opening up his back to make himself more comfortable? He shows me his physical build and it seems his back end is higher than it should be. This means he’s going to find it harder to work in the…